My Grandson is 2 years old and I have never watched him alone in my home or theirs. What should I do? How do I handle it?
First , if you can -Ask them why. Or offer to watch the child while they have a night out.
Are they new parents? Do you smoke, drink or eat junk food? Are you an enabler? Elderly, frail? Do you drive badly? Do you bring you boyfriends over? Does your dog have fleas?
I would simply ask to talk with them about the situation, he is your grandson.
One of the parents is your son or daughter. Two years is too long.
Without knowing your full situation it is difficult to answer this question. However when my children were very small I did not like to ask their Grandparents to take care of them as I felt that they were very busy and that their Grandparents should be able to come and visit and enjoy playing with them without any pressure. I am sure your family have your best interests at heart. One thing that did really help me though was when my mother in law offered to come grocery shopping with me. That way I got the pleasure of my child's company and because I had help we got through the chore without any tantrums! Hope this helps
It's so weird that you asked this.
My best friend pretty much lost her mind when she had her first child. She has dreamed up her own "healthy parenting style" which means:
* Baby NEVER gets to cry. If baby cries, you pick him up
* Baby NEVER is allowed to cry to sleep. If he cries in the crib...even for a minute...go pick him up. You gotta "hush" him to sleep and slip him into the bed and stuff.
She has a whole bunch of other crazy things like that. She doesn't hardly go anywhere because she always has to be around the kid and she's always worn out because of how she approaches parenting.
In regards to your issue...she told her mother that if she ever found out that the baby was allowed to cry to sleep when left over there...she would NEVER be allowed to watch the kid again.
All that to say that sometimes, our kids can go crazy when they have their first child. Hard to admit...but it's the truth. I'm guessing the solution would be to have a second kid come along to bring some perspective to the situation, induce a little extra stress, and force someone to reach out to family for a bit of help.
Like someone else said, it is hard to answer this without knowing all sides of the story. I've never left my children with my mother-in-law and there are specific reasons for this that involves keeping my children safe.
I would talk to your children and ask them if there is a reason they don't feel comfortable having you watch their children. If they say yes, then ask them what steps you would need to take to make them feel comfortable.
Some parents just don't like to leave their children alone with anyone. It might not be you, but I would definitely ask.
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