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Character shaped at home

  1. silverstararrow profile image85
    silverstararrowposted 4 years ago

    Something that I've heard quite often from non-parents and parents alike is- how we are what we are because of the values taught at home. Whatever we do in life, reflects back on our upbringing. Is the environment we grow up in really such a deciding factor when it comes to our character? Is our person primarily defined by our childhood?

    1. lobobrandon profile image81
      lobobrandonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Actually what you become comes from the company you keep when you're younger at school. I feel the people who think otherwise are ignorant. My point of view though.

      1. Pearldiver profile image87
        Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Perhaps by that standard then, I am therefore ignorant sad

        I had no company at school during my 'informative years' as I lived on a island and 'learned' from the a radio transmission from a correspondence teacher.  There was no internet or a phone... I had a Golliwog for a friend and he taught me how to swear in 5 languages... smile  Shall I demonstrate that? tongue

        1. lobobrandon profile image81
          lobobrandonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          It's up to you to decide - you could get banned big_smile

          I meant people who go to school with other students smile Because you spend more time at school and with friends than with parents. As most parents return home late after work.

          1. Pearldiver profile image87
            Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

            I don't think I've been banned for ignorance yet yikes

            You didn't state the 'other students' bit in your original statement! As for parents, on most days the seas were far too rough for my parents to row their boat home, it was 35 miles to the mainland and their boat was only 7 feet long.  So my mother and father could only row home 3 legged cattle or sheep, because the extra foot would have sunk their boat! big_smile  And my mother refused to get legless - do you know how dangerous it is to drink and row in high seas with a 3 legged sheep and a husband holding the tiller? sad

            1. lobobrandon profile image81
              lobobrandonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

              I was talking about getting banned for swearing smile

              1. Pearldiver profile image87
                Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                I was merely attempting to answer the OP's question "Is our person primarily defined by our childhood?"

                Clearly we are indeed (at least personality-wise) formed in our childhood. I learned 5 languages... but due to flaws within my personality and lifestyle, only the swear words had any relevance! big_smile roll

                1. lobobrandon profile image81
                  lobobrandonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                  Haha cool You surely deserve a pizza for that lol

                2. WriteAngled profile image91
                  WriteAngledposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                  Well then you must be a linguistic genius PD. Being able to curse in a natural manner in a foreign language is a sign that you truly master that language! smile

                  1. Pearldiver profile image87
                    Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                    WoW... thanks Angelic One smile

                    But I fear genius status may well desert me on that fine point you make! smile

                    Sadly, no one takes poor Enid seriously anymore.. sad 
                    So in modern days of political correctness etc. I'm afraid that beautiful Golliwog words like: "Kellimizoot!" are lost now to boring outbursts like ".... Off!"  sad

                    How sad... but thank you for making a 6 year old's day!  big_smile

                    @Lobo... cheers the pizza needs to be Large.. okay? tongue

            2. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
              SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago in reply to this

              ...3 legged sheep, eh/yeah?...lol

              1. Pearldiver profile image87
                Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                YeeeHaHahaha... FINALLY..

                Someone has worked out that 2 adults + a 4 legged sheep = 8 feet

                But they only had a 7 foot boat...

                So they only took 3 legged animals and that way the load in the boat was okay and they didn't risk sinking! smile

                See... Character is influenced by one's home environment! tongue

                And 3 legged sheep have a purpose in life!

                1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
                  SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                  baaaaaaat...where were you?....good to run into you PD! big_smile...it's been a while...

                  1. Pearldiver profile image87
                    Pearldiverposted 4 years ago in reply to this

                    Really Busy... and I've only had time to write 1 hub this month... so much BS to deal with in Bumble Town.. the town was infested with rats and dung beetles! yikes

      2. jeanihess profile image61
        jeanihessposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        @lobobrandon- I am ignorant too by your standards:) Do the pre-birth to schooling age not count in development? Health before pregnancy, during pregnancy and during early motherhood affect the development of children. Psychology states that the physical precedes. To the extent that the physical develops and is healthy, the rest of the person will develop and be shaped in conjunction with other factors. The choices that the child will make at school, under favourable circumstances, will be influenced by what has gone before and will not only be affected by school experiences and exposures. Anyway, this is only part of my rather ignorant opinion:)

    2. jeanihess profile image61
      jeanihessposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      smile Ha ha:) Parents and carers do not want to accept responsibility for how the home environment shape children? This is easily a critical reason why so many youths seem to be without guidance and without the core values and principals that would help them make those decisions that would shape them more positively. We can not control the external and cyber environments that our children negotiate. we can however provide them with maps and directions so that they at least would make informed decisions. In the days of DIckens children were seen as miniature adults and found themselves in employment and workhouses with adult responsibilities. It seems that again today, in this modern world, children are imbued with adult characteristics and parents and carers shrug their shoulders and say: " They wanted to do that; they chose!" This of a 4yr old or so who was allowed to do some anti-social thing instead of being diverted to something positive. One sees children allowed to roam in shops touching everything on the shelves, moving things around and even breaking stuff, while the parents or adults companions are chatting, shopping and ignoring the children. One sees how little children and youth are allowed to simply touch and use the private property of other people in the home and elsewhere as if they are not subject to the basic rules of respect for the property of other people and privacy. They use people's cellphones and / or computers without permission. In pursuit of immediate gratification they will take things without permission and the owners may well be blamed for leaving these items in accessible places! Somewhere adults, parents and child carers have lost the plot and abdicated the basic functions of parenting.

    3. Precious Pearl profile image82
      Precious Pearlposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      I think that it is combination of our home environment, the mentors we choose and our peers that help shape the person that we become.  Does that mean that a person won't or can't choose to change?  No, we can change our character if that is what we choose to do ... we don't have to be defined by our past but we can learn, grow and change who we choose to be because of it.  A person raised in an alcoholic, verbally abusive home can heal choosing not to be a product of their past or they can choose to emulate it causing the same hurt to those with whom they are in relationship.

  2. mts1098 profile image84
    mts1098posted 4 years ago

    I think the core values and the lessons of being adult should absolutely come from home...cheers

  3. wildove5 profile image61
    wildove5posted 4 years ago

    Absolutely not!  My friend and I have had this conversation often. She has three children, raised the same, yet one seems as though he was raised in a different family.  I have one and I swear she was abducted by aliens or the like, she once had manners, morales, kindness, and apathy, although it appears she has been raised by a pack of wolves near a trailer park or then again abducted by alians! Go figure!  Anyway's,  I wonder, does a serial killers parents teach that at home?

    1. lobobrandon profile image81
      lobobrandonposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Finally someone with the same views smile

 
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