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Starting Conversation With Attractive Women

  1. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    I am curious:  how do you guys start a conversation with women you do not know and are strongly attracted to?   What words, manipulation, strategy etc. do you employ in order to "take things to the next level?"

    1. Paraglider profile image90
      Paragliderposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Not claiming to be any kind of expert, but I'd suggest - Never ask questions. Just comment on whatever's there, be it the sun, a tree, the bar, the coffee. Take time. And don't think about 'manipulation, strategy, etc' or it will show in your eyes. Relax smile

      1. compu-smart profile image81
        compu-smartposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Well said wink

      2. VioletSun profile image71
        VioletSunposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Came back to read this thread, and this is by far the best answer. It shows depth and intelligence, qualities many of us ladies like in men. smile  A relationship that starts with manipulation, be it from a man or woman, is not a good idea as it sabotages the potential of a genuine friendship from developing-it will simply become an entanglement that fulfills no one. So guys, if you want to meet women, listen to Paraglider.  cool

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        panah100posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Somewhat agree here. While there are men who can use manipulation effectively, I don't really recommend it. And it's harder than it looks anyway. Self confidence is the No. 1 solution to all this.

  2. Shalini Kagal profile image82
    Shalini Kagalposted 8 years ago

    So speaketh the voice of experience?? tongue
    Another hub coming? big_smile

    1. Paraglider profile image90
      Paragliderposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      No chance - you saw my disclaimer? 'not claiming to be any kind of expert'. But Nickny clearly has the answers. Makes you wonder why he asked the question wink

  3. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    The above method is applicable to meeting women in urban settings.

  4. Shivaan profile image61
    Shivaanposted 8 years ago

    Its simple,jus don show her u r intrested in her.Jus talk to her normal.For a start a normal smile will do.See what reactions u get from her.from ter u will know how to commence.its simple ya.

    1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Mr.Shivaan @ Surya, let that "women's thread to women".  Please come out and look for some valuable threads, affecting our country, our culture..etc.

  5. Shalini Kagal profile image82
    Shalini Kagalposted 8 years ago

    Nickny - thanks for that I-ask-the-question and I-give-you-the-answer session - wow - what a 'strategem!!!

    Paraglider - hope springs eternal - here was I hoping for yet another great 'How To' hub from you big_smile

    1. dingdong profile image60
      dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Looks like smart spamming(or self-promotion) tongue

      1. Nickny79 profile image89
        Nickny79posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Heaven forbide we self promote!  But publishing 50 hubs a day on NONESENSE is ok and not self-promotion....

        My hub has substance and, incidentally, you'd fall for my pickup strategem!

        1. weblog profile image60
          weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Is that the take things to the next level?

          lol

      2. juggalo 4 eva profile image61
        juggalo 4 evaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Hey DingDong youre hot!

        1. dingdong profile image60
          dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Thanks smile

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        Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Speaking of self promotion...would any of you ladies here like to meet for a drink?

        1. Nickny79 profile image89
          Nickny79posted 8 years ago in reply to this

          haha

  6. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    It's the New York lawyer in me.   wink

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Um, didn't that Paul Janka guy in New York already corner the market on the Casanova bit?

    Read Gawker?  Naw, lawyer...

  8. dingdong profile image60
    dingdongposted 8 years ago

    Lolz

    Have you ever noticed this before posting in HP forums?



    I was talking about promotional/spammy forum posts and it was NOT about hubs.

    By the way, what is nonesense? tongue

    1. Misha profile image75
      Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I am dying to know this, too smile
      As well as to learn at last who exactly is alphabetically challenged? lol

    2. juggalo 4 eva profile image61
      juggalo 4 evaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I agree what  is nonesense?

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    We have TROLLS among us, oh! my!

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Care to say what made you think so?

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Not you!  smile

    Lulz.  One example.

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I don't see any trolling(in this thread), but kind of self-promotion wink

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    It is harmless--kinda funny--I agree...

  12. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    Yes, I'm unabashedly self-promotional.

    1. dingdong profile image60
      dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Your post with link to your hub is not there now, did you see?

      lol

  13. Shalini Kagal profile image82
    Shalini Kagalposted 8 years ago

    Nickny - you're honest!
    And I don't suppose I could think of Central Park again without thinking 'strategem' big_smile

  14. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    I don't care.  That hub--which actually has substance--gets enough traffic on its own merits.  So far it's gotten 300 hits in scarcely 24 hours.  Strategem for Meeting Attractive Women is a success.

    God bless the USA.

    1. dingdong profile image60
      dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I think that is how you can twist it now. You got disturbed, you turned defensive when I was pointing to your forum post that was self-promotional, you are not ready to accept it despite the fact that it's been deleted for the same reason.

      I was not talking about your content or it's quality or traffic smile

  15. dingdong profile image60
    dingdongposted 8 years ago

    lol

    Congrats tongue

  16. Milla Mahno profile image61
    Milla Mahnoposted 8 years ago

    Some "smart" people never learn big_smile

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Yeah!  nick's techniques for impressing women must be better in person than on internet forums!  smile  But, hey, look at his score after only a couple weeks.  He must be driving some traffic.

  18. Milla Mahno profile image61
    Milla Mahnoposted 8 years ago

    I think a few unique hubs will do it. But I am not sure, I am still a newbie here. I guess I'll ask Misha on this smile

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      There are so many things about hubscore and author score. smile

  19. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    My hub is specifically targeted to men who want to attract women under the age of 30.

    wink

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Anyway, spamming the forum with promotional posts is never a wise idea. tongue

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Yeah, ALL girls go for mop-heads when under the age of 30.  It's a strategem for us to practice on them before we go on to real men.  Lol.  Sorry!  wink

    1. dingdong profile image60
      dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      hehe lol

  21. waynet profile image48
    waynetposted 8 years ago

    When around the woman I pull down pants and do a dance, there is no need for words only action as I am an action man when it comes to this type of thing. I always get the woman...then I wake up and er go to work!

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Funny lol

  22. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    I recently published a hub critiquing other hubs that treat of dating and seduction topics.  However, I do advise those who are easily offended--there appears to be many such ones on the forum--to ignore my offer.  wink

    1. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      You are just fine as you haven't posted the link once again tongue

  23. Nickny79 profile image89
    Nickny79posted 8 years ago

    Here is an excellent pub (not written by me for a change) about body langauge.  The content is quite good.   

    http://hubpages.com/_RVW/hub/Understand … y_Language

  24. profile image0
    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Haha, Poppa!

    Web-  Actually, a hubber is rewarded a little monetarily for referring others to another hubber's article... so! 

    And 'dating' is all about psychology and interaction, so it wouldn't surprise me that reading 'the other side's' take would be beneficial (it IS a good overview of body language in general).  Thing is, this female hub author has a girlfriend, lol!  So! 

    Anyway, 'dating' sucks--I haven't done it since I found out it doesn't work--and I only go after guys with wide-open grins...... smile  I'm just being amused here--time to get back to work writing!

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      Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I take that as a No then?

      1. dingdong profile image60
        dingdongposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        lol

        I think so wink

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          Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          I think so??? Soooo...is that a yes for you?

    2. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I know about referrals, but did not know that this time Nickny was referring to other hubber's article smile

  25. Benson Yeung profile image80
    Benson Yeungposted 8 years ago

    Concentrate on her beauty.
    Stay away from too much booze.
    Be yourself but act like Paul Newman.
    The rest will be history.

    1. henrytom profile image57
      henrytomposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I think a woman's physical beauty is not enough. What about her inner beauty?

  26. profile image0
    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Poppa-
    You're funny!  Yeah, I gotta guy with a great grin. smile

    Benson-
    Good advice!  Especially the Paul Newman 'cool' part, smile

  27. knolyourself profile image62
    knolyourselfposted 8 years ago

    "Mr.Shivaan @ Surya, let that "women's thread to women".  Please come out and look for some valuable threads, affecting our country, our culture..etc."
    Mr. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA, why don't you let people have something to say, without always demanding everything conform to your pariclar interests.

    1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      It was my request only.  It is upto them to decide.

      1. profile image61
        fun2hubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        LOL lol

  28. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago

    The title of the hub itself is depicting women in bad light.  Why not we consider history making women like Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Chandrika Kumaratunga, Hillary Clinton and the present German President?  Many women have contributed enormously for humanity.   Only a few made history on their charming personality like Mumtaj (Taj Mahal, India).  In ancient history also, there were Cleopatra of Egypt, Razia Begum of India, Queen Victoria of England, and so many who made history by serving humanity.  Why not we see the better side of women?

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      Leta Sposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      You know...as I said to someone else earlier, if you write it in a hub, they will come to read it.

      I don't think this thread puts women in a bad light.  It puts men in a bad light...  But if you really want to look at it in depth, loneliness and dissatisfaction and the inability of people to connect with each other is part of the human condition.

      But mainly, this is just people having fun...

      1. Nicholas Moccia profile image84
        Nicholas Mocciaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Ditto, I agree.  wink

      2. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
        VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Three months before, I entered HP and tried to post new hubs.  But domestic compulsions made me stay away for a month; meanwhile, my hubs were flagged substandard...
        When enquired, it was stated that my English was not understandable...  I never wrote anything in my hubs.. how can it be?  So, I lost patience and gave up the idea of creating a new topic.   
        I did not enter this HP with financial expectations.  I wanted to share ideas with others.  Many have misunderstandings about my India... that I wanted to set right. 
        Madam, really this thread puts men in bad light...
        Having fun is only a small part of one's life.  There are greater things in life.  Why not we spend time on those things?

        1. profile image0
          Leta Sposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          I understand.  I guess I didn't know that information about how your hubs were flagged.  (No organization is perfect, smile, they flagged one of mine for not being original-and I had written it.)

          And this thread was simply a silly thread to begin with--most were not taking it seriously.

          There are definitely broader, deeper and greater things in life.  Maybe you should phrase a question on the forum?  It seems like the writers from India do indeed want to have a dialogue with you.  smile

        2. Marisa Wright profile image93
          Marisa Wrightposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Venugopal, if you did not write anything in your Hubs, of course they were flagged as substandard.   HubPages is about writing informative articles.  If you create a Hub with only a few words, it will automatically be flagged as substandard.  Does that help you understand?

          1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
            VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            Does 'not writing anything' mean substandard?  I would have been satisfied if they were flagged as "discontinued".   I think substandard means poor in language, contents, grammar, etc.  Barring human errors, I never fail to present a good English.  My colleagues used to call me "dictionary" when I was in service. 
            I had to go offline for over a month due to failure of my computer and participation of a North Indian tour. So, I had to discontinue the hubs... but did not expect that they will be flagged for another reason!  Everything is for good.!..

            1. weblog profile image60
              weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this
              1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
                VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                I have already read these things when I joined HP. I had to take a break for a month for reasons I explained somewhere.  But I did not expect what it would mean by taking a break before adding something to the hubs.  But I treat HP as a forum for sharing views only.

                1. weblog profile image60
                  weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  I didn't know that you already have read, but I gave the link to faq section as you seemed to have no clear idea about what-is-substandard here. Well, it's all upto you now smile

                  1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
                    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                    The word substandard certainly does not mean discontinuance.  It is below the standard.
                    However, I do not take it seriously.  My mistake of not providing stuff within a reasonable time cannot be denied.  I regret it. 

                    A request to HP:  Create another reason for flagging hubs: Discontinued;  Not providing enough stuff.

    2. weblog profile image60
      weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Mr.Venu -

      See how people are encouraging you to write a hub, and you may remember I wanted the same. So, think about it smile

      1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
        VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Ms.web, please suggest a few topics.

        1. weblog profile image60
          weblogposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          It's upto you, anyway if suggestion is needed - I'd like to see you write a hub about India, whatever you like to smile

  29. Shake The Tree profile image61
    Shake The Treeposted 8 years ago

    A womans beauty and boobs can be quite a distraction for men.

    The more testotorone a man as - then the more attracted he his to her, and whilst he's looking at her he can feel an erection arousal and he can listen to the conversation he's having with himself about her which goes ooooh, I'd love to bed her,  so because of this he feel uncomfortable in her presence and squirms with inner embarrassment.

    So, keep your thoughts under control, look at her forehead - not her boobs, and create [make up] "a phony story along the lines of , "I must go somewhere else in ten minutes time to keep a prior appoinment, pity, because I was so enjoying this conversation, but duty calls". Then 30 minutes later you can conveniantly forget the appointment, shut out the world outside, turn off the lights, and let nature takes it course.  And smile, damn you smile, you've snared another one, and so as she?

    1. JYOTI KOTHARI profile image75
      JYOTI KOTHARIposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Not necessarily.

  30. profile image0
    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    VENUGOPAL-

    They probably mixed you up with someone else--or they have a check list of items to flag hubs with and that just seemed the easiest thing.

    Like I told you--my article was flagged for not being original in content & I am a professional writer (wouldn't dream of spamming or copying content)--I contacted Maddie Ruud and she took care of the problem.

    It's not perfect here at hubpages, but if you wish to write and have those discussions, it is possible.

    1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image60
      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Thank you madam. Your comments are convincing.

  31. Guptan profile image59
    Guptanposted 8 years ago

    Self Confidence - If you don't believe in your own inner worth (inspite of what you may think are areas that need improvement) then chances are that message will be relayed on to the 'attractive' women

    Activities-Watch TV and play video games all week and use the weekend to go club hopping to find attractive women? Clubs are the worst places to 'pick up' women, because they are in 'self defense' mode and you are in 'I need to hook up' mode. They get hit on by numerous guys and already have developed a self defense mechanism. Chances are you're going to get shot down.

    Exercise, Eat healthy and Groom yourself: these words speak for themselves

    Go out! Do some activities that fulfill you such as community service, exercise,Yoga and meditation classes etc, chances are you will meet women there in a relaxed state who are more open to talking to you. Don't forget to focus on the activity and not on the hot women surrounding you, becoming good and competent in an activity where other people are around is a sure fire way to rouse attraction in women.

    To summarize surround yourself or take part in an activity where there are attractive women around, talk to them naturally, and be good or make an impact and you will find the required chemistry almost naturally.

  32. TravelMonkey profile image61
    TravelMonkeyposted 8 years ago

    Each conversation will be different with different women. I'd prefer to 'play it by ear' when it comes to initiating conversation with attractive women, make them laugh and its in the bag.

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    Adam Bposted 8 years ago

    Whenever I wanted to talk to an attractice girl I just kept it honest and didn't try to do anything out of the normal.  Always try to make them laugh and be non threatening.  Do NOT try anything you have seen in movies...I have seen so many people crash and burn doing that.

    If you are yourself and honest and they blow you off and don't pay you much attention, then you don't need to bother with that individual.

    1. Nickny79 profile image89
      Nickny79posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I agree to an extent; however, I always cringe when I hear people say:  "Be yourself."  I like to qualify this statement and say, "Be your BEST self."  Also being "honest" doesn't mean being an absolute open book or always being straightforward--attractive women get bored with this, especially when you are the 10 guy to talk to them that night.

      I wrote a nice hub on this called "The Player's Manual".  It's one of my most popular hubs with several thousand hits.

  34. purefitness profile image67
    purefitnessposted 8 years ago

    It has to do with eye contact and smiling.  If a guy looks friendly and approachable then women are usually drawn to them on one level or another.  Less is more, it is better to say less which makes sense then to stand before the woman of your dreams talking gibberish.

 
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