I am curious: how do you guys start a conversation with women you do not know and are strongly attracted to? What words, manipulation, strategy etc. do you employ in order to "take things to the next level?"
Not claiming to be any kind of expert, but I'd suggest - Never ask questions. Just comment on whatever's there, be it the sun, a tree, the bar, the coffee. Take time. And don't think about 'manipulation, strategy, etc' or it will show in your eyes. Relax
Came back to read this thread, and this is by far the best answer. It shows depth and intelligence, qualities many of us ladies like in men. A relationship that starts with manipulation, be it from a man or woman, is not a good idea as it sabotages the potential of a genuine friendship from developing-it will simply become an entanglement that fulfills no one. So guys, if you want to meet women, listen to Paraglider.
I think that is how you can twist it now. You got disturbed, you turned defensive when I was pointing to your forum post that was self-promotional, you are not ready to accept it despite the fact that it's been deleted for the same reason.
I was not talking about your content or it's quality or traffic
When around the woman I pull down pants and do a dance, there is no need for words only action as I am an action man when it comes to this type of thing. I always get the woman...then I wake up and er go to work!
I recently published a hub critiquing other hubs that treat of dating and seduction topics. However, I do advise those who are easily offended--there appears to be many such ones on the forum--to ignore my offer.
Web- Actually, a hubber is rewarded a little monetarily for referring others to another hubber's article... so!
And 'dating' is all about psychology and interaction, so it wouldn't surprise me that reading 'the other side's' take would be beneficial (it IS a good overview of body language in general). Thing is, this female hub author has a girlfriend, lol! So!
Anyway, 'dating' sucks--I haven't done it since I found out it doesn't work--and I only go after guys with wide-open grins...... I'm just being amused here--time to get back to work writing!
"Mr.Shivaan @ Surya, let that "women's thread to women". Please come out and look for some valuable threads, affecting our country, our culture..etc." Mr. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA, why don't you let people have something to say, without always demanding everything conform to your pariclar interests.
The title of the hub itself is depicting women in bad light. Why not we consider history making women like Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Chandrika Kumaratunga, Hillary Clinton and the present German President? Many women have contributed enormously for humanity. Only a few made history on their charming personality like Mumtaj (Taj Mahal, India). In ancient history also, there were Cleopatra of Egypt, Razia Begum of India, Queen Victoria of England, and so many who made history by serving humanity. Why not we see the better side of women?
You know...as I said to someone else earlier, if you write it in a hub, they will come to read it.
I don't think this thread puts women in a bad light. It puts men in a bad light... But if you really want to look at it in depth, loneliness and dissatisfaction and the inability of people to connect with each other is part of the human condition.
Three months before, I entered HP and tried to post new hubs. But domestic compulsions made me stay away for a month; meanwhile, my hubs were flagged substandard... When enquired, it was stated that my English was not understandable... I never wrote anything in my hubs.. how can it be? So, I lost patience and gave up the idea of creating a new topic. I did not enter this HP with financial expectations. I wanted to share ideas with others. Many have misunderstandings about my India... that I wanted to set right. Madam, really this thread puts men in bad light... Having fun is only a small part of one's life. There are greater things in life. Why not we spend time on those things?
Venugopal, if you did not write anything in your Hubs, of course they were flagged as substandard. HubPages is about writing informative articles. If you create a Hub with only a few words, it will automatically be flagged as substandard. Does that help you understand?
Does 'not writing anything' mean substandard? I would have been satisfied if they were flagged as "discontinued". I think substandard means poor in language, contents, grammar, etc. Barring human errors, I never fail to present a good English. My colleagues used to call me "dictionary" when I was in service. I had to go offline for over a month due to failure of my computer and participation of a North Indian tour. So, I had to discontinue the hubs... but did not expect that they will be flagged for another reason! Everything is for good.!..
I have already read these things when I joined HP. I had to take a break for a month for reasons I explained somewhere. But I did not expect what it would mean by taking a break before adding something to the hubs. But I treat HP as a forum for sharing views only.
The word substandard certainly does not mean discontinuance. It is below the standard. However, I do not take it seriously. My mistake of not providing stuff within a reasonable time cannot be denied. I regret it.
A request to HP: Create another reason for flagging hubs: Discontinued; Not providing enough stuff.
When a hub is flagged for sub-standard it only gets unpublished, not deleted. You can still manage to add some content and submit for re-publication. Adding some pictures between paragraphs can help in lenghtening the hub, if your text is not enough. Give it a try, if you wish
Miss weblog, I have 2 daughters like you. And I am following world events for the last 50 years. No one will have so much stuff.. but I need more stuff.. reading news every minute, every hour... and reading books is my pastime. If all my stuff are published, it will need another HP. But I wonder how could a new forum like HP flag my hubs as substandard. I would have been thankful if they waited for some more time. I will keep wondering who is substandard... myself or HP ?
A womans beauty and boobs can be quite a distraction for men.
The more testotorone a man as - then the more attracted he his to her, and whilst he's looking at her he can feel an erection arousal and he can listen to the conversation he's having with himself about her which goes ooooh, I'd love to bed her, so because of this he feel uncomfortable in her presence and squirms with inner embarrassment.
So, keep your thoughts under control, look at her forehead - not her boobs, and create [make up] "a phony story along the lines of , "I must go somewhere else in ten minutes time to keep a prior appoinment, pity, because I was so enjoying this conversation, but duty calls". Then 30 minutes later you can conveniantly forget the appointment, shut out the world outside, turn off the lights, and let nature takes it course. And smile, damn you smile, you've snared another one, and so as she?
They probably mixed you up with someone else--or they have a check list of items to flag hubs with and that just seemed the easiest thing.
Like I told you--my article was flagged for not being original in content & I am a professional writer (wouldn't dream of spamming or copying content)--I contacted Maddie Ruud and she took care of the problem.
It's not perfect here at hubpages, but if you wish to write and have those discussions, it is possible.
Self Confidence - If you don't believe in your own inner worth (inspite of what you may think are areas that need improvement) then chances are that message will be relayed on to the 'attractive' women
Activities-Watch TV and play video games all week and use the weekend to go club hopping to find attractive women? Clubs are the worst places to 'pick up' women, because they are in 'self defense' mode and you are in 'I need to hook up' mode. They get hit on by numerous guys and already have developed a self defense mechanism. Chances are you're going to get shot down.
Exercise, Eat healthy and Groom yourself: these words speak for themselves
Go out! Do some activities that fulfill you such as community service, exercise,Yoga and meditation classes etc, chances are you will meet women there in a relaxed state who are more open to talking to you. Don't forget to focus on the activity and not on the hot women surrounding you, becoming good and competent in an activity where other people are around is a sure fire way to rouse attraction in women.
To summarize surround yourself or take part in an activity where there are attractive women around, talk to them naturally, and be good or make an impact and you will find the required chemistry almost naturally.
Whenever I wanted to talk to an attractice girl I just kept it honest and didn't try to do anything out of the normal. Always try to make them laugh and be non threatening. Do NOT try anything you have seen in movies...I have seen so many people crash and burn doing that.
If you are yourself and honest and they blow you off and don't pay you much attention, then you don't need to bother with that individual.
I agree to an extent; however, I always cringe when I hear people say: "Be yourself." I like to qualify this statement and say, "Be your BEST self." Also being "honest" doesn't mean being an absolute open book or always being straightforward--attractive women get bored with this, especially when you are the 10 guy to talk to them that night.
I wrote a nice hub on this called "The Player's Manual". It's one of my most popular hubs with several thousand hits.
It has to do with eye contact and smiling. If a guy looks friendly and approachable then women are usually drawn to them on one level or another. Less is more, it is better to say less which makes sense then to stand before the woman of your dreams talking gibberish.