Should women stay at home with their children or go back to work?

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Mother and Child watching each other. The picture shows natural love and affection between mother and child.
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The motherhood of women


Natural way of living for a mother is to stay with the children. The nature has created mother to breast feed and to look after her child. That is why the word mother has so much charm and affection!!

However, modern living has braught us out of the natural way of living. We are so artificial now! We are rushing towards luxury and comfort endlessly. Consumerism is in its peak. Governments, industrialists, media every one is encouraging blunt consumerism. All these need money. Hence, there is a madness for money. Most of us have joined the rat race and nothing is left in our hands. This is a terrible situation. No one but we ourselves have to be blamed for this situation.

Many of so called Modern mothers do not even hesitate to kill their babies during pregnancy. Abortions are daily phenomenon. Some governments passed legislation in favor of abortion! There is hue and cry for women's right. In fact, motherhood is the right of women that nature has gifted her. However, we wrongly advocate for right of abortion as right for women!!!!

Shameful!

Mothers feel that they have to work outside to earn money and they are doing so. But is it justified?

It is better for a mother to stay at home for parenting children and let the father work to earn bread. It was the situation some decades back. This situation still prevails in many countries.

Mother and Child Statue,

 Photograph of the Mother and Child Statue, Basildon town centre, Essex, England
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What is your opinion about abortion?

  • It is Killing babies during pregnancy and should not be allowed
  • It should be in case of rape victims only
  • Womens right
  • It is Ok
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Motherhood in India


Indian woman love to be in house with their children. They work a lot to grow them. Divorce is not yet a common phenomenon and the male member generally bears responsibility to earn for the entire family. However, consumerism has expanded its legs to the country and some of females are now giving priority to work out side and earn money. They prefer to do jobs to uplift their living standard but percentage of those are still less.

We still find large number of joint families or at least famiies where both parents live together with their children. People intended to take divorces often restrict themselves from it because of their children.

Working Mothers

Should mother stay at home to nourish children?

  • Yes, it is necessary
  • Yes, if circumstances allow
  • No, it is against the freedom of women
  • Can not say
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Go to earn when necessary

Some may think me against freedom of women. However, I am not against their freedom. Freedom does not limit to economic freedom only. Motherhood is an attribute and most of the women like it. They feel completeness with their children.

They may work outside if economic condition compel them to do so. They may go to earn when children are grown enough.

While advocating freedom of women we must not forget the rights of children. Their physical and menatal health, education etc are seriously affected if not properly cared by the mother. Children have the right to be cared and loved by their mother. This right should also be protected.

Growth can not be measured only in financial terms. There are many other aspects of the life. Can we live a family to braek instead of its tremendous growth in monetary terms?

Breast feeding mother

 Figurine of a naked woman breast-feeding a baby. Bronze, from a grave in Horoztepe. The woman's right hand passes between the child's legs and supports it from below, while her left hand presses the child's head to her breast. Such figurines were ma
Figurine of a naked woman breast-feeding a baby. Bronze, from a grave in Horoztepe. The woman's right hand passes between the child's legs and supports it from below, while her left hand presses the child's head to her breast. Such figurines were ma | Source

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JYOTI KOTHARI 20 months ago from Jaipur Author

Thanks Zinnira for your comments. I agree with you.


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JYOTI KOTHARI 20 months ago from Jaipur Author

Thanks Morgan for commenting and coming out with your viewpoint. However, I disagree with you in the point of abortion. Large numbers of people advocate abortion as women's right. However, who will speak for the unborn child? I cannot be agree with right to kill children.


Zinnira 22 months ago

I agree that mother set home and look after children because they cheek their children than they borrow their children upbring .And they do housework.Hawever they must go out .They learn culture because they upbering children .I think every women should decide for herslf


M L Morgan 22 months ago

In Ancient history, fathers also played an important role in raising strong children. Women were also warriors and gatherers of food. If breast feeding wasn't possible, the baby fed from someone else's breast. So, yes, we have naturally evolved to breed and raise children, but we are not animals and we have choices as a result of our brains developing. We do not need to live in an old fashioned box, where some of the ways of the past were not at all beneficial to us and recent studies prove that past ways weren't always necessarily the best ways.

I don't think any man should judge a woman based on here decisions involving abortion, and the way you shame it, is derogative to women who end up in situations they either tried to prevent or had put upon them through force. So, stopping something from entering a life where it may not be appreciated, is far better then it being born into potential unhappiness, cruelty or abuse.

Some Asian and Europian countries have shocking repuations of abuse to women, and I am grateful they have the right to abortion and as a result of society evolving, that right will increase, thank fully!

I agree, having a mother raise a child until the age of 5, probably benefits them greatly, but also, creating a large family unit, that enables the child to bond with the father, the extended family and outside care, is also beneficial too.

Personally, I love raising my children, I love home educating them and watching them grow, but if anything happened to my family unit, where I was obliged to work, I would hope that society in general were supportive of this and less critical of each other. And some people's inability to evolve, stunts child development. The right to raise children at home is crucial, but the right to work for is too.

We must remember that some mothers are not born to be mothers, they aren't able to provide a stimulating and loving childhood for their children, so childcare would be a godsend!

After all, there is no such thing as a perfect parent.


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JYOTI KOTHARI 2 years ago from Jaipur Author

Dear akks,

The nature has created women for motherhood. A man cannot be as affectionate as women in nourishing a child. If a mother goes for work she deprives her children from motherly affection, his or her natural right.


akks 2 years ago

Jyoti mam .. Its an amazing blog by you and also informational but I'd say women have equal rights as man. As a Hindu I wanna remind that even the scriptures do not deny the power of women. It is stated that A home can be a home only when the women is happy. So, its ok if she do not want to work but if she wants to work then she must be encouraged..


kyra 3 years ago

why couldn't the man stay at home and take care of the children while the woman worked? don't men feel "connectedness" with their children also? it would not be damaging to a child to be taken care of by their father instead of their mother. what if it made the woman happy to work, and she had a loving husband that agreed they would both work part time and take care of the child part time? what if she had to work in order to feed her child? a couple should share the responsibility of the child equally and its not fair to force women to be confined in the house all day, dealing with a screaming child after having been pregnant for nine months and then gone through the physically overwhelming ordeal of pregnancy?


Lahiru 3 years ago

I don't agree with you. women have same right to do a job. But this article is very useful to me. Because I have to participate a debate "women should not go to the job.


vimbai chirimuhanzu 4 years ago

ladies and gents how are you all and yes a mother should work for her children because when a girl grows up what do you accpet her to go to collage and maybe staying home l mean she has a right and please let raise them right


Amy 4 years ago

Womens donot work they should be with there child


Amysoal 4 years ago

I like to be a housewife becoz i love my childrens


Adhe 4 years ago

Foolish


surinder singh 4 years ago

First of all,

Good Morning all of you.

According to me mother should stay with her children and look after her children up to 3years,then she can go work if need.


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JYOTI KOTHARI 4 years ago from Jaipur Author

I agree with you. Thanks for commenting.


VERA63 4 years ago

I AGREE WITH YOU . I THINK MOTHER SHOULD STAY AT HOME WITH HER CHILDren TILL THEY GO TO NURSERY AND THEN IT IS THE BEST WORKING PART TIME. But now days mostly mothers love money, holidays and jobs more than their children and they think it is perfectly right that childminder or nursery will take care of their infant. WHY DO THEY MAKE CHILDREN IF THEY DON'T WANT TO LOOK AFTER THEM AT LEAST FIRST 3 YEARS. FOR ME IT IS SO WRONG


ABDULLAH 4 years ago

I HAD A COMPOSITION ON SHOULD A MOTHER GO TO WORK OR BE A HOMEMAKER IT IS TOO USEFUL TO ME THANKS


mumtaj 4 years ago

i agree with the message coz ma mother is going to work i really hate it because she is not with me yo spend the time


Sweet Honey 4 years ago

Hi mr. Jyoti

I readed you're article and,while i don't agree with the fact that ''women are at home,man at work'' and ''Abortion is banned'' facts,i respect you're opinion.I know some women (and men.Don't forget men) want to be housewife/househusband but some (like me) would hate it to no end.For the abortion topic,well,it's a picky subject so here : I think that what matter the most is the mother : If the mother is raped and forced to keep the baby,will she be happy? no if the mother is in health danger and die giving birth to the baby,will her family be happy? no. and if the mother have and ''accident'' (forget to have a condom,condom cracked) and is forced to have the baby even tough she wanted to focus on her study or whatever (because university with a kid is,let's say,difficult) i doubt she will be happy.To resume,i think it should be the women choice to abort,take care or give to adoption the baby.I have a personal story on abortion : One of my friend was gang-raped by her ex-boyfriend and the brother of her ex.She became pregnant with one of them.The problem is that she have a VERY weak heart condition and could die if she give birth,her parents also give her an ultimatum : Give birth to the baby,GTFO abort the baby,you can stay.So she aborted (because of her heart,she nearly died,too) .But she not a bad or selfish person,you know.Again,this subject is deeply controversial,especially for religious people,i guess (since i'm atheist i don't really know) and go to the foundation of society and morality.But this is my opinion

Have a nice day and a good year to come


marwan 4 years ago

women should concentrate and spend more time to their children rather than carrier.

it is one of the initiative to prevent their child from involving in bad activities.


wynisha dorsey 4 years ago

I think that a mother should stay home with her child.


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Hi Jyoti, I think it is very important for women to be financially independent and earn her own money. It makes the family strong. In case of partner death or sickness, she can still support herself and children. The advantages are just too many. I encourage every woman to stand on their own feet, no matter what their spouse is earning.

I personally became financially free using passive income strategies before I became mother.

There is always a win-win situation. So, there are strategies where parents can spend time with their children and still be financially free.

To me, it is a little bit risky to quit your job without any financial backup of your own.


Catherine 4 years ago

I have been with my children since they were born. They have never been in a childcare facility.

That said, now that my twins are 4 and my youngest is a couple months short of 3, I have started working a couple of days a week for my father at his store. The hope is that someday I will run it. My husband has a home business and on the days I am working he takes charge of the house.

I AM SO HAPPY THIS WAY! It is a wonderful arrangement.


Nish 4 years ago

I absolutely agree with the article. I fully appreciate that what the article portrays is not discriminatory against women. We seem to forget our natural responsibilities and begin to seek happiness through wealth accumulation and making ourselves independent. We live in a world that interlinks with people so when you say you want to be independent you never actually are, because even when you work you are dependent on your job and the boss that you work for. In fact, if women did stay at home their human (ie natural) duties will be fulfilled and will gain more independence. This is because in this world where we have men and women a man in never complete without a woman and vice versa. A home is built rather than a house when a husband and wife work together, with the aim of making the familt better and not themselves. I also think man have a role to play in this, just because they earn they should not think of themselves as masters of the universe, they too should remember that they were looked after a woman for 9 months at the least!

On the topic of abortion, I am absolutely appalled as to how human views have changed over time. The more educated we seem to get the more brainless we act! Abortion is a killing of another human, in fact your own child! Imagine if your mother had done that to you! This is the same case with caesarian births where women choose to have that rather then a natural birth simply because is it is less painful. If women cant fulfil their natural duties how can they fulfil any responsibilities.

The sad thing is womanhood seems like its has lost its way, women may not have been physically strong but they were mentally and true guardians of the human race once, as soon as that was lost humanity and naturalness has been lost!


naseem khan 4 years ago

womens should be at there home to nourish their children because without mother there is no one to nourish them and they get out of control . they sink their parents name and fame in water . therefore i said this


ujjwal 4 years ago

i don't know man


Suraj 4 years ago

I have debate in my college, 'women should not go to work'

This will very useful to me.

Thanks!


alica charles 4 years ago

women should be allowed to do what ever they want, not to do what other people expect them to do. i believe that women should stay home and look after their children however i also believe a woman should have a qulification, so that she can be independent when needed too


Sue 4 years ago

What is more wonderful to stay at home and look after your baby and love it and take great care of it. You have a house to look after and washing and ironing and cooking your husbands meal. Why have a baby and give it to strangers to look after. People have no idea who looks after their child in daycare of what type of person they are. Nothing nicer than having a lovely baby and home and husband. Do not worry about the neighbours what they have or try to keep up with them or live beyond your means. Have no credit cards and you will be wealthy.


depression stay at home 5 years ago

What you do not understand is that being a stay at home parent means DEPRESSION and ISOLATION.

women are very social being, making them stay at home means going against their nature.

women need to stay in society and a job keeps you socialized.


NYC single mom 5 years ago

I agree whole heartedly that a mother's place is with her children. My 9 month old son's father wanted me to kill our child but I could never bring myself to do such a horrible thing. He left me because I refused to and now wants nothing to do with our son or myself. I have given my son every second of my time for the last 9 months but I find myself needing to go back to work so I can feed my son. I despise his father for putting me in this situation.


angel chell 5 years ago

most jobs only give 6 weeks for giving that's from the time you live till you get back. a lot can happen before, during, and after burth. not to mention all the dr visets, school actives, and forbide chiled hood injreys that work scudles just don't work around. yes i think its fine work just as long as the kids don't sufer. but at some pointe it boiles down to you saying "i need time off for susies play" and your boss saying "you can see the next one we need you hear." or " its you kid or your job." and yes the government says all big binness need to have a FLA but if you miss to much work it dose not mater. weather it's a the flue foled by chiken poks they can lower your pay scail depending on how long your gone. sorry bosse man but there is more then food that my kids need and that's a shoulder to cry on for the first brocken heart or arms to run in to whan the thay scour there first pointe.


melrose 5 years ago

i do not think that woman should stay home with there kid for so long until she reach 18 that is totally rang.


Veronica 5 years ago

I would like to stay home with my children


HAKIMNET  5 years ago

i am a man and i would like women to stay at home and bring up their children the way they like them to be . this will give more respect to women and give more chance to man to feel safe and not borden himself in what happen at home only concentrate himself at work .this prevent kids from violence and more ather dangerous habbits that most of our kids threatened by..


x y z 5 years ago

please can u give some negative points about women empowerment? i have debate about it and i searched all the source but all i get is a +ve points.

pls help me.

email me to - joob2001@yahoo.com


joyambe 5 years ago

I am a mother of two, I was working before my second baby is born. I choose to quit job after my second baby's first birthday.. I believe that it is always a matter of choice whether Mother should love to work or be a full time mother at home.. we have certain situations in our lives, especially in our family life that needs careful decision that will give best options for our family. In my case, being a full time mother is what I love to do. I may not earn a lot but I still try my best to look for alternative ways of earning money to help our family budget. It is always important to know your priorities and mine is being a full time mom.


Saule 6 years ago

Dear Jyoti Kothari!

Hi, I want to say taht your article helped me in my presentation in university, when I tried to persuade my groupmates, especially the girls, that it's better to stay at home rather than go back to work. I just want to say thank you, and good luck :)


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JYOTI KOTHARI 6 years ago from Jaipur Author

Hi Saule,

I have clarified in the hub that it is better to stay in the home for a mother but if it is absolutely necessary one has to go out and work.

There is no rigidness, no confusion.

Thanks for your comment.

Jyoti Kothari


Saule 6 years ago

perhaps, if you have opportunity to stay at home and look after your kids, it is fine. But, what about single moms, who had to work? they've got to work in order to nourish their kids, is'n it?


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JYOTI KOTHARI 6 years ago from Jaipur Author

Hi Destiny,

Thanks for your motherhood. I agree with you mostly.

Thanks for commenting on this hub.

Jyoti Kothari


Destiny 6 years ago

I lean towards feminism in so many cases (most), but I feel very strongly that women should raise their own children rather than teachers/daycare. They should be home at least half of the day to care for and love their babies, though I don't know where one would draw a line there. I have two children, and stay home with them. I feel obligated, but love to do what's best for them anyway. I have this saying: My children were born through me. That means I should not send them to other people to care for them %80 of the time.

This is all assuming that the mother CAN stay home; that it is a matter of luxury or choice..


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JYOTI KOTHARI 7 years ago from Jaipur Author

Hi Indian Lady,

I agree with you that abortion must be made illegal by the Governments. It is simply killing babies at pre-matured stage.

I am of an opinion that mothers should stay at home, if possible, to nurture their chidren This is the natural way of living.

I do not think this as against freedom of women.

Thanks for commenting.

Jyoti Kothari


Indian lady 7 years ago from India

Jyoti Kothari,

I agree with you. Mother, if possible, should stay at home. in fact there is nothing like being a mother.

I can not understand how some female go for abortion! They do it for what? It is really misuse of freedom of women. Government should make it illegal.

I can not even think living much time without my children. I prefer to stay home.

Thanks for a great hub.

Indian lady


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JYOTI KOTHARI 7 years ago from Jaipur Author

London girl and Sunstreak,

It is repeatedly told that this is a matter of individual perception. My perception may be different from yours. Some other persons may have some other opinion. What I told is my opinion and I have supported that with my own logic. The case may be different with you or some one else.

I personally respect your view point, because life is yours and you have full and final right to live as you like.

What I think, mother is the first and foremost gurdian of a baby. Father comes the next. Nature gives this right to mother and not to father (in way of breast feeding). Father comes next when child care is concern.

Again this is my opinion and you can differ with me and that is all right. I respect your view point.

Jyoti Kothari


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sunstreeks 7 years ago from Western Washington

I am a single mom. I went back to work when my daughter was 4 months, she is now 4 years.

I've recently been laid off last month, but my daughter is used to mommy working full time. I love working and I take a lot of pride in my work. Even if I wasn't single and could stay home, I wouldn't. I love my daughter so much, but I'm not the stay at home mom type. My daughter gets an excellent preschool education as well as social experiences at her daycare.

It should not be assumed that women work just to pay the bills. Some women enjoy working immensely because it makes them feel good. This also should not mean that a mother loves her child any less just because she would rather work then spend all hours in the home with her children.

I agree with londongirl on the responsibilties comment. If my daughters father and I were living in the same home, it would be expected that he contribute just as much attention to raising our daughter as I do once we come home from work.   


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

The mother shouldn't shoulder the responsibilies at both. The father should be equally involved.


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

The mother shouldn't shoulder the responsibilies at both. The father should be equally involved.


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JYOTI KOTHARI 7 years ago from Jaipur Author

Hi Dineane,

It is, of course, a matter of choice. I believw that it is difficult for a mother to shoulder responsibilities both at home and work place.

Jyoti Kothari


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

I agree - lots of women want to stay at home. But some (including Indian woman) do not want to.


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dineane 7 years ago from North Carolina

sorry - don't know why that double-posted!


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dineane 7 years ago from North Carolina

Well, there are not enough choices in your poll for me to vote. I'd say "yes, if the want to, and circumstances allow." But I'd never say that they have to. Often fathers are much better choices to stay at home with the kids while mom works. And even more often, both mom and dad work and take advantage of excellent childcare...which is what I and my daughter's father did when she was young. I don't think we screwed her up too bad, either!

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