Spanking or Corporal Punishment-Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child
Spare The Rod, Spoil The Child
My children are grown now but when they were young, ninety-nine percent of the time taking away certain privileges worked well as far as discipline goes. In their younger years there was only a few occasions when a couple of swats with a switch would do. This stings but does not injure and believe me this helps them to remember what they did to deserve the correction and didn't want to repeat the action that caused them the spanking again. When they reach the teen years, spanking is not an option. At this age I believe the only method that will generate favorable results is the action of taking away a specific privilege.
We have charge of the moral and logical training of young children for a short time so we should manage this supervision discerningly.
Let me note something right now before I back up what I'm saying with scripture. I am speaking to parents who are acting in the best interest of the child. Not parents who drink, take drugs, view their children as a nuisance or have anger issues then proceed to take out their frustrations on innocent children. Just keep in mind the fact that their Father in Heaven is watching you and knows all! If you mistreat or harm a child you will answer to God for it.
Most importantly, if the child's action(s) on rare occasions does warrant a spanking, it should always be done at home and by a loving parent, no one else. Then the spanking should be followed up with a discussion about whatever caused the bad behavior or incident and various ways for the child to handle the situation differently in the future.
If you feel your child needs a spanking of more than a couple of light swats with a switch-don't do it. If you feel the child needs this often, you are wrong. If it doesn't work the first time-it's not going to work at all. More is not better. In fact it may be too late to spank or may not be the right choice for that particular child. If your child's behavior makes you feel upset or angry, don't even think about spanking. Stop right there and seek outside counsel and guidance.
I will use my own personal experience as a parent for an example. I have four children; they are all grown now but when they were young the two oldest, born a year and a half apart were rebellious and defiant. They conferred and backed each other in their efforts to be mischievous. My third child was born three years after the second child and required a swat only one time in her life. My youngest born thirteen years later never required a swat. She was very tenderhearted and keen on following the advice and instruction I gave her. She even required less verbal correction than the others did when they were at the same ages. The point is that you can not group all children into one category and correct them all in the same manner. Each child is different, each one has a distinctive personality. Some will require discipline more often than others. Some children may need only verbal correction and no spanking. It completely depends on how the child responds to your advice and instructions.
Listen to what your child has to say. Be aware of their behavior and actions. If their behavior suddenly changes or if they suddenly begin "acting out" or become silent or withdrawn, something may be wrong at school, at the daycare, at church etc. Don't automatically take the word of an adult over the word of your child. (see the video below)
A Word About Corporal Punishment (Spanking)
Train and Direct Your Child With Love and Gentle Guidance
Proverbs 22 : 6
Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
What the Bible Says about Discipline
Prov 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chastens him betimes (diligently)."
Prov 19:18 "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying."
Prov 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Prov 23:13 "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."
Ephesians 6: 1-4 Children and Parents
1. Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. 2. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: 3. If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”
4. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Matthew 19: 13-15
13-one day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could lay his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
14-But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.”
15-And he placed his hands on their heads and blessed them before he left.
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