The Most Beautiful Woman I Hardly Knew (What It's Like To Be Adopted By Your Grandparents)

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My mother, Ruythe, was the most beautiful mother in the world, but I hardly knew her.

One night, when my twin sister, Lynne, and I, were two years old, our father, Oscar, came home late at night to our small apartment in Endicott, New York, and found that Ruythe had abandoned us and left for New York City. Apparently she could not handle caring for two small children.

Our father took us to the home of his parents who lived up the street, and he instructed them not to give us back to our mother, should she return.

His parents adopted us on our fourth birthday. We always referred to them as "Mom" and "Dad."

Our father then lived in New York City, and he would visit us every four to six months. We thought he was our older brother. One night, when Lynne and I were eleven years old, we awoke to hear our grandmother/mom sobbing in the living room. We found out that Oscar was found dead in bed the night before. To this day, his death remains a mystery.

While I sobbed at the funeral I noticed a beautiful, classy female stranger had appeared. She had long blonde hair. She wore a brown dress, and high spike heels. I remember walking behind her during the funeral procession, and gazing at the black seams on her stockings.

Our grandmother was not glad to see her.

At age fourteen, Lynne and I took a bus trip to New York City with our ninth grade class. We made arrangements to meet our cousin, Patti, and her mother, Dorothy, at the hotel where we were staying. What we did not know was that Dorothy's sister, Ruythe, our biological mother, would be accompanying them.

I was SO afraid to be nice to my mother because I knew my grandmother would be angry about Ruythe showing up. I acted shy and cold, whereas my twin sister showed off. She knew our mother would do anything to please us.

Ruythe treated us to a steak dinner, and she took us to the Empire State Building.

When we arrived home, our grandmother asked us, "Did you see Ruythe?"

We told her, "Yes." She was furious, and she asked, "What right does she have to meet you in New York City?"

On our sixteenth birthday, our grandmother died of a massive stroke. I suspect she died of a broken heart from the loss of Oscar, our biological father, four years before.

I cannot remember the exact moment we learned Oscar was not our brother, but our actual father and that we were being raised by his parents.

Although we were traumatized losing Oscar and our grandmother at such a young age, my sister and I had to go on with our lives. We graduated from high school, attended SUNY Delhi College, and got married. Each one of us gave birth to a son and a daughter.

When my sister's and my sons and daughters ranged in ages from two through age six, my sister sent a letter to our biological mother, Ruythe, who still resided in New York City. She wrote, "You have four grandchildren. Would you like to meet them?"

Ruythe accepted our invitation. She flew into Broome County Airport in Binghamton, New York, and she spent the weekend at my sister's home.

My sister wrote in her diary, "Ruythe looks beautiful. She loves our animals. We looked at old photos today."

My husband and I visited Ruythe both days, and she was able to meet her four grandchildren. It was one of the best weekends of our lives. The kids just loved her.

My sister asked Ruythe why she left us. The only answer Ruythe gave her was that she thought she was doing the right thing at that time because she was unable to care for us.

Ruythe was able to visit us on at least two other occasions until she developed cancer of the larynx from years of chain smoking and alcoholism.

My sister wrote her a letter when she was in the hospital for surgery. She told her we loved her and that we would be praying for her.

In one of the last letters our mother wrote to my sister, she thanked her for the beautiful letters, and she said they were an inspiration to her. She did not want us to visit her in the hospital because she was unable to talk.

Ruythe died suddenly while in the hospital awaiting another surgery.

I consider my mother to be the most beautiful woman in the world. She gave me the most precious gift of all, the gift of life and the power to choose my own destiny.

Our father, Oscar, was a wonderful man. However, he didn't live long enough for us to get to truly know him. It saddens me that we lost our biological parents at such young ages.

The fact that Ruythe left Lynne and I is not the issue. What is important is that she went into eternity with peace of mind - knowing Lynne and I did not resent her. Also, she had met her grandchildren.

I consider my sister's and my existence on this planet a gift from God, a DOUBLE GRACE. He had His eyes on us from the moment of our conception. We are meant to be here.

In 1985 Princess Diana stated, at a London Hospice, "I think the biggest disease this world suffers from is people feeling unloved." Then she added, "I can give love...I'm very happy to do that, and I will do that."

This my sister and I did with our mother, and we have no regrets.

Blessings, Sparklea :)

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CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Sparklea, courageous woman, I really love your courage to share with us your stories. I once have read a book entitled "Loving Mother, no matter what", that discusses and tell stories of our relationship with our mother. This is a very interesting book full of true stories from people who has struggled to accept their relationship with their mother for whatever circumstances they have, even the most difficult ones like those who's been given up for adoption and looking for answers as to why.It's basically understanding and affirming the agreement we have with our mother from the time we were conceived. If you haven't read the book yet, I'll suggest you check it out from your local library. It's an uplifting one. Peace and love to you!


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EuroNinila 4 years ago from NYC BABY

I can relate to your situation a bit as well, very touching story. Life is always better when you focus on the positivity rather than the negativity and when you have LOVE! Thanks for sharing your wonderful story :)


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Thank you for sharing this personal part of your background. It is very moving and touching to me. I admire how you kept on giving from your heart, unselfishly, to those around you. You could have easily turned bitter and unforgiving.

I am so glad that you and your sister were able to know your father and mother in special ways. Life is too short to remain unforgiving. It is our purpose to help others to live a better live, love such as yours does make all the difference. Voted up.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

CrisSp: Thank you so much for your wonderful comments on this hub! I WILL check out the book you mentioned. I LOVE LOVE LOVE to read, I read and write every single day. I hope this story encourages those who have been through sad circumstance that the secret to peace of mind is to reach out and forgive...regardless of the circumstances. It is a win-win situation for by offering your peace, even if it is rejected, your peace will return to you. God Bless you, Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Euroninila: THANK YOU for your feedback, and you are correct about focusing on the positive. I am at peace knowing both my parents died with the knowledge they were loved by my sister and I. I so appreciate your taking time to read this hub. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

teaches12345: THANK YOU for your kind words, and for voting for me! You never fail with the consistent encouragement you continue to give me. It is bad enough to lose a parent, but to lose a mom or dad while estranged or resented...to me, that would be so much worse! We are only given so much time on earth, and I believe it should be our purpose to pass into eternity with no regrets. I SO appreciate your feedback. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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Mekenzie 4 years ago from Michigan

Sparklea, Your mother was very blessed to have both of you not only accept her but to welcome her into your lives. That speaks volumes about you and your sister. Thanks for sharing your story with such grace and love. You are an inspiration. :0)

Mekenzie


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Mekenzie: Thank you so much for taking time to read my story! Means alot! I'm still struggling with how to post pictures on my hubs, and when I get to where I can do it, I will post a picture of my gorgeous mother and my father. She was a classy lady, long polished nails, blonde hair...my sister has been a blonde all her life, probably because of Ruythe. VERY grateful she had a peaceful passing. YOU are an inspiration too, Mekenzie. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

You're an awesome woman Sparklea. Every hub of yours took readers to a different pages on someone's life. May God bless you and your family


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Unknown Spy: THANK YOU for your kind comments, you are awesome and full of heart, I see it in your hubs. I so appreciate your taking time to read this hub. I am thankful for the many wonderful people I have encountered on HubPages, you being one of them. God is good. Blessings always, Sparklea :)


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

Hi Sparklea. Thank you soo much for being one of the blessings God gave me. You inspired me the first time I came back here in HP. You put me on your prayer list without asking yourself "why should I?" And at that time, I really needed it.

Your stories spark hopes. And I hope you will continue to enlighten every reader.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Unknown Spy: You continue to be on my prayer list. I prayed for you this morning, and I will continue to do that. You are a genuine blessing, I can feel your big heart. Keep spreading your Light on HubPages. You are loved by so many. God Bless, Sparklea :)


Larry Wall 4 years ago

Sparklea:

I have gotten a little behind in my reading and just read your touching story. Besides the gift your biological parents gave, despite the unfortunate circumstances, she gave us all a gift through you. Your writings, faiths, values and beliefs are felt by everyone who knows you. We have never talked and never met, but I consider you one of my best friends. Many people would have taken your circumstances, blamed God for everything and taken an entirely different path in life. I am grateful that God lead you down the path you are now following.

I have an adopted son, he is 28, but because of the serious accident, he will always be around 17--not quite an adult, but I know you pray for him and you will never know how much I appreciate that.

Your story was beautiful and revealing. It may had been difficult to write, or it possibly flowed from the keyboard with ease. I suspect the latter. I think you have thought about this story and when it was time to tell it, you told it in a very kind, thoughtful and understanding manner.

I know God is pleased with your work on this earth. It would not be vain for you to be pleased that so many have benefited from it.

Larry


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Larry, I am humbled and overwhelmed with your extremely kind words, and I thank you from my heart. As God is my witness, I do not resent my biological parents at all. I believe God has me here for His purpose, regardless of how I got here or what happened afterwards.

I do so miss my parents - especially my father whom I would have loved to get to know better. But God is in control. I never knew much about my mother either.

I have so many flaws, but I find daily prayer to be so beneficial. I KNOW God hears ALL our prayers. It is so wonderful God has used you as His instrument in your adopted son's life. He is a fortunate son, indeed!

I continue to pray for you, Nan and David every single morning. It is amazing to see ANY results.

For example, I have been praying for our cat, Frodo, every single morning for WEEKS. He has an awful breathing problem, he coughs and wheezes and his breathing so so loud and raspy. The vet gave him a steroid shot that did no good, said the cat would have to have a procedure if this didn't work.

I have put off taking the cat back, as I have just been praying. Yesterday I noticed Frodo seemed to be breathing normal! I PRAY it lasts. I thank God for even one day that the cat is okay! Regardless, Frodo has been eating happy and purring all along.

That just shows that God DOES hear all prayers, no matter how microscopic they seem.

I hope my story will encourage others who have been abandoned by their parents. That they realize God has them here for HIM to manifest and allow HIM to live through them, regardless of the way God brought them here.

Blessings, Sparklea :) and THANK YOU!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I'm not getting notifications when you write hubs...I was shocked to see how many you have written that I knew nothing about. I'm sorry my friend; it was not intentional.

You and I have a little similarity in our history...as you know, I was adopted, and I am so blessed to have been given life by my birth mother. Even though I never knew her I love her for unselfishly giving me life.

Wonderful hub my dear friend; simply wonderful!


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

billybuc, THANK YOU for your feedback on this hub.

Incidentally, your hub about adoption encouraged me to write this one! I had thought about it, but your story was the trigger point to get me to do it.

I have NO idea why you are not getting notifications when I write hubs! I wonder if it is happening with my other followers?

I am honored to hear from you, always. God bless you, Sparklea :)

PS: I LOVE that title of your hub about living in an animal shelter!


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truthfornow 4 years ago from New Orleans, LA

This is such an inspiring story. So brave to love your mother despite everything that happened. So many people hold onto anger and never allow themselves to express love and free themselves. Your story will help many others let go and forgive so that they can finally move on and find happiness.


oceansider 4 years ago

Hi Sparklea,

I really enjoyed reading your article about you and your sister being adopted by your grandparents. I'm also sorry that your mom left when you were only two, and that you hardly go to know your dad. This all had to be extremely hard on you and your sister!....You wrote this beautifully and gave us a glimpse of what your life was like growing up...thank you so much.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

truthfornow: THANK YOU for your comments, yes...my purpose for sharing this is to encourage others to forgive. I have learned I cannot fail by being kind, even if I don't FEEL it. The Light within me must never dim, and each one of us has that elusive spark. It is our choice whether or not to fan it into a flame. God bless you. Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Oceansider: Thank you for your feedback! Our grandparents took on a tremendous responsibility back then, and they loved us. But it was difficult for them. I think it is even more difficult today, for those grandparents who are raising their grandchildren.

I SO appreciate you taking the time to read this hub. Blessings, and THANK YOU again. Sparklea :)


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Trish_M 4 years ago from The English Midlands

This is a fascinating, if somewhat sad, family story ~ but it is brimming with hope, which is wonderful.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Trish M: Thank you so much for reading this hub and for your kind words. I hope it encourages others to NOT resent their parents...we all make mistakes and I like to think of them as learning experiences and stepping stones. I raised a son and a daughter. Made alot of mistakes, but I learned from them. Blessings, Sparklea, and thanks again.


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Nat Amaral 4 years ago from BC Canada

A very touching story. I'm glad you and your sister were reunited with your mother. I'm sure she's at peace. A beautiful story filled with so much hope. Many blessings, Natalie.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Nat Amaral: Thank you for your feedback, so much appreciated! I sincerely believe those of us are placed here for a reason, and one of my greatest desires is not to burn any bridges during my sojourn on this planet...rather to inspire and uplift. Blessings, Sparklea


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Sparklea this should be a movie.. wow.. write a book about it.. it would be great...

You wrote on my hub a comment that you read a book about wanting to live. what is the name of the book?

many blessings to you

Debbie


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Oh I forgot to tell you I am sharing this wonderful story.

Debbie


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Deborah, THANK YOU for your comments on this hub, means so very much, and I am touched that you are sharing it. THANK YOU.

The book I read where the author wrote, "I want to live, truly live" is titled 1000 Gifts by Ann VosKamp. Incredible book, I highly recommend it. I will consider writing a book, never thought to do that. God bless you real good, Sparklea :)


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lrc7815 4 years ago from Central Virginia

What a beautiful and sad story. It took a great deal of courage to share a story so personal. Your grandparents did a good job of raising you and obviously gave you all the things that really matter. It is proof that difficult circumstances do not have to result in anger and unresolved hurt. I have enormous respect for your courage and honesty.


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

lrc7815 THANK YOU for visiting this hub and for your positive feedback, I so appreciate hearing from you! I have learned throughout my life that bitterness and resentment can destroy not only one's Spirit but have a negative effect on others. I would hope this story encourages others in similar situations not to resent being abandoned, but use their stories to help and minister to people who are hurting.

Blessings, Sparklea :)


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida

Lea, before I comment, I want to send my heartfelt wishes with you on your journey tomorrow. Bill has extended a plea and I gladly oblige. I've given God my request to help you travel safely through. I'm not aware of the particulars of your surgery; it doesn't matter. Know you have a wealth of love and support with you.

That being said, your story is amazing, sad, joyful, and even confusing. I can't imagine what you went through. I have memories from the time I was two, so I'm thinking, God blocked the early memories of your parents in order to allow you to move forward without pain, questions or wonder. He truly works miracles, doesn't He? He knows just what we need and waits until we can handle what we need to know in order to become secure in ourselves.

You are so blessed to have been loved and so blessed to have been shown the truth. My prayers and thoughts are with you on your upcoming surgery. Be sure and let us know how it goes.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Oh me, Sparklea!!!

I, too, just as Billybuc has stated, I have not been getting any notifications when you write hubs, and I am so very dismayed as I have been missing your amazing writings here dear. I am so sorry!!! I will just have to come your way, as I thought you have not been writing anything.

God bless you for this amazing write here. So many emotions going through my mind and heart for you while reading your amazing story.

You have always been such a blessing to me and such a great encourager, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

You know I have been praying for your full recovery each day.

Voted way up ++++ and sharing

God bless you. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

What a beautiful and sad story at the same time.

It must have been really hard on your father to have your mother leaving you and your sister in such a tender age. And it's probably why he died himself quite young.

It's nice that your grandparents could take over for a while. As you said, your grandmother probably died from a broken heart of losing her own son.

It's hard as kid to have to deal also with the relationship between the adults around us like you had to do when you met your mother in NY during that trip. You were torned between the fact that you met your mother but that you had the feeling to betray your grandmother and probably the memory of your dad. No kids should deal with these kind of feelings.

In all the sadness of your life you had time to make peace with your mother and that's fantastic!

Very nice hub! Thank you for sharing!

Voted up and beautiful!


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Brave Warrior! I am SO SORRY I was not notified 5 months ago that you commented on this hub and I just found it TODAY! Please accept my apology, I try to answer comments as soon as possible.

First, THANK YOU for your thoughts and prayers regarding my surgery. I lost several weeks on Hub Pages...still trying to catch up...It has been a long, very hard journey, as the surgeon removed 80 per cent of my colon and the recovery has been very difficult...I was hospitalized 3 times, and I was too weak to even sit at the computer.

However, I started nutritional drinks, and I am doing much better! However, I am still behind in letter writing, hub creations. WONDERFUL to be back in the land of the living and I thank God for every second I feel good.

THANK YOU for your lovely comments on this hub! To this day, I am so glad we made peace with our mother...resulting in peace of mind for us. I would encourage ANY ONE who was abandoned to forgive, no matter what. Forgiveness benefits the person who has done the forgiving. To carry resentment is like having a cinder block on your back and a hole in your stomach. It is one heavy load!

I pray you get to read this, and, again, I just read it today, not knowing it was here! There are also a couple others! I will reply to them also.

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! Blessings, Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

kidscrafts: I am honored you took time to read this hub and for your lovely comments. THANK YOU SO MUCH. I hope this hub inspires all who read it.

I miss my father something awful...

The last Christmas we saw him (before he died the following June), he came home and gave my sister and I a white teddy bear with a 50 dollar bill tied around its neck. I still have that bear, right here in my writing room. I hug it quite often with tear filled eyes.

God bless you real good, and thanks again for visiting this page. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Faith Reaper: I JUST saw your post that you wrote FOUR months ago! Apparently I was not notified, and I'm so very sorry I did not comment!As always, THANK YOU for your very kind words and for voting up and sharing. It means so much to me, and I always appreciate your input.

God bless, and again, I feel bad I did not see these last 3 posts until today!

Sparklea :)


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Just got it. I'm glad you're doing better, but I am so sorry for what you had to go thru. The good news is you're better and that's all that matters. Welcome back!


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skye2day 3 years ago from Rocky Mountains

sparklea How amazing is God. You got to meet with your mother before she passed. Praise God. Your twin sister and you have such a special bond for a time as this. No mistake yo are a twin. I too am an identical twin. We are blessed indeed. May God continue to bless your journey each and every day with divine favor.. Keep focused on Him and His Grace will cover you dear precious girl. Your testimony will help many. Keep em coming girl. In Christ. Love you. Skye.

Beautiful words coming from a woman with great courage in Christ!!


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

skye2day: I am full of gratitude you took time to read this. WOW, thrilled to be in touch with an identical twin! Yes I WILL keep focused on God...He gets me through each day. I could not get out of bed in the morning if I did not know God.

God bless you real good Skye :) Blessings Sparklea


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Writer Fox 3 years ago from the wadi near the little river

Thank you for sharing this intimate account of your life. I think your parents would be very proud of you for writing this article.


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Writer Fox, THANK YOU for taking time to read my story! I agree, I think both my parents would be thrilled to see this. I hope readers cherish their parents, it is so very important. God bless and I so appreciate your feedback. Sparklea :)


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

Your grandparents did a wonderful job raising you and your sister to make you so loving and forgiving. I have known several cases of grandparents being the problem spoiling and not seeing what their grandchildren do but I can see they loved you just as if they were your parents, so you were very lucky. ^


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Jackie, Thank you for taking time to read this and to comment. Forgiveness equals Peace. Period. I have learned throughout my life that when someone hurts you, don't hurt back. Ever. I regret I know very little about my biological parents, but God knows. I also know my sister and I are God's purpose. Everyone is here for a reason. My hope is to manifest the Light of God through writing. God bless, and thank you again. Sparklea :)


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Sparklea,

I am so grateful to Faith, I could just hug her...oh, that is the idea here and now I want to hug you as well.

Long story...I am a firm believer in forgiveness for very different reasons.

I have a dear friend I intend to share this with...She is playing the role of Grandmother/ Mother right now of two little ones and so worried about their futures...as you have shown us by your beautiful example, LOVE does conquer all..

So lovely to meet you and I pray this message travels far and wide.

Voted UP and UABI. Hugs galore, Maria


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

marcoujor: I am so very touched by your comment, and I hope your friend benefits from your sharing this. LOVELY to meet you also, and I Thank God every day for my hub friends. God bless you real good, Sparklea ;)


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mckbirdbks 3 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

You can ascertain the power of a hub by how even after a considerable time people are drawn to it. This piece of writing certainly has power.


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

mckbirdbks: Thank you so much, great encouragement, and I hope this hub inspires those who read it. I so appreciate your taking time to read my thoughts and to comment. God bless you real good, Sparklea :)


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bluebird 3 years ago

Thank you for sharing this very touching story of loving no matter what. It's a blessing that you can tell it with no regrets - amazing! Yes, God was guiding you through it all and protected your hearts from hate and that is so beautiful. What an amazing story. The title certainly takes one in immediately. Thank you for this amazing write and true story of love in the face of adversity.

Good to know you better!


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

THANK YOU, Bluebird, for your feedback. I can honestly say I never once hated my mother, nor did I resent her. I just did not understand why...that being said, I know God led my sister and I to be in touch with her after our children were born. I see so much resentment of parents on Hub Pages. It is just not worth it, and there is no peace. God bless you, Bluebird, and thank you again! Sparklea :)


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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Very cool. I often wonder if I started to resent who would I resent first? Probably me. But for sure last on that list would be my biological parents or my adopted ones.

I think I will make a sermon story about this Hub. May I?


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Ericdierker: I am thrilled you visited this hub, and your kind words mean so very, very much. Thank you from my heart! Yes, of course you can make a sermon story about this hub. I am humbled and honored that you ask. I am digging through a lot of pictures - trying to de clutter, and I have very, very few of my biological mother and father. I treasure each and every one. God bless, Sparklea :)


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LadyFiddler 3 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Hi Sparklea thanks for sharing with us part of your personal life sometimes telling us help heal any emotional scars you might be hanging unto speaking in general. When you keep it all inside it eats away at you I am so sorry to hear about your passed life thank God your future is better I can relate to some of the things you said as my Granny and my step grand dad brought up my two elder sisters and I. Parents wasn't taking up the slack as they should have but I try not to hold people in mind else GOD won't forgive me............

It was nice re-uniting with your mum and letting by gone be by gone. That was sad with your granny my own had two strokes so far and the first one was mild as they said but it really threw her down she cannot do much like she use to. It's a killer, may your granny soul rest in peace and yes your mum was beautiful was she German?


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thank you so much ladyfiddler for your taking time to read this hub, so much appreciated. My biological mother's maiden name was "Reincken" - German? Could be, not sure.

I found an old picture of my grandparents with my sister and I and I hope to eventually post it on this hub. It has been hectic. Nice to relate to someone on HP who were also raised by grandparents. I don't know how they do it. God bless all grandparents who raise their grandchildren.

Blessings, Sparklea :)


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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York Author

PS to Lady Fiddler:

Hubber MG Singh has done a book review on a book titled,

"All But My Life" by Gerda Weissmann Klein - who was in a concentration camp. I also read the book. Very powerful.


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brakel2 2 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Sparklea. What an inspiring story and so well written. Your descriptions and photos made me feel I was right there sharing joy and sadness you had so many people who loved you and no regrets, just love, for your precious mother. Thank you for sharing. Pinned and shared. Blessings. Audrey


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Sparklea 2 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Audrey, you have no idea how much your comments mean to me. Thank you so much for taking time to read this and for sharing and pinning it.

I always think of my mother during the holidays and Mother's Day. I see all these gorgeous cards in the stores for people's moms, and I would LOVE to get her one. But, as you point out, I have no regrets...when she passed she knew all was well, forgiven and that we held no animosity toward her. God bless you, Sincerely, Sparklea :)

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