I am a Better Cook than my Mother Was


I enjoy cooking; my mother did not. She made a real effort to see we ate well and the ingredients were always good but her heart and mind was not in cooking.

She liked to work and had a job as an office manger with a certified public account. She was also involved in politics, working on campaigns for provincial, municipal and federal politics. This interest I inherited from her.

Mom was instrumental in my first learning how to cook and then expanding upon that learning and developing dishes of my own.

When I complained about supper, usually something like fish sticks, parsnips or squash, she wouldsay fine, you don't have to eat it but you do have to make your own and a sandwich is not acceptable.

By the time I was 10, I often made supper on Saturday and Sunday nights and frequently made lunch. Friday nights we had fish and chips from Ollie Anne's on Browns Line; they were delicious.

When I moved out of the house, I frequently came home for Sunday dinners and always cooked. The same would happen at special occasions, birthdays, Christmas, Easter, and so on. We either went out or I cooked.

This allowed me to develop my ability and to experiment with a captive audience.

Because mom worked, her mother, my nanny, moved in with us when I was very young. I grew up with her being there when I’d come home form school for lunch, we'd make lunch together.

It was during those lunches and after school when nanny would get supper ready, I discovered spices and the secrets of soups and stews.

My mother did like to eat and could set a fine table and she taught me how to appreciate food and that presentation did make a difference.

Neither my mom nor my nanny were particularly adventuresome when it came to meals, meat, potatoes and vegetables were the norm. As I grew older and became more curious about food possibilities I began to try different foods and grew to appreciate the world of cookbooks and recipes; with the birth of the Internet the possibilities began seemingly limitless.

Today, I am passionate about cooking with stir fries beginning a personal favourite but stews and soups not far behind and of course a hearty salad and a hefty sandwich still makes a great meal. Thanks mom for letting me explore.

tofu stir fry

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brad4l 7 years ago from USA

I don't know if I am a better cook than my mother is now, but if you compare the food she cooked when I was growing up, to the food I cook now, I would say I am better. It seems, however, that now she cooks infinitely better than she did when I was younger.

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

thanks for dropping by

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Katherine Baldwin 7 years ago from South Carolina

Hi Bob, I think that I am a better cook than my Mother was. She was a good Southern cook and prefered to stick with that one cuisine. She certainly made sure all of her dishes were thoroughly cooked, though. I remember my oldest brother comenting that he didn't know fried eggs weren't supposed to be 'crunchy' until he left home for college, lol.


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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

If we enjoy cooking we build about what we experienced at home, thanks for dropping by, I like the crunchy eggs story.

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LifesStudent 7 years ago

Bob I can totally understand your Mum not liking to cook. It can be very difficult to be motivated at the end of a working day when cooking is not your passion. I also love the way you honour how she ensured you were well fed even though the food may have not been very imaginative. I'm currently introducing my son to the joys of cooking - we home school and he is 14 and has agreed to be the Thursday night cook. He quite likes it ... in fact we all "quite" like it and that usually ensures that there is at least a little bit of passion available at dinner time. Thanks for the great hub.

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

I understand her choices and respect them, learing how to cook is an important lifeskill. Thank for dropping by.

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cindyvine 7 years ago from Cape Town

Thanks for answering my request, Bob! My Mom is brilliant at entertaining and takes care of every detail, so I learnt from watching her and helping her getv ready for dinner parties. In that, she is an excellent cook. But for day to day meals, my mom was always busy and usually throughout high school I had to cook dinner, so I have perfected the humble stew and other budget type dinner meals.

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

You are welcome, stew is a hearty meal and creative. thanks for dropping by.

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VioletSun 7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

My Mother couldn't cook, was just not good in the kitchen, but like she used to say, I raised healthy children! She was very aware about herbs, and natural remedies. I cook better than Mom, and according to my s/o, better than his Mom as she also was not a very good cook. I guess being better than both Moms wouldn't convince anyone I am a good cook, LOL! but fortunately, I did learn to cook by following recipes and experimenting on my own.


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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

"I did learn to cook by following recipes and experimenting on my own." the secret to success. thanks for dropping by/

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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

I wish I could say I was a better cook than my mom! To be honest I don't really try to improve my culinary skills...there's always something else I could be doing! :P

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

we all have our own priorities, thanks for dropping by.

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RNMSN 7 years ago from Tucson, Az

hello Bob :) I love to Bake, I don't love to cook. My mom was a much better cook. But thats OK because my hubby and our daughter both love to cook!! But if you want something decadant? thats my thing!

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

we each have our own thing. thanks for dropping by

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Montana Farm Girl 7 years ago from Northwestern Montana

I'm glad you posted this on FB, as I sometimes forget to head back here. Great hub!!! I can so relate....my mom was the same, and I too developed a fondness for baking and cooking! My father was an excellent cook though, so he made up for my mother's disinterest... Now, I want to go cook something!!! :-) Karen Staydohar (Facebook)

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Bob Ewing 7 years ago from New Brunswick Author

what are you going to make? Thanks for dropping by.

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