Why Girls Like Men Who Can Cook?

Men who can cook--a rare and sexy breed?
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Want to impress a girl? Why not take a less conventional route and put a reverse spin to the expression, “The way to the man’s heart is through the stomach.” Yes, we’re talking men cooking to impress girls, for a change. Do girls find men who can cook sexy? Do men who can whip out a dish or two have an edge over his “cook clueless” counterparts? Culinary seductions—can you wield that one in the kitchen? I did some online research and the overwhelming answer is YES. Here are some real answers I found on reddit.com:

The question posted is: “Do girls find guys who cook more attractive than guys who don’t.”

Listen in:

All women love to get some pampering, even in the kitchen ~ zdm

Nothing brings people together like a good home cooked meal! ~ Itsjustmath

Totally agree ~ Rinsaikeru

I find a guy who cannot and won’t even try to cook unattractive—I don’t want to be the guy’s mother ~ Independent

It has been my experience with every single girl I’ve dated since I was 24(and learned a few things about cooking) that they have found it very awesome/sexy/hot that I know what I’m doing in the kitchen ~ MalevolentDragon

That said, are there tangible reasons why girls like men who can cook?

  • Feel Special

There are only three things women need in life: food, water and compliments ~ Chris Rock

Making a dinner reservation is easy—anyone can do it. But cooking—it’s different. Cooking takes time, effort and planning. Making that special effort tells her she’s special and cared for. What better way to convey that? You score and if your cooking is delicious, you win even more points. Serve up some water and compliment while you’re at it, and you would have provided all three things women need, according to Chris Rock. Score!


  • Two’s a company

We should look for someone to eat and drink with before looking for something to eat and drink. ~ Epicurus

For some strange reason, food tastes much better when there’s company. If you're a social hermit, I won't argue but food has traditionally been an interactive activity. Cooking and then dining with someone you care about can be totally satisfying. What's more?--the good food and company make for some good bonding time.

  • Quality Time

Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly ~ M.F.K. Fisher

Talking of bonding time, cooking for your date also provides time for you to get to know your date. In between chopping, grilling or waiting for the casserole to cook, both of you can unwind over a glass of wine and talk. ...a good way of knowing the other person up front and personal. And if she likes to cook too, this cooking thing can be a joint adventure and you could be cooking up some chemistry as well.

Napolean's Dating Advice

  • You’ve Skills

Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills ~ Napoleon Dynamite

So those words were uttered by Napoleon Dynamite, the main character in a low-key production that became an instant hit in 2004. In the scene, two school nerds were discussing their dating chances and Napoleon made that observation. Ok, that was a nerd talking. But that advice may have grounds for serious consideration—girls like men with capabilities, cooking skills included. In general, abilities and passion (for something you enjoy doing) are attractive qualities, so why not flaunt your cooking skills.


Of course, not everybody feels the same way. There are guys who absolutely hate to cook or girls who didn't care if their date/spouse can cook but if you’re a man who loves to cook, it’s a very plausible way for you to impress your date. You don’t have to be Jamie Oliver—he used to cook to impress his friends (no doubt some of them are girls) or Emeril who can kick knotches up any dish. You just have to enjoy cooking and be able to follow some basic cooking instructions (who can’t?).

If you’re already a cook, good for you—you already have one advantage. If not, why not learn some cooking skills to impress your date? Valentine's Day, Birthday treat, special holidays or occasions--let cooking be an expression of your love. In the long run, cooking is a skill that will serve you well—you need to eat and eating home-cooked food is one way to live fabulously, whenever you manage to impress your date or not.


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Make a Plate, Impress Your Date

What about you? Do you find men who can cook attractive?

  • Definitely..it shows he makes an effort.
  • Duh...who wouldn't?
  • Maybe, if that's something he enjoys doing
  • No...I'm the cook here and nobody messes with that.
  • I don't really care...cooking is not a determining factor.
  • That depends--is he a good cook?
  • Totally--sign me up.
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ahostagesituation 4 years ago

It's so hot. I like cooking, but I LOVE when they cook. Totally messes with my head. ;-). Good hub, voted awesome/up!


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rebeccamealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

I enjoyed reading this! I have known men that have been fantastic cooks. It seems they either don't cook at all or cook like a gourmet chef, nothing in between.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

My husband cooks but not all the time. I love it when he does cook because he is a good cook and I don't have to!


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zzron 4 years ago from Houston, TX.

I believe most women would find this attractive just like a guy would find a woman attractive who loves NASCAR or football.

I think that cooking is a good thing for a man to learn because he does eat and cooking for others shows a talent that a lot of men just don't have.

I help my wife a lot in the kitchen but she is the main cook. She does try to show me how to cook some things but she is a natural at it.


Arlene V. Poma 4 years ago

Out of all the men I dated, only one knew how to cook. Simple things, but I appreciated his meals and the lunches he would pack for me. My husband grills and barbecues. He can boil hot dogs in beer or boil water for Kraft Macaroni and Cheese. He has no interest cooking. At the same time, since he can't cook, he is stuck with whatever I fix for him. Including leftovers. Otherwise, he doesn't eat. Voted up and everything else.


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Dave Mathews 4 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

It is pretty straight-forward to me that girls today have no Idea how to cook. Put a spatula in their hands and they wouldn't even know which end to hold. Girls today spend more time in front of a mirror, or playing with their cell phones then they do spending in the kitchen with mom or grandma learning how to cook and feed themselves. Heck most girls today couldn't even figure out how to boil water.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

ahostagesituation, I totally agree with you. Hope the men are listening. Thanks for dropping by to comment.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

rebecca, it seems that traditionally men have been good chefs but when it comes to a domestic situation, men (not all) tend to take a back seat. I think women like it when they can sit back and let someone else do the cooking every once in a while. Thanks for yor valuable feedback.


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stephhicks68 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

If I had a man that could cook, I would probably gain a few pounds! I am the one that is responsible for planning meals, shopping and preparing. My husband cleans up afterward. Just once, it would be so romantic to come home to a homecooked meal 100% prepared by him, instead! Rated up!


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Pamela, good point and so glad your husband is a good cook. Nothing like home-cooked delicious food. Thanks for commenting.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

zzron, thanks for adding to this hub with your wonderful observation. You're right on. I think when genders cross traditionally-designated task, it's very cool. Glad you're helping out in the kitchen even if you're not the main cook. Bet your wife is happy. Thanks for commenting and have a wonderful year ahead.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Haha, Arlene, you do hold great power over your husband--he'll probably starve without you. I think we appreciate the attempt and effort more than how the food would turn out. Good to see you and enjoy your day.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Dave Matthews, haha, is that a rant against the way girls are raised these days? I know what you mean--I think basic culiary skills are useful, not just for survival sake. Enjoying the cooking process can be very satisfying. I used to help my mother cook, so cooking comes naturally. My mother is of the view that all girls should be taught how to cook, if not well, at least basic skills. I know she's old-fashioned but I'm glad she insisted on teaching me. Thanks for your comments and have a happy year ahead.


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Om Paramapoonya 4 years ago

I love it when Steve volunteers to cook dinner even though I have to clean up all the mess in the kitchen afterwards. His food is usually not even that great. I just like to see him with the skillet and spatula, I guess. haha


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moiragallaga 4 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

I love food but not that good in the kitchen (at least not as good as I would love to be, haha), so yes a man who can cook certainly appeals to me. My husband can cook, the trick is to get him to do it. All the men in his family and his dad are pretty good cooks, thing is he's the laziest among them in this area. I look forward to his omelette. He just mixes stuff with it. He once did a chicken parmigiana that was among the best I've ever tried. He used the "Joy of Cooking" as a recipe but improvised on the measurements and played around with some of the ingredients. Thing is, he didn't write down what he did so succeeding attempts didn't quite match that one time masterpiece and he's been reluctant to try it again. Love him for the effort though. Nice hub anglnwu.


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi anginwu, my husband doen't cook he 'hovers' in the kitchen, but you never know - one day maybe, I agree with steph it would be great to come home to a cooked meal!

Voted up and thanks for sharing, best wishes MM


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

stephhicks, I agree it's nice sometimes, to come home to a homd-cooked meal that is made by your significant other. My husband cooks once in a while and it's nice to not have to cook for a change. Thank goodness, he cleans so that's fair exchange. Thanks for commenting.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Om, it's nice to see men pottering around in the kitchen--something about that makes them adorable. My husband is the opposite--when he cooks, he cleans at the same time, so when the food is done, the sink is totally clean. He makes fun of me because I'm more like your Steve--the "schmutzmucker" as my husband calls me. I'm getting better....I think. Thanks for commenting.


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Om Paramapoonya 4 years ago

The "schmutzmucker"!!! Haha I like that. I'll call Steve that next time he doesn't clean up after cooking!


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

Lovely Article. I love men who can cook. You get really spoilt. No stress. Just lay the table and get out the wine. Nice to see Jamie Oliver above.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

moira, your husband definitely has a flair for cooking. He's a keeper and now, the only thing left for you to do is to motivate him to cook. The next time he attempts anytihng, stay close with a piece of paper--you may be whipping out a winner. Thanks for adding to this hub with your wonderful comments. Enjoy his cooking.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Movie Master, got to love that expression you used, "hovers"--I couldn't help but smiled. He's probably waiting for you to finish cooking, so he can taste your delicious food. Hopefully, one day, you can hover while he's cooking up a storm. Thanks for commenting.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

haha, Om, tell your newly crowned "Mr Schmutzmucker" he can keep the title. Thanks for checking back and have a great weekend.


Turkic 4 years ago

I am a guy and I can not cook, does that mean girls do not like me? :P

If you also added that there are girls who doesn't want that their husband our friend cooks, this hub would be more than incredible it would be AWESOME!

I like your hubs


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Lady E, I agree, sometimes, we need to get pampered. Thanks for dropping by to comment and yes, I always like Jamie Oliver--his cooking lessons are the best.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Turkic, definitely not--if you don't cook, you're still cool..and girls still like you. I'm just saying that cooking is one more trick you can use (if you happen to like cooking). I think I said that in the article but I'll elaborate. Glad you dropped by to comment and you definitely add to the hub with your observation. Thanks.


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rLcasaLme 4 years ago from Dubai, United Arab Emirates

I love cooking. My wife just loves it every time I cook. I will definitely try that mouth-watering steak recipe that Jamie Oliver just demonstrated. I can't wait to try. My wife's gonna love it.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

rLcasalme, you make your wife very happy. I love Jamie Oliver's cooking, give it a try to I'm sure your wife is gonna to love it. Thanks for dropping by to comment.


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oceansnsunsets 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

One thing I brag on my husband about, is that he not only enjoys cooking, but is a great cook. I know I am truly blessed in this way. Now I totally need to go on a diet, but many people have to do that and I wouldn't trade that. Great and fun hub! :)


wwolfs 4 years ago

Great hub! I too must brag on my husband who loves to cook and is a great cook. One of the first things he wanted to do for me when we dated was cook me a meal. I thought, "How cool is that? He might just be a keeper."

Voted awesome!


csheal6249 4 years ago

This is an interesting way to an ever lasting relationship. Even though I'm eating and hosting off my parents hard work, when it comes time, I too will cook equally like my partner. This is an encouraging article anglnwu. Voted Up for Good. Thanks.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

oceansunsets, you're truly blessed to have such a good cook for a husband. My husband says the same thing--that he needs to go on a diet because I made him food he likes. Too much of a good thing? Thanks for visiting.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

wwolfs, you're one lucky girl. Glad your husband enjoys cooking, a keeper for sure. Thanks for commenting.


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snakeslane 4 years ago from Canada

Hi anglnu, witty, fun, and so true. There should be no sexist stereotypes in the kitchen. If he does the dishes, it's even better. Regards, snakeslane


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

csheal, thanks for your encouraging comments. Cooking can be a great time of bonding for couples.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Snakeslane, I totally agree with you, there should be no sexist stereotypes in the kitchen. And like you, if the men does the dishes, so much the better. Mine does and I'm always glad about that. Thanks for commenting.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

give me a man that can cook.. Oh yeah.. fantastic.. thanks for a wonderful hub.

Debbie


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Ingenira 4 years ago

Interesting and wonderful topic to talk about.

I have known a few men who can cook, and they cook really well. It seems, when a man is interested in cooking, they do it with so much passion and perfection, that the food turns out really impressive.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Deborah, yes the plus side to having a man who can cook--you don't always have to be the one slaving away in the kitchen.

Ingenira, I agree with you. When men enjoy cooking, they can be very good. In fact, my brother owns a restaurant and he cooks so well, he puts me to shame. Thanks for your comment.


Rosh 4 years ago

I loved this Hub!

Fortunately due to the nature and circumstances my lady had she believes she doesn't know how to cook. She tries her best but its fun helping her out in the kitchen.

I prefer that than idling when a meal is being prepared.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Rosh, glad you liked it. Looks like you're having fun in the kitchen with your lady helping out. Thanks for dropping by to comment.


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

I love cooking as well. I think it's the way to express our feeling with our couple by making delicious food for her. That's why woman like men who can cook. It's like changing roles for a while. I believe that "love" will always on fire. Thank you very much. Rated up and take care!

Blessing,


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

prasetio, glad to see you here. With your cooking skills and vast knowledge of healthy foods, your date will be very impressed. Thanks for dropping by to comment.


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

Cookingrecipes, yay, you've got yourself all set up for success. thanks for dropping by to comment.


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jenniferg78 4 years ago from Philadelphia, PA

Great post and so true! I love a man that can cook. Men seem to be cleaner in the kitchen. Cleaning whilst they cook! If only more men would step up and cook!


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anglnwu 4 years ago Author

jenniferg, I've to agree that men seem to be cleaner in the kitchen. My husband washes as he cooks, so that by the time, it's done, there is no mess. On the other hand, I tend to let everything pile up and clean later. Thanks for commenting.

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