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How much would you tip a waiter or waitress?

  1. dishyum profile image61
    dishyumposted 6 years ago

    if you do tip, what percentage is it generally?

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      Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I usually tip 20%

    2. Hub Llama profile image79
      Hub Llamaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I tip the way it was originally intented, based on the level of service. I figure "good" service is a 15% tip. It adjusts up and down from there based on the level of service we get.

    3. sarovai profile image63
      sarovaiposted 6 years ago in reply to this


    4. stevewong profile image61
      stevewongposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      on top of the 15-20% rule, i always tip upwards if its somewhere I go all the time.  For example, if something deserves an 8.00 tip, i'll give them a 10.00 bill.  the extra few dollars will go a long way in building solid relationships.  you tend to get much better service over the long run.

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      Hubber Writesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I have followed the rule of 10 - 15% in a family restaurant, 15 - 20% in anything better than that and 20% minimum in a bar as drinks are much cheaper than any meal.

      I sometimes will ask the server if they have to contribute to a tip pool for the kitchen, bartender, bussers, hostesses etc...

      If any of the areas of service beyond the servers control are poor I will tip them more to compensate for what will be removed from their earnings that evening to make sure they know I'm happy with their efforts.

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 6 years ago in reply to this


    7. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 5 years ago in reply to this

      it varies from place to place, as the poorer quality of service results in less of a tip from me.  generally speaking though, i tip about 15 percent. 

      unless the waiter/waitress is someone that i know or they go out of their way to make me feel like more than just another face inside the restaurant, then i'd tip a bit more...generously too i might add considering that im poor.  lol.

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      Helpful Hannaposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I double the tax and round up when tipping.  If service is great, I'll give extra.

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    Lecieposted 6 years ago

    i rarely go to places that require tipping. but when i do i always tip 25% if the service was good. i take some off if there were problems. i never tip less than 10% though. i'm sure it's a very hard job to have and i always take that into account.

  3. Disturbia profile image62
    Disturbiaposted 6 years ago

    I say you can't tip too much.  You couldn't pay me enough to do the difficult and very often thankless job of waiting on people who are often abusive and treat you as their inferior.

  4. Glenn S. profile image59
    Glenn S.posted 6 years ago

    I usually always give 15%. If a waiter/waitress does a acceptional job I give 20%.

  5. Faybe Bay profile image83
    Faybe Bayposted 6 years ago

    Waitresses and waiters are taxed on estimated tips. What that means is this: They do not receive minimum wage, if they work 40 hours per week then they must make up the difference between their real wage and minimum wage, usually that amounts to about $5.00 per hour. A portion of their shift is spent on work that has nothing to do with tables, sidework, getting everything ready for the next shift. During this time they are making no tips at all. Add to that the fact that whatever they ring up on the register, 15% is generally accounted for as tips, but some people only tip 10%.

    Some tip nothing, and still others will walk out on a check and the waitress/waiter is responsible for that money too.

    20% or greater is what I always tip. I worked for tips for 28 tears.

    1. psycheskinner profile image80
      psycheskinnerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Assuming we are speaking of America.  In other countries they are paid the minimum wage like everyone else.

      1. Lisa HW profile image81
        Lisa HWposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        My daughter worked at Friendly's (in America) a few years ago, and she wasn't paid the "standard" minimum wage.  She was paid a really, really, low hourly rate with the thing that the rest of her pay would be in tips.  She'd bring home a little bag of money.  This was, maybe five years ago or so.  I couldn't believe it was set up like that.  If I understood/recall correctly, they divided up all the tips everyone got on a shift and shared them.

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    Kenrick Chatmanposted 6 years ago

    20%. More if they did a great job, the waitress is attractive, and/or I can expense the meal.

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      Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      A true socialist! You even want someone else to pay for your food! Why am I not surprised?

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        Kenrick Chatmanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        As a consultant, our clients pay for our expenses. So as long as I do not spend more than $75 for a meal, I do not have to show a receipt.

      2. psycheskinner profile image80
        psycheskinnerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Um, a true capitalist with job perks.

  7. Ivorwen profile image83
    Ivorwenposted 6 years ago

    It really depends on the place.  At buffets or places where you order at a counter, I tip 15%.  At regular restaurants I tip 20-25%, depending on the service and the amount of clean up the people will have to do. 

    A few times, I have tipped more, when my kids dropped food or spilled something. 

    A few times I have tipped less, when the service was awful (high waitress) or nearly non-existent.

    1. Daniel Carter profile image90
      Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Your standard is pretty much what I follow for places I don't frequent a lot. But I have a few favorite places with some really awesome wait staff. I love to bring people from out of town and the wait staff go all out for them. I leave huge tips when I can for these folks. And the guests always have a wonderful time and they refer other friends to visit the places I take them.

      So in these cases, it always pays back, which is the way it's supposed to work. I do the same when I'm out of town. I ask people for references of great places, and I tell them who I was sent by, and I often get fabulous service, free extras, and I always tip big. I think it's the way eating out is supposed to be.

  8. Shadesbreath profile image89
    Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago

    20% unless there was something that annoyed me, then 15%.  I don't tip at places where I get my food at a buffet or order over a counter, although occasionally I'll drop a buck or two into the jar if I think of it at a place like that.

  9. World Marketing profile image61
    World Marketingposted 6 years ago


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    Twenty One Daysposted 6 years ago

    20% of the total check average for good-very good service.
    10% if so-so.

    also remember when traveling, some places it is illegal to tip and other places -like the states- it is almost mandatory.

  11. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Generally 20%.

  12. K Partin profile image60
    K Partinposted 6 years ago

    I think the going rate is 15-20% I always tip 20% if the service is good. All depends on how attentive they are really. smile

  13. laylakhan profile image59
    laylakhanposted 6 years ago

    I give 20% - Its a safe number!

  14. KCC Big Country profile image82
    KCC Big Countryposted 6 years ago

    15-20% is my norm.  Like most, I sometimes adjust it based on good or bad service.  I don't tip at a buffet unless someone brings me drinks.  I don't tip when I order at the counter either.

  15. Lisa HW profile image81
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I don't think I've had had anything so "horrible" it would make me leave no tip.  I start with 15% in any place where tipping is done.  I'll add a little more for anything from OK enough to really great.  20%, I thought, was the rate in restaurants that are a "cut above" the average IHOP type of type of place.

  16. ediggity profile image61
    ediggityposted 6 years ago

    20% for a great job, and lower for a less than stellar performance.  Someone once told me that you don't include alcoholic drinks in the tip, is that true?  I always do.  I also get irritated at the places that include a service charge.

  17. goldenpath profile image82
    goldenpathposted 6 years ago

    In my opinion tipping should never be an obligation of a customer nor should they ever be made to feel obligated.  The price for the good and/or services is posted.  That is what the customer is obligated to sacrifice for it.  It is not the customer's fault for the wages of the employee or their own bills and hardships.  Nevertheless, they chose that occupation.  I have nothing against tipping, but one should never feel obligated to practice this when in receipt of goods and services.  Call me old fashioned or the result of my mid-western roots but I believe in paying for what you perceive is the value of the product.  In other words what's posted as a price.  Tipping should always be from the heart and an expression of thanks and quality of services rendered, not an obligation.

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      chriskreitleinposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm not going to call you old fashioned; I'm going to call you deluded and ridiculous. The issue is not the choice of the server to work for tips, but the choice of the patron to go to an establishment with a waitstaff. I find it hard to believe that you don't see the obligation of compensation when you benefit from at least an hour's worth of work from a server. You might only have seen me take your order, bring you three drinks, run your food and prebus your table, but in reality I got there an hour before we opened, made 50 salads, distributed 100 lbs or plates around the restaurant so other servers could bring them to you promptly for your pizza, got on my hands and knees and picked dirt from under your booth, and unstacked 100 chairs off of tables. Are you going to sit there and tell me that I did all that for my 2.63 an hour BEFORE taxes and you aren't obligated to make up the difference for the privilege of being served at a nice place?

      Please, feel obligated. Or, stick to McDonalds you miserly old man.

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      MEKennedyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm going to agree with Chriskreitlein here, Goldenpath: I didn't "choose" to wait tables because I enjoy working my behind off for $3.63/hour, and if you don't want to tip you should go somewhere without servers. If you're unhappy with the service, by all means leave a stingy tip, but if you stiff me for anything less than dropping hot coffee on your baby I will think less of you. This isn't about "midwestern upbringing"--I've got one of those, too, and I believe it's basic decency to tip as generously as I can afford.

      I stick to rule that I tip anybody who does something for me that I could do myself; that means maids, waitstaff, the guy who helped me with my bags in the airport, etc. I have to be really strapped for cash and unable to use credit before I'll stiff one of these people.

      Think of it this way: unless you perceive the service as being so bad it's worth only half of your state's minimum wage--in other word, so bad that the server doesn't deserve enough money to LIVE--tip something. Two dimes and some pocket lint would be sufficient.

      1. Uninvited Writer profile image82
        Uninvited Writerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Restaurants should pay their employees better...

        1. Sally's Trove profile image100
          Sally's Troveposted 6 years ago in reply to this


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          barschoolsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Restaurants pay their employees based on government regulation and industry standard, just like everyone else. If you think the minimum wage should be changed, consider introducing a bill to your local government requiring it. However, in America, tipping is considered polite and a better way to fairly pay the wait staff. The truth is, servers and bartenders would make much less if they were paid according to the laws of most other jobs. Many hospitality employees work in a very stressful environment, and if forced to pay what the job is worth most restaurants would fold in a month because the profit margin is already thin as it stands.

          You can either choose to keep your meals cheaper by tipping your servers, or pay twice as much for your meal to make up for the extra money they'd put out in salary.

          It's really up to the patron - you DON'T have to walk in to a full-service restaurant.

    3. psycheskinner profile image80
      psycheskinnerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I think that it is the customers responsibility to pay the tip the system assumes you will pay unless service is terrible--or not frequent the establishment.  Saying 'not my problem' won't feed the service workers kids.

  18. lightning john profile image61
    lightning johnposted 6 years ago

    25%  and more if they can tell me a good joke dujour.
      I'm not sure about the dujour spelling though!

  19. becca7176 profile image61
    becca7176posted 6 years ago

    Absolutely 20%.  At least....  To me, if you do out to eat at a sit down restaurant, whether a fancy, expensive one or just a sports bar, you should expect to pay a percentage of the bill as a tip and include it in your perceived value of the experience.

  20. optimus grimlock profile image60
    optimus grimlockposted 6 years ago

    I go by their performance. How many times do they fill my drink, did they ask if I needed anything, were they knowledgeable on the menu, were they easy to talk to and not over barring. So if im dying of thurst and your rude you get noda!!!! Most of the time I tip over 15% depends on my mood and the state4d performance!

  21. Chloe Comfort profile image60
    Chloe Comfortposted 6 years ago

    15% is what I usually leave, unless they did a really crappy job (attitude, got my order wrong, forgot about something, never checked on the table, etc...), then I'll leave 10%, but I always leave something.

  22. Wendy Krick profile image49
    Wendy Krickposted 6 years ago

    15% If the service was exceptional, then it would be 20%.

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    Rifleman1776posted 6 years ago

    For full service, I tip 20%. Poor service will get less. Really lousy service I leave nothing.
    If the 20% is less than $2.00 I leave a minimum of $2.00.
    Partial service, such as at a buffet, about 10%.

  24. Polly C profile image87
    Polly Cposted 6 years ago

    From my experience, most people don't tip more than about 10% here in England (some people barely tip at all, even when they enjoy their meals) - I used to work in a restaurant and the tips were not good at all, even when the customers were happy, which they generally were.  But occasionally we would get some American tourists and they always tipped way above everyone else!! They even tipped when going up to the bar for drinks and no one else ever does that!

    How do the wages of the waitresses compare in the US compared to England, I wonder. I got barely any tips, maybe only around £10 per week sometimes (that was for only a couple of shifts, mind), but the minimum wage is currently £5.80 per hour.

    1. Mrvoodoo profile image60
      Mrvoodooposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I was just wondering that myself, as some above are saying that they're earning $3.50 an hour or less, whereas at £5.80 that's $8.33 an hour.  Quite a difference.

      But then England doesn't really have the tipping culture of the states.  And whilst I do tip if I eat at a restaraunt (which is rare) I personally always thought that Mr Pink had a good point.

      MR. BLONDE: These people bust their ass. This is a hard job.

      MR. PINK: So's working at McDonald's, but you don't feel the need to tip them. They're servin ya food, you should tip em. But no, society says tip these guys over here, but not those guys over there. That's bullshit.


      MR PINK: When I worked for minimum wage, I wasn't lucky enough to have a job that society deemed tipworthy.

  25. Greek One profile image81
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    just enough over the table to expose their naughty parts

    1. myownworld profile image78
      myownworldposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      you take the cake for the funniest forum posts ever!

      Ok... you can tip me my 10% now...wink

      1. Polly C profile image87
        Polly Cposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think the going rate on here is 20% smile

      2. myownworld profile image78
        myownworldposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I know, but look at the effort I put in - hardly any...! Only fair you know.... wink

  26. Sally's Trove profile image100
    Sally's Troveposted 6 years ago

    A minimum of 15%, unless a wait person is completely horrid, in which case I leave nothing and also tell a manager or supervisor why.

    I think the tipping custom is wrong. It's a way for restaurant owners to avoid the cost of payroll, a cost that any other business must assume.

    I think it also cheapens the dining experience for the customer and cheapens the important business function a server has. The praise for a meal served well ought to be measured in promotions and salary, as praise for a good job is measured anywhere else.

    Polly C, I like the British custom. Wait persons are paid good wages from what you describe, far above the minimum wage here in the US.

    I'm adding taxi drivers, limo drivers, bellhops, hotel housekeeping staff, and many more in addition to restaurant wait staff who ought to be compensated appropriately by their employers, employers who pocket the profits earned not by their own work, but by the work of service people who "sell" the establishment at every turn in order to get a good tip.

    1. Polly C profile image87
      Polly Cposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Well, I wouldn't call it a good wage - it isn't possible to survive on the minimum wage, not really.

      I never tip taxi drivers - not that I don't want to, they're usually very nice, but they are so expensive in the first place that I begrudge paying anymore!

      1. Mrvoodoo profile image60
        Mrvoodooposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think it depends on your definition of survival.  In other countries this means the ability to put food in your belly and if you're lucky a roof over your head.  In England 'surviving' means still being able to have broadband access, satellite TV, a nice mobile phone and laptop, and the occasional night out on the town.  These things are not necessities.

      2. Sally's Trove profile image100
        Sally's Troveposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Perhaps you don't know that the US federal minimum wage is 7.25 USD per hour. However, employees who rely on tips to augment their wages are not protected by this minimum.

        If you are paid the equivalent of 8.33 USD per hour for your service job in the UK, you are far, far ahead of your colleagues across the pond.

        For some eye-opening words about what workers get paid as a "minimum wage" in the US when they are employed in the service industry where tips are considered salary, as in taxable income, even when those tips don't come from their employers, take a look at this from the US Department of Labor:


        If ever there was a policy of business owners having every conceivable opportunity to avoid paying fair wages, this is it.

        There are people here who would stand in 5-day-long lines to get an $8.33 per hour job that did not penalize them for earning tips, no matter how paltry the tips might be.

  27. Polly C profile image87
    Polly Cposted 6 years ago

    That's true - perhaps 'survive' was not the right word. I know there is abject poverty in the world. I wasn't really talking in that context, though, more in comparison to the united states.

    I don't agree that it's all about having broadband, mobiles, laptops, though. Apparently one in three children in the UK lives in poverty (i.e. below the breadline). Are you in the UK?

    I know that my partner has a good job and we live in a small house (my youngest son does not even have a bedroom yet), plus we bought our house years ago so our mortgage payments are quite low. We would not be able to pay our mortgage plus bills on minimum wage, unless we got benefits as well.

  28. rebekahELLE profile image91
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    I don't think mid-western roots has anything to do with your stated views here GP.

    it's part of our culture in the US and I think it's common courtesy to tip someone for their service to you. I think it varies around the country, but I generally tip 20-25%, sometimes more if it was exceptional service, or if the meal was very good and inexpensive.  I was a waitress for a while in my early 20's and it is nice to see when people appreciate your work.

  29. esatchel profile image88
    esatchelposted 6 years ago

    We pay 20% as a rule. To be honest, I don't remember when we have given less. We have given more - sometimes the service is simply extraordinary. I am thinking of instances such as enjoying a rare meal with a group of friends where there were a lot of us, we were all thirsty, and stayed at the table along time. The wait staff deserve more in those circumstances. We have also had some wonderful experiences where the wait staff has gone out of their way to advise on dishes or the local scene, interesting sites.

    We make a point to keep in mind that if things are running slowly, or the food is bad, it probably isn't the wait staff's fault. Life is like that and generally, if we find ourselves enjoying a meal in a restaurant, being served by someone even moderately attentive to our needs, a meal we are able to pay for and have the time to enjoy, we choose to be grateful and thank the person who acts as the 'face' of the restaurant with a good tip.

    One other rule we choose to keep is to always give $5 minimum, even if 20% is less than $5. This includes the pizza delivery guy.

    It makes us happy!

  30. rebekahELLE profile image91
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    I agree 100% with you. especially when there is a large party with many needs and we want to take longer at the table. we always leave a very generous tip. we have waiters at a couple restaurants who love when we show up and we are taken care of very well. 
    It's not a waiters problem if they messed up in the kitchen and too often they get the brunt of it with a lousy tip.
    I have found that if you treat the wait staff with respect, you generally get better service.

  31. tdanielle55 profile image60
    tdanielle55posted 6 years ago

    My friend is a server at a high end place an she says that you should always be tipping 18 to 20% for good service but never ever less than double the tax, wich is usually 16%, but thats at a high end place

  32. SEO Expert Kerala profile image60
    SEO Expert Keralaposted 6 years ago

    As per the service offered by them, I used to provide the tip to waiter or waitress. If the perfect service is provide by them then I used to give up to 10$  but if appropriate service is not provided to me then only 5$ are enough I think.

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      sweettravelposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      it depends from country to country. Usually i give around 10 % of total amount. But i know, that in US it should be more, as waiters and waitresses       do not have any salary.

  33. Valux profile image80
    Valuxposted 6 years ago

    I gotta say it depends on where I am and the total of the check.  If it's a place where I order my food and take it from a counter I personally don't see the point in tipping as the people there are not getting paid based on tips.  At restaurants I go for the 15% usually, however if at a high end restaurant I will adjust up and if I order a drink that comes from the bar I throw in an extra couple of dollars in case of tip sharing.  But it also really depends on my service.  My biggest pet peeve is having my glass empty.  Unless the waiter/waitress has an insane amount of tables, my tip goes down for every 5 minutes my glass remains empty, and if I get one of those servers that never comes back to check on the table until it's "ready for dessert?" then their tip is minimum wage multiplied by how long I was there.  For example the minimum wage in Florida is $7.25 (which is depressing cause when i started working it was $5.15, anyways) so if I get bad service and am in the restaurant for 45 minutes the tip is 7.25 x .75 or $5.44 assuming that is no more than 10% of my check.  Sounds complicated but I have worked in the industry and busy is one thing, thoughtless and uncaring is another.

  34. Sunny_S profile image60
    Sunny_Sposted 6 years ago

    I tip so much that it starts to rain. Joke
    I tend to tip an extra 10%.

  35. Midasfx profile image64
    Midasfxposted 6 years ago

    I tip at max 20% for food and $1 per drink at a bar.

  36. joaniemb profile image60
    joaniembposted 6 years ago

    I tip 20%
    sometimes a little more. I was a waitress many moons ago lol

  37. wytegarillaz profile image41
    wytegarillazposted 6 years ago

    years ago in a chinese restaurant  AustraliaI worked for a low $8 an hour , nowdays I think its about $17 . I am working in a coffee shop, cooking etc for $20 hour.
    Once I was working in a coffee shop where all the tips had to go into a jar.
    When I asked in abot may when we got our tips i was told " the tips are for all of us to go for drinkees at xmas "
    I started keeping some of the tips , If $3 , I would put $2 in my bra , $1 in jar as they always watched us.
    It was like a money scramble when i got undressed!
    I enjoyed waitressing , tried to make it as nice for the customer as possible , if they were rude i still always said have a nice day !

  38. Flightkeeper profile image79
    Flightkeeperposted 6 years ago

    I nomally tip 20%. I used to wait tables and I know how hard it is.  I give a little bit more if I have breakfast at my local diner. In general I tip a little more at restaurants that I go to and where they know me and are extra considerate.

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      mtsi1098posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Same for me

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    Restaurnatconsultposted 6 years ago

    It depends on where you are at.  I think this world is really over inflated as if you goto most contries they don't tip at all.   Some waiters in America make more then teachers and that is insane!

  40. camlo profile image83
    camloposted 6 years ago

    I always give at least 10%.
    Here in Germany the tip works out at about 5%, but should be 10%. In restaurants (rather than cafés or bars) it should be given in banknotes and not coins.
    If it weren't for the tip, the waiter's job wouldn't be worth doing.

  41. MyMastiffPuppies profile image72
    MyMastiffPuppiesposted 6 years ago

    I waited tables for many years and it makes it hard to leave without tipping no matter how bad the service. You can usually determine if they are new or just slammed being the reason for lack of attention and you can tell when they really need to find another line of work, but I always leave a few bucks. If we get poor but adequate service- 10%, if it is average or above average it could be 15%-25%. It is a tough job, that let's face it, just ain't what it used to be. Many restaurants require so much more than just taking care of your customers that sometimes it just is not their fault.

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    ralwusposted 6 years ago

    depends on how high her skirt is and how pretty and shapely too. wink No skirt, no tipping.

  43. Joy56 profile image61
    Joy56posted 6 years ago

    We always tip everyone, we are mugs like that.  some waiters and waitresses do  not deserve to be tipped, so they do not get much from us.  In America we found they were so nice, mainly because they wanted a good tip, it worked for them it worked for us.  Everyone was happy

  44. CASE1WORKER profile image85
    CASE1WORKERposted 6 years ago

    I Usually tip about 10 per cent if service is good- after all it can make the meal
    Both my daughters work as waitresses at Pizza Hut between college days. Although some people do tip, they have had instances where tables of 20 diners have not left a tip, or worse still said keep the change which might be 2p

  45. puter_dr profile image85
    puter_drposted 6 years ago

    It usually varies between 10 and 25 percent, depending on how good the service was. It has to be pretty bad for the waiter/waitress to get less than 15.

    If things happen that are beyond the servers control, kitchen screwups etc, we still tip our server, regardless.

  46. Hendrika profile image74
    Hendrikaposted 6 years ago

    Here in South Africa a 10% tip is given as a habit. It does not really have anything to do with how good or bad the service was. For excellent service I will tip up to 15%

  47. rugsdynamic profile image61
    rugsdynamicposted 6 years ago

    Well it really depends on the satisfaction. That includes food, service and the restaurant itself. My tip usually range from 10-20% but when everything fails, I don't tip.

  48. clintonb profile image61
    clintonbposted 6 years ago

    It depends on the country. In Australia it isn't expected to tip. But if someone gives you exceptional service, you may sometimes leave them the change as a tip or give them a bit extra to thank them.

  49. melpor profile image90
    melporposted 6 years ago

    I generally tip the waiter/waitress 15% of the cost of the total bill. It is common courtesy to tip these workers in this kind of  jobs because their wages are generally very low.

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    miolunaposted 6 years ago

    20% or more. It depends how they did their job.