DISTURBING FEELING ABOUT YOUR SEXUALITY?Because of family morale

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   tataycalixtoposted 13 years ago

   People hide their skeleton in the closet for that longer they can..is it thrue that family that is dyfunctional can always comes out with children who are lesbian or gay?

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      Kimberly Bunchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      A dysfunctional family doesn't have anything to do with it. Young children will often develop a 'gender preference' for their self early on. Signs of that will show in their personality and their preferences to what they like and don't like.
      
      Ignorance is the root of all evil. I guess that is why they say knowledge rules!

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      Dave Mathewsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      To hide one's true self is the sign of a coward. Why do you care what any other person thinks? You are a unique individual, and whether others approve or not is not something to concern yourself over. What you see is what you get like it or not.

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         Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Kind of difficult when "religious" folks won't leave people alone, simply because others do not live like they do.
         
         Just a thought.

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   Nick Bposted 13 years ago

   I don't think it makes the least bit of difference.
   
   I think what DOES make a difference is when the child is ostracised for his or her sexuality.
   
   At the end of the day, whether they like people of the same sex or the opposite sex, they're still family
   
   Sadly, families can often treat a gay or a TG child worse than if they were rapists or lying, thieving, cheating murderers.
   
   I don't think dysfunctional families have the monopoly on producing GLBT children.

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   akirchnerposted 13 years ago

   I agree with the posts - I think that the trouble starts when anyone feels 'judged' for their behavior, whether it be sexual or otherwise!
   
   The odd thing to me is that religious folks are supposed to be so 'god-like' but I always ask the question 'what kind of a god would judge people like this?'  That usually solves the question for me!
   
   Tolerance seems hard to come by no matter what the subject matter.

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   Daniel Carterposted 13 years ago

   Gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered children come from all walks of life, from very loving, wonderful families and from families that are very dysfunctional and unhealthy.
   
   It's a lot more about genetics than it is environment. But many factors contribute to one's sexual identity. But a dysfunctional family life is not the basis for why there are gay or lesbian children.

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   Flightkeeperposted 13 years ago

   I'm not really sure whether a dysfunctional family can result in children born being inherently gay.  I have read or heard of situations where a very young child was emotionally, sexually, and physically abused it affected their choice for a partner.
   
   There's several scientific reports that say gayness results from chemical imbalances and I don't think they've found a gay gene yet so I don't know.
   
   I think what's important is if the family is dysfunctional, get help.  If a child is born, give the child love and care, regardless of anything.

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      iceprincess2193posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I completely agree with you on that . I mean , i was sexually abused as a child by my brother & it has definitely taken a toll on my sexuality/trust . The abuse went on for about 4yrs until he just stopped coming over . After that it was kinda like I began to gravitate more toward females because i "couldn't trust men " . After a little experimenting , i decided that i couldn't open up to my family about it , so i became "bisexual" to hide my true feelings . I met the first love of my life and decided to have sex with him because my whole mentality was : " I've already been touched , so why not just do it ?"
      
      I guess you could say it had somewhat to do with my "dysfunctional family " . I really don't know .

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   Studies from various well-established medical schools have confirmed that the chances of a male child being born homosexual is directly proportionate to the amount of Chiquita bananas his mother digests during the second trimester

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      Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Bananas, huh.
      I suppose there's something to do with amounts/size and all that?
      
      

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