Women want rich husbands : Report

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   pisean282311posted 13 years ago

   A new report suggests that gender equality may be a myth after all – it found that women today still want to 'marry up' – they want husbands who earn more than they do.
   
   Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics suggests men dominate the top positions because women simply do not want careers in business.
   
   "Women's aspiration to marry up, if they can, to a man who is better-educated and higher-earning persists in most European countries,".
   
   "Women thereby continue to use marriage as an alternative or supplement to their employment careers," she added.
   
   "It is thus not surprising that wives generally earn less than their husbands, and that most couples rationally decide that it makes sense for her to take on the larger share of child care, and to use most or all the parental leave allowance," Hakim said.
   
   Hakim also accused feminists of manufacturing 'political ammunition for a war that has ended'.
   
   "Women today have more choices than men, including real choices between a focus on family work and/or paid employment. Despite this, many politicians and feminists appear disappointed with the slow pace of change in women's attainment of top jobs," Hakim said.
      
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   Pandoras Boxposted 13 years ago

   I wouldn't know, really. If discrimination is still happening then that's an issue. I agree the fact that more men even as a percentage in top positions doesn't necessarily translate into discrimination.
   
   It was always important to me that I be there for our kids, and my husband never had a problem with that. It was very tight. For years in fact. But we always made it.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      hmmm

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   habeeposted 13 years ago

   Had a rich husband. Traded him in for a middle-class one. Good move.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      

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   Abbasangelposted 13 years ago

   I married a student earning less than me - to the point where my income was only the one.... So no I don't agree. I am not going to trade him in now that he is earning more than me to prove I am not in it for the money.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      but did u ever aspire to marry a rich person ?...or you never ever thought about that?

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         Abbasangelposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Not "Rich" but definitely able to work...

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   CMHypnoposted 13 years ago

   I think that what women dream of doing and what they actually do is two different things.
   
   In reality women marry men they fall in love with whatever their job or financial circumstances - but if single and daydreaming about a future spouse the George Clooney type -tall, dark, handsome and rich - is more likely to be the object of their aspirations.  I don't have many girlfriends who have wistfully dreamed of meeting someone who collects trollies in a supermarket or flips burgers, but they may have fallen madly in love with them when they have met them!

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   pilesnowayposted 13 years ago

   Just want to share this:
   
   I just remembered one time in our psychology class when I was on college, our teacher said that a study shows that women are looking for security--security in terms of financial and stability--while men are looking for the physical attributes.
   
   In my own opinion, this study is not a subject of generalization. It may be that a large portion of women wanted to marry someone who is rich. (So as in men, there is a portion who never cares about physical attributes.)
   
   At the end, it will still speak of the uniqueness and individuality of us--humans. We follow what we believe is right and good. And this breaks all the stereotyping.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      agreed...

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   evvy_09posted 13 years ago

   There is no such thing as true gender equality.  Men and women have different strengths and weaknesses.  No one gender is better but we are different.  Women usually take care of the children because they aren't given a choice.  Men can't grow a baby inside them for 9 months.  It's natural and usually necessary for the woman to be the main caregiver for at least the first couple years.  How do we have more choices than men?

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   beauTnBrainsposted 13 years ago

   I don't think that as many women believe in the concept of marrying up as they used to.We are a lot more independent and career driven. The women who have those dreams of marrying rich and staying home don't fall into that independent catergory. Yet, they give the facade of independence until they catch the man that they want. These women derail the progress of feminism. Because of these women those of us who decide to be professionals are looked down upon if we don't have children and even worse when we work 40+ hours and have children.

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   Pandoras Boxposted 13 years ago

   The important thing isn't to get a career, or to marry a rich man. It's to choose a partner whom you can love for the long haul, and who will want to work together with you to build a good life going forward.
   
   That's the trick, rich or poor, regardless of careers.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      well said..

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    elopeposted 13 years ago

    Its true, in my opinion. 'Some' (and im using this word losely) women do prefer to marry up. I would personally love to work hard and make more money than my husband, but the fact is, that when I have children, I will have to be home more than my husband to take care of the child's childhood, so that they actually experience a childhood. There is nothing worse than sticking children in childcare until school and then having 6 year olds catch buses to school because both their parents are attending to their high paid, time consuming/stealing occupations. Yes, sure, I'd still love to keep my high profile job that my university degree (that left me with huge debt) aided in gaining, but children need to be children and they need to be at home to experience child like things and they need THEIR parent(s) there, not some babysitter while their mummy is out trying to create gender equality instead of being a mother.
    I have gone a little off, but as I was saying, women want to marry up to be secure not only for themselves but for the children they are tending to while their high paid husband is making the dosh to keep the family comfortable, giving the mother an option to stay at home or work part time for her sanity to remain intact.

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