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   Zaiden Jaceposted 13 years ago

   Could you stay married if your spouse cheated on you?

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      katiem2posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      hmmmm being married is difficult at best.
      
      It depends on the situation.

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      Cathyrinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It depends upon the degree of his "cheating".

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         Zaiden Jaceposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         He/She had sex with someone that isn't you.

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            Cathyrinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Well, there's always a room for forgiveness.

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      lynevejcntposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I wouldnt be able to i hold on to the smallest grudges sometimes.. it would just make me go crazy if i stayed.. so no

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   kmackey32posted 13 years ago

   Nope.....

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   tnderhrt23posted 13 years ago

   Most definitely not!

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   Pcunixposted 13 years ago

   Sex is only one part of a relationship and is hardly the most important.
   
   I think that people who get extremely upset over things like this are insecure, attach too much importance to sex, or think they own or control the other person.
   
   But, it does depend upon circumstances, reasons, what else is going on and a zillion other factors, of course. It just isn't automatic in a good relationship.

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      Zaiden Jaceposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      True sex is only part of the relationship and there are many people that are okay with it. I am not so sure insecurity is the only thing. When you marry someone they are supposed to be committed to you. If a person can look their partner in the face and say he/she slept with someone else and they are okay with it then more power to both persons.
      
      I think that if that doesn't truly bother either person then their relationship is probably really strong

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         Pcunixposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well, I can't imagine cheating without some hurt. We aren't talking about swingers, open marriages, etc. So this would usually  involve some element of deception in most cases (unless confessed immediately).  The deception would hurt even if the sexual activity did not.

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   awesome77posted 13 years ago

   It should be a deal breaker! The trust factor is gone after cheating and without trust it becomes a "shell" marriage.

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      Zaiden Jaceposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah i have to agree. If it was an open relationship then yes but the trust would definitely be gone, especially if they tried to hide it.

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      tnderhrt23posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      a relationship without trust is no relationship...I agree with the "deal breaker" concept.

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   Tilecleaninghubposted 13 years ago

   Well if your wife cheats on you it is a deal breaker.  If you cheat on your wife then she should give you a second chance.  Us men are weak and that other woman played on that weakness to get us in bed and not thinking with the correct head.

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      Zaiden Jaceposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is the saddest thing I've heard all day. Everyone has will power. If they choose to use it or not is up to them. And by your logic it would work the other way too. And for the record I know many faithful, loyal men. Sorry to break it to you but just because you are weak doesn't mean the rest of the men are.

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         jm.orbzposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Hi, I am 24 not married, but in my own opinion if your husband cheated and both of you tried to patch up things..you can start again. I believe anyone deserves a second chance, however if his being polygamous makes your life miserable and your relationship is unhealthy then well I think you should let it go. :-)

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