What Makes Marriages Successful?

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   jayb23posted 14 years ago

   In a fictional hub which I have written titled P.S. I still love you - Part 1 , I came across alot of readers specially women readers who identified with the story. Women prefer men who can love them unconditionally and care for them. Based so far on the interactions that I have had I wonder what really makes marriages tick? Does Financial stability of the husband matters or that he is a loving husband matters more as in he may not be that financially good but nevertheless he is caring and loving. So in a nutshell what scores more Financial Stability or Love?

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      Lgaliposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think Financial stability is more important.

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      lisafwg01posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I can only speak for myself, but, for me, financial means don't matter when it comes to how I feel about a man. I am more than capable of taking care of myself financially; who a man is in terms of personality, values and how he treats me is far more important than what's in his wallet.

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   jayb23posted 14 years ago

   So you mean to say love should second or may be third in a marriage? Will marriages where money scores above love survive the test of times?

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      Lgaliposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      if you have no money how you can live always fights for daily requirements

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         lisafwg01posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Why does the man have to be the primary wage earner? Would you love a man less simply because you made more money than he does?

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            Lgaliposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I think both have finacial responsibilty

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      LornaDaneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Probably as long as the money does.

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         Lgaliposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I find money and love sometime go together

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            jayb23posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I believe both money and love have their own place in marriage and which is more important depends upon individual's personality and the external envoirnment.

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               Lgaliposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               without money no fun

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            Zeta Sficoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Agree. when you find a lover, of course love will be in the first place. but, when you want to live together (married), money will take over. how can you live without money?? as long as the financial status is good, then go on with ur lovely lover..

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   LornaDaneposted 14 years ago

   By financial stability you imply that the person can live responsibly and within their means no matter the income. While this is by no means the most important factor in compatibility, I'd have to say that it ranks higher than love.
   
   If we are really talking about financial status then you aren't going to find out what is more important in general because if financial status is important to you then love is merely and bonus and vice versa. One really has nothing to do with the other.

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   jayb23posted 14 years ago

   In today's world a man is no longer the primary wage earner. Women have become financially independent. It all then boils down to the ego factor of both men and women and if there is love ego will not be a problem.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   If the love is the right kind of love it will survive financial instability.  On the other hand, if it isn't quite the right the kind of love, financial instability can (and probably will) erode it.  Then again, solid financial stability can kind of mask a lot of imperfections in the kind of love people have.
   
   Having said all that, I think - when it comes down to it - having the right type of love is the thing that immunizes the relationship against breaking up.

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      jayb23posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Spot on. I completely agree to this.

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      freelanceworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree with above both replies.
      Money is not something which can break a marriage on its own.
      Crisis bite but cant kill!
      
      It all about the Purity of Love.
      
      3 Cheers for the real lovers

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   Pete Maidaposted 14 years ago

   It is probably a matter of perspective.  If a couple lives in a small community and no one has a great deal of money; then money will not be a big factor.  If a couple lives in a metropolitan area and they were doing well and suddenly there is a financial crash; that will be difficult to handle.  I strong relationship may weather the storm.

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   Hauntyposted 14 years ago

   jayb23, depends of the object of love...

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      mandybeauposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      AAAH what makes marriage successful one word DIVORCE lol.

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   Gods Gardenposted 14 years ago

   Communication, Trust, Passion, Respect, Love....without these you can have all the money in the world and your Marriage is Doomed.

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   guidebabaposted 14 years ago

   Trust + Love + Satisfaction + Finance + Children

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    HealthCare Basicsposted 14 years ago

    Wanting to be together, satisfying each others needs on both physical and emotional levels, and never having doubts in each others trust is what I believe keeps two people in a healthy relationship. Money doesn't bring love, but it does help with shopping..........

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 14 years ago

    two good forgivers????????

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       SirDentposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Very good answer here.

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    Dink96posted 14 years ago

    Mutual love, respect, admiration, a sense of fun and adventure, trust, the ability to laugh with each each other, cultivation of your own friends' and interests, a nice ass, and a good dancer.  (What?  Okay, 9 out of 11 ain't bad.)  But even with all of these, you can't guarantee a successful marriage.  It takes careful tending, to keep and maintain a successful marriage.  The road stretches out flat and the tedium can make things boring at times.  But that's when you have to really get creative and get things rolling along.  I would love to see He Said, She Said weigh in on this one.....

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