The Hand Shake.

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   MP50posted 12 years ago

   My hand shake is my bond, if I shake hands with another person. I will carry out, without fail what we have shook hands on.
   
   Is the hand shake still necessary in 2012, what does it mean to you and do you still use it.
   
   I have noticed that with some people, the hand shake means nothing anymore. Most Men have cold wet sweaty hand shakes these day's and do not stick to the hand shake agreement.
   
   However the hand shake of a woman these day's has become more firm and meaningful, have you noticed this and what are you thoughts on this question.
   
   Thank You.

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      calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am the same MP50, my handshake is also my bond and promise however thats because were I live in Northern England we still follow the old traditions and manners and you sort of step back in time 50 yrs here, compared to the more modernistic parts of England.

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         MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hey calpol25,
         
         You are right North England has stuck with the old traditions, I am an english Man myself, Dorset.
         
         Here in Sweden the people Hug instead of a hand shake, took me a while to get used to some big fat hairy viking, giving me a squeeze.
         
         The hand shake has no meaning here, unfortunatly.

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            calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I used to work with a swedish girl called Anna she was lovely and she taught me a little bit of the language and she always hugged, I remember when we met I offered my hand and she looked a little shocked at first lol we still laugh about it now. She moved back to Uppsala but we keep in touch all the time.
            
            I would have loved to have seen your face when the viking grabbed you i bet it was a picture lol
            
            

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               MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Good photo on the viking, he did look just like that LOL.

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                  calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  I bet you were terrified

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            Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            2 x Reasons for that!  - Abba and Abba Followers! 
            
            Vikings are not what they used to be

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               calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               ROFL
               
                 - how the times are a changing lol

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   Uninvited Writerposted 12 years ago

   We are taught that a weak handshake means you are a weak person. Women today want to be seen as strong and competent

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      MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It really does seem that way.

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   Pearldiverposted 12 years ago

   DITTO...
   
   And I agree with what many women here say...
   
   "There's nothing worse than a guy with a Limp, Wet, Squishy and Unflattering ahh.. Handshake!" 
   
   Why they would offer anything in a limp state like that anyway... I just don't understand!
   
   There seem to be lots of 2 minute terriers out there! Maybe that's the problem!

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      calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree pearldiver, I like a firm strong handshake just as i give to some one else as when you get the limp and weak one it sends shivers down my spine  and makes me think I cant trust this person.

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   Uninvited Writerposted 12 years ago

   My former boss had the limpest, sweatiest handshake ever. I shudder just thinking about it... He had bad breath too

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      Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Don't they call that Humpolitus UW?

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      Rehana Stormmeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Or it Haliohandsweatitus?

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      SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      ...i had a boss like that ....he didn't have any social boundaries either

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   Randy Godwinposted 12 years ago

   Here in the deep south the handshake still means something.  A limp handshake may be a deal breaker instead of a deal maker.  The handshake was once a means of showing you meant peace as the right hand was usually the one you carried a weapon in.

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      Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Let ME Go back further in regard to its history Randy dude!
      
      The Firmness of a Handshake was measured from what the Right Hand ACTUALLY Gripped!  It was NOT another Right Hand!!  
      
      Maybe that explains the reason why Scotsmen wore Kilts and No Undies huh?

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         Randy Godwinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Ergo the term "playing the bagpipes"! 

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            Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            It was the TWO OPEN Hands (palms forward) that indicated no weapons were being hidden!
            
            Hence... Happily Playing the Bagpipes with No Hands!

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               MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               You mean the meat and two veg.

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            SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            ....thanks for the history lesson you 2!

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               MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               How do you tell which clan a Scotsman comes from?
               
               If he has a quater pounder under his kilt.
               
               He belongs to the Mcdonald clan!

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                  calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Hey now, I am scottish that aint nice, lol ROFL
                  But Its very true

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                     calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     The worst part is I belong to the Macdonald of Glencoe clan lol ROFL

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                        MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        Used to play a bit of rugby years ago, many times in Scotland, although I can't remember much of it LOL.

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                           calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                           You were probably too busy looking for Macdonalds ROFL

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                              calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                              Here is another joke for you, I bet you will have heard it!
                              
                              How many Scotsmen does it take to change a light bulb?
                              Scotsmen don't change light bulbs, it's cheaper to sit in the dark.

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                                 Uninvited Writerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                 As a person of Scottish birth, I'm offended by your jokes

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                                    calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                    I am scottish too UW but the thing is everyone terms them over here so you kind of get used to it lol

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                                       Uninvited Writerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                       That's okay then

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                                          MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                                          No offence meant in my joke,  a Scottish rugby player told it to me LOL.

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   Muldaniaposted 12 years ago

   I can't remember the last time I shook hands with anyone.  It seems to have disappeared.  Most people I know, kiss as a greeting, even though it is often one of those air kisses.

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      MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting answer Thank You.

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   Rain Defenceposted 12 years ago

   I shake hands all the time. The worst is when someone grabs your fingers when they're on the way in for the shake and before your palms are touching. This means you can't get a proper handshake in from your side as you can't get a grip on them, but they get a good grip on you. It's a knobby thing to do, but I've had a couple of blokes do it.
   I also always stand by a handshake, the only thing is I have been shafted on occasion as it always takes me by surprise when someone else doesn't as I just expect everyone else to have the same values.

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      MP50posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Know where you are coming from. Thank You.

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   Cardisaposted 12 years ago

   I have a thing about shaking hands...okay...so maybe I have have some sort of disorder I don't know. But I do know I hate touching strangers or strangers touching me. If we know each other or have developed some sort of bond it's okay but shaking the hand of someone I am meeting for the first time is strictly off limits.

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   mega1posted 12 years ago

   I think it really depends on what you two were saying before the handshake - whether there was an implicit agreement, or you were just saying "nice to meet ya"  Handshakes at any given time can change.  Maybe the guy didn't like you!! or liked you way too much??  I wouldn't put a lot of meaning into a handshake but follow someone's actual actions instead.  I've always felt that way, but now that I've been in contact with several passive/aggressive people I find that the ONLY thing you can count on is what they DO!  so I may stop shaking hands altogether, lest I forget that it probably means nothing.  Get it in writing if you're making an agreement - sad, but true!  I've had people look me in the eye, shake my hand, and vow to do something - then, no, it's not happening.  So -

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