Do you have an ego?

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   marinealways24posted 14 years ago

   Or you arrogant or do you have an ego? Why?

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      Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No.  I wish I was more confident.  Sometimes, I come across as snobbish because it is hard for me to just jump into a conversation with a stranger.

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         Capable Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         It's always the prettiest girls who feel that way... why, I wonder? You look as if you would have loads of self confidence and rightly so.

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            Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Thank you for saying that, but it is not always what's going on on the outside that affects our confidence.  I have been working on it since grade school.  I am even a darn good public speaker, it is just the "mingling" I am not good at.

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               Capable Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Well, I can understand that. Mingling sucks. I wouldn't worry too much about it if I were you. You're obviously very articulate so who cares about mingling. I hate it too.

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               marinealways24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I think in most mingling situations, there are a group of individuals all trying to be the outspoken one. On most occasions, the outspoken one tends to be the arrogant one.

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                  Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  Mingling is necessary on some occasions.  The type of work I do, or did until I retired to motherhood, required "working the room".  It never felt natural to me.  I felt like I was faking it.  My point was that sometimes I appear to be arrogant, or have been accused of being a snob because I have trouble making small talk with strangers... always have.

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         marinealways24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I like to seperate confidence with ego. I believe confidence is thinking you are right about something while leaving it open to debate. I believe ego is thinking you are right refusing debate.

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   fierycjposted 14 years ago

   That's probably my only real vice. Its the strong values I was brought up with. I was taught never to back down, never take any crap from anyone, and never under any circumstance feel inferior to anybody, whether by intellect or by material possession. It really kicked in deep. Sometimes, I take it a bit too far. Just sometimes.

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      marinealways24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I can relate. I refer to this as pride. I think pride must be swallowed at times.

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   Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

   I wish I was more confident.  I don't have an ego.

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