Wow, let me guess, your boyfriend/husband was cheating on you with various mistresses, so you opened up this forum on hubpages eh? I hate to break this to you, but men cheating on their wives/girlfriend isn't something that's exactly new. Men have cheated on their lovers for years. Granted, not all men are like that, but some obviously have.
However, I don't think it's fair to say that men are the only ones that cheat on their lovers, as women can do easily the same thing, while having various "side men" on the side if they choose to, so I wouldn't say that women are exactly innocent either. Hell, my last girlfriend cheated on me with some guy that claimed to be my friend, so you can imagine how royally p***ed off I was about that.
In fact, p***ed off doesn't even begin to describe how angry i was at the guy, as I literally wanted to do unspeakable and horrible things to him that I can't mention on hubpages for OBVIOUS reasons. And you want to know something? I didn't feel the least bit guilty thinking that way. Still don't to this day. It's funny because I'm normally a pacifist, and I would never wish for anything violent to happen even to my worst enemy...but with him...I'd be willing to make a huge exception in his case...
Dashingscorpio has a point that there is no "holy ground" between the genders, in regards to cheating. And sometimes people tend to grow apart no matter how much effort you put into the relationship. Sadly, I had to figure that out the hard way recently myself, but I wouldn't let one bad experience dictate your opinion on relationships in general. It was just one bad experience. It's like Alfred said in "Batman Begins", "Why do we fall Master Bruce?...so we can learn to pick ourselves back up." If you stop and think about it, that's a very good lesson to take to heart about any kind of adversity you may face in your life.
Edit: Also another lesson to take to heart that I just remembered was from a film last year called "Philomena." I don't know if you heard of it or not, but it's a great film. One of the best that I've ever seen. By the way, SPOILER ALERT if you haven't seen it, but it's about an Irish elderly woman looking for her long lost son. You see back when she was a teenager, she got knocked up by some random guy at a carnival, but her parents were so ashamed of her that they put her up in the Catholic Church to live with the nuns. The nuns forced her to do hard labor for them, while only allowing her to see her son for one hour a day while staying there.
They even gave away her child without permission, and when she tried to look for her son again by finding out information at the church, they openly lied to her by saying that they had lost all their records. Hell, they even lied to the son too when he tried to find out where his biological mother was. The point being is that she ended up forgiving the nuns for doing that to her. Why did she forgive them? Because she claimed that even though forgiving them is one of the hardest things she's ever had to do, the reality is that it takes far too much energy to hate someone like that.
And in a sense, she's right. It does take a lot out of you to hate someone for anything for a long duration of time. Trust me, I know that better than almost anyone here, as I can't tell you how much it exhausted me mentally, physically and emotionally hating that man that tried to steal my girlfriend away from me, and in a sense, he kind of did. It exhausted me to the point that even writing film reviews on this site no longer brought me joy anymore, but instead just reminded me of the internal pain i felt. I wanted him to suffer for that. I wanted him to not only suffer for ruining what was once a wonderful relationship, but I wanted to destroy him for taking away my happiness to where nothing brought me joy anymore. That's why I hated him with such a passion, but to be honest, he's not worth my time or my energy.
He's nothing to me, and I don't need to inflict physical harm on him to prove I'm the bigger man because I know I am. How do I know I'm the bigger man than he is? Because he did something wrong, yet he still thinks he did nothing wrong to this day. Whereas me, I have every right not to like him, and hate his guts with a passion, but I don't because he's not worth it. In fact, I forgiven him for what he's done because I'm the bigger man in this situation, and wasting my life hating him isn't worth it. He took my happiness away once, and he shalt not do that again to me.
That's why I've elected to forget about him. I don't know how much you hate these mistresses for having an affair with your ex lover, but trust me when I say it takes far more energy to hate on someone than it does to simply forgive them that it's simply not even worth it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you need to become friends with these girls, or forget about what they did to you. However, I'd just forgive them, and just forget about them. They're not worth your time. Take it from a guy that's learned that lesson last year, as that's exactly what I wish someone would've told me. Sadly, nobody did, and I had to figure that out the hard way, so please don't make that same mistake that I did to allow your hatred for your ex and his lovers consume you to the point that you can't feel joy anymore. It's not worth it.
