relationship advice

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   HubChiefposted 14 years ago

   a few hubs are there already.. However all of us has one or other piece of advice that we may not be keen to create hub about... Well you can add here
   
   Any one advice that you think is most important and would create a big difference in a married relationship.
   
   go on.
   
   I have a hub on this and some question/answer trail however would love to hear from those who do not have a hub who missed posting that killer advice in hubs.

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   RooBeeposted 14 years ago

   Maintain respect for your partner as their own individual person who has chosen to team up with you on this exciting journey. I mean this as opposed to viewing your spouse as a work-in-progress; something to be molded, improved, and changed to suit your fantasies.

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   Shadesbreathposted 14 years ago

   Don't have sex with their siblings.

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      wesleycoxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's some funny advise.
      
      I would say to always enjoy each others company.

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   yoshi97posted 14 years ago

   Learn how to communicate better.
   
   Never find fault in your partner, instead, show them how they can improve.
   
   Try to see things from your partner's view, to better understand where they are coming from.
   
   Never continue an argument past a day. Resolve it or admit it must be nothing important.
   
   Never bring up past issues unless they are occurring again - the past is the past.
   
   Never expect a person to be more than they were when you first met them.
   
   Never cheat - break up - it causes so much less pain in the end.
   
   Never have a backup plan. You're totally into someone, or you're not. If not, allow them to move on.
   
   Don't ask for respect - earn it.
   
   Give as much as you would like to receive.
   
   Never EVER say anything to belittle your partner, as it belittles your own self for being with them.
   
   If you pull back your hand to slap your partner in the face, take a moment to change the trajectory to your own - as you surely deserve it for even considering such an act.

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      well put yoshi
      also try to take time and remember the good times rather than the bad times.

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   Davinagirl3posted 14 years ago

   First, and foremost, always remember that your partner is  his/her own person.  They can't read your mind.  They will make mistakes, and as long as they are honest mistakes you can forgive them.  Realize that you, yes even you, will make mistakes.  Learn to forgive yourself.  There will be times when you can't stand each other.  The best thing is to realize how much you love and need each other, and you can weather any storm.

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   Dale Mazurekposted 14 years ago

   One of the biggest reasons my wife and I have stayed together is because in 21 years we never went to bed mad even if it took all night to figure things out.

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   Earthscribeposted 14 years ago

   Face the same direction... not each other.
   
   (well, unless...)

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   TamCorposted 14 years ago

   DON'T yell or scream at each other--TALK to each other if an issue comes up between you.
   
   My husband and I have had a wonderful marriage of almost 21 years now, and not once have we ever raised our voice at each other.
   
   'Course, it helps that we really, really do enjoy being together...

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   L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years ago

   Spice up the sex life...
   
   Heck, I don't know why I'm on this forum...I'm only 17!

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      beautyroseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      oh boy your just like panda man below 18. I think you have to study well first.

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      Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Bye...

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    L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years ago

    I should probably have added..."and unmarried"... on the end of that

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    fortunerepposted 14 years ago

    communication, no secrets good sex that is totally mutual, and a little help around the house would help
    
    guess that is why I am not married.

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    RooBeeposted 14 years ago

    Step outside the day-to-day drudgery and look at your partner as if you are crushing on them and wishing to be with them, as you once did. Now, if you are looking over at a chubby hubby picking his nose you may want to choose another time to practice this one.
    Anyhoo, it's good to remember the qualities that attracted us initially and to praise said attributes thus encouraging the partner to display them more often. Sometimes I think people in long-term relationships feel that they are just fulfilling a role and not being honored for the unique individual that they are. This can make outside affection and attention all the more desirable.

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       Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       It is funny you would say this, because I am missing my husband today.  He is at work and it is rainy and dreary here.  I just want him home to snuggle.

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          RooBeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          He's a lucky guy, Davina!

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    blondepoetposted 14 years ago

    Play dress-ups on the weekend.
    Use good scripting.
    "Do you come here often.?"
    
    

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    Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

    Very lucky Devina!
    
    Sad to say my advice would suck right now.  Hubby has been on furlough for 5 weeks and I'm quite sick of him
    
    However, we've been married 20 years and I say stick it out through the tough times & always say I love you before you go to sleep.

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    fierycjposted 14 years ago

    Above average performance in the hay. Never fails.

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       blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Too right Fiery.

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       Ron Montgomeryposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Where did you read that?

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          Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          lmao!

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    HubChiefposted 14 years ago

    good tips.
    
    keep it coming

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    http://hubpages.com/hub/WHAT-YOU-DONT-K … RPRISE-YOU
    
    
    I wrote a hub about it just now...not porn and not vulgar...

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    O-M-G how do these kids still get in here??????

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    Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

    Imagine yourself broke and miserable -- that's what divorce will do for a marriage. Hey, sticks are always stronger motivators than carrots, even if you're using the carrots creatively in the bedroom. I'm not joking!

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    LMFAO on the floor.....
    
    
    hey, someone did a hub on orgasms...how the hell is my stick figure hub any worse....it's much milder in my opinion!

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       beautyroseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think I can read what's on your mind married women. hehe

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          AsherKadeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          and what would that be?

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             beautyroseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             About the carrot and stick. A while ago I was wondering about it. I only got the meaning when you mention about that O ......m word. hehe

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    GoldiStringposted 14 years ago

    Know the BEST and WORST side of your partner, attitude-wise.

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       AsherKadeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       and that's ecentually what my hub is  about....

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    a LOT worse is said on hub pages...this is helpful and inforative and not sleazy....

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