Men have a problem being sexualy enticing with thier partner

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   mdawson17posted 14 years ago

   I have seen that men have a problem being romantic and adventures with their spouse! I wonder why this is? Is it because of fear and insecurities!

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      earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, both of those, just like women! If the partner is wise enough though there seems to be a difference.
      I have been married to a very romantic woman, but she used her womanly ways to ensure that I remained romantic so I think it depends on the whole relationship also.

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         mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         earnesthub are ever intimidated by this and if so what do you do about it?

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            earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Yes mdawson, while going through the long drama with cancer, I lost weight and libido.
            I told my wife about how depleted I felt and assured her that I loved her often and she eased it in to a conversation that there was a problem with my performance.
            We were OK, I had to recognize that it was not so much about the sex, but with the distraction of fighting the cancer I had lost focus!
            Being a typical human I bungled on and we worked it out.
            
            It seems to me that sex although wonderful and important is best served as cream and strawberries on top of a loving relationship when it has been a long one, and love is the right area to examine when we are in a corner. Did not want to write a novel. email me privately if you need a bit of support. I'm no Carl Jung, but I have been there! All my love to you and yours in this difficult time.

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               mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Thank You Earnestshub

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   Umm I've never been with a guy who had those issues. And in my opinion you should be in a relationship that doesn't bring out your fears and insecurities. If you trust and are comfortable in a relationship then no problem.

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      mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You bring up a very good point but what if one is more sexual y intimidating than the other!

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         Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Sexually intimidating like what? Meaning better looking? Whatever the case. If one is more-so than the other, then you work on it. Fear and insecurity should be something you discuss.

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            mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            What I mean is I have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and I fear that I am not always satisfying her even though she says she is! How do you discuss something that is as sensitive as this, I know my wife does not want to say anything that may lesson who I am and what I was! But I sense dissatisfaction!

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               Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               So you bring it up without it being too direct or specific. Ask open ended questions. Could it be how often? How long? General satisfaction during?
               Figure that out first. Then ask specifically what she wants. I see no problem with that At least you identify that there may be a problem and you're looking for a solution.

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                  Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  I agree 100% with Cole...
                  
                  mdawson don't be afraid to talk about it. take strength in the fact that she is with you, still loves you, and especially that she is still with you even when you were diagnosed with illness.
                  
                  Sorry that you were diagnosed with a terminal illness, mdawson17 *HUGS*

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                     mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

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   Pumpkin headposted 14 years ago

   Why be romantic when you already have a spouse?

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      Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oh boy. Please tell me that was a joke.

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         mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         LOL

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      Madame Xposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You're joking. Right?

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      mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      pUMKIN HEAD YOU EVER THOUGHT THAT IT MIGHT KEEP THE FIRING BURNING (LOL)

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         mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

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      Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wow if youa re married I feel sorry for your spouse. I do hope that was a joke...a very bad joke but a joke nonetheless.

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   Tom Cornettposted 14 years ago

   Boinnnnngg! The tent's up...time to go camping! 

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      mdawson17posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      LOL you are something else Tom

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   No problem

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