Is Telling The Truth Important Any More.

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   poetlorraineposted 14 years ago

   I heard an adult so upset with her daughter for telling a lie, punished the child severely.  I am wondering do we as adults ever tell the truth any more...... if we do or don't, do we still expect it of others,

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yes, and i'll tell you why. because truth is the only path to a real connection with another human being. a good, solid, straight path. if you have a bunch of lies between you, it's like a rickety old set of stairs that will crumble the first time someone steps on them.

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         poetlorraineposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         that is a good illustration, i will try to remember it

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The adult who was so upset with her daughter for telling a lie, punished the child severely. (This would be a good thing.)
      
      Wondering about, do we as adults ever tell the truth any more.....if we do or don't, do we still expect it of others?
      
      The above statement, I find a little disruptive, because it puts one out of sorts. You're going under the assumption that everyone lies. This may be the case in the people you have personally encountered offline and possibly even some of the one you meet online, however, your individual level of trust you have for humanity is what is setting your view or perceived notion about people lying.
      
      I can sit here and honestly say, that I have no reason to lie and my conscience tells me in advance, if my thought isn't truth, before I say it.
      
      I've come to learn there is a absolute moral standard for our conscience and should be followed by all human beings. This would ensure the survival of the human race and definately change the world, at the same time.
      
      Providing every person understood their conscience and it's guidance, then we would have a world we seek to obtain.

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      tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Obviously not!

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   Bard of Elyposted 14 years ago

   It is very important to me! If people tell lies there is no point in listening to them!

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      nextstopjupiterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Stop listening to the politicians!

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   Ken R. Abellposted 14 years ago

   It is essential to character & community.  If one habitually lies how can their word on any topic ever be trusted?

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   manlypoetrymanposted 14 years ago

   I would say  that "No"...it is not...but then that would be a lie! Somewhere...somehow...truth still remains in us all...or at least I would like to believe that to be true!

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      poetlorraineposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      hi it is a fact we like to be told the truth i feel

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   poetlorraineposted 14 years ago

   Bard and KEN.  I tend to agree with you, but i find so many people do not like to be lied to, but they are not honest themselves, kinda strange really

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   skyfireposted 14 years ago

   Truth always hurts, if it is for your children then always tell them truth. It's better to frustrate earlier than later.

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      Miss Takeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      thanks i would agree with that

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   Lita C. Malicdemposted 14 years ago

   Tell the truth at all cost and you will have self-respect. If you don't respect yourself how can you expect others to respect you? A child telling a lie must be properly dealt with- severe punishment doesn't solve the wrong done, rather than inflict pain, why not discover why the child lies? The cause might be you.

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   lovelife999posted 14 years ago

   i would say it depends upon the situation. If your telling it for good purpose than it is ok but opposite it is bad.

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   frogdroppingposted 14 years ago

   I'm flawed like anyone else but when I open my mouth, the truth comes out. Lying is for those with good memories. Very good memories

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    wesleyacarterposted 14 years ago

    truth is singular. it is revealed whether it is told or not.
    
    sometimes, the truth can paralyze a person, and a lie can liberate.
    
    it's all a point of view, but more often than not, the truth carries more weight than 1000 lies.
    
    the lie might change someone's life, but the truth often causes one to change their own life.

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       poetlorraineposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       i agree well put, the truth can hurt.  Is deceiving someone a lie?

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    AEvansposted 14 years ago

    It is very important to me, I cannot stand when someone lies, honesty can hurt so you have to be careful with how you address the issue.

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    poetlorraineposted 14 years ago

    yeah these comments are good.  It is  nice to know there are people out there, that still feel honesty is important.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    Our civilization is built on lie. It will collapse without it.

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    K Partinposted 14 years ago

    Truth be told, I cannot tolerate a person who lies!

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       prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       agree

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    Elven Hottieposted 14 years ago

    I can't tolerate a person who lies either... there is no excuse for it... we are all human (well, most of us...) and we all have our strong points and our week points - and we should own up to it all!

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       K Partinposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Ditto I agree, never want to teach a child to lie do we??

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    dejajolieposted 14 years ago

    Of course it's important to tell the truth, However there are times when the truth is not told to spare someone's feelings. Questions like; Do you think I look fat in this? Do you think I am pretty? Do you like the present I gave you?
    
    In my experience I am described by my friends as "brutally honest" so when they ask me the above questions I tell them the truth. However, when it's a stranger I sometimes don't tell the truth in order to spare their feelings. Or I answer, "Are you sure you want to hear my answer?"
    
    So in theory it would be great if we could all be honest 100% of the time but I don't think 100% of people can be honest all the time.

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    Sir Anthonyposted 14 years ago

    Though the question as asked us unanswerable, it is open to opinion. I choose not to lie because to do so would destroy my self esteme, and that is much more important to me than the opinion of others.
    As a therapist, if a client lied to me I would refuse further help to them, since it would be obvious that they didn't trust me, and trust is esential to success in a therapy situation

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    Happyontheinsideposted 14 years ago

    I don't know that things are as straight cut as truth=good lies=bad. Sorry to be the one to disagree as I see the general sentiment is towards the above. I used to be part of an acting troupe, and one of the main characters I played was a woman who could tell no lies. It was all improvisational and (let me tell you) incredibly hard.
    
    To expand; a lie is an untruth according to what you know. This makes it easy for others to manipulate you into lying. They may only reveal to you part of a story that, when you relate it to someone else is in fact a lie - you may think you are repeating truth; but you have been lied to yourself. In this case even though you are telling the lie it has not been your lie to tell, and things get confusing.
    
    In another example; is it better to tell a small child that their grandparent has died and they will never see them again; or is it better to lie a little and soften the blow i.e. 'your gran loves you very much but she has to go away for a while...' Would you tell a child that their dog is dead or that it ran away?
    
    In other ways lying can be noble. Perhaps your silence or ability to mislead can be a good thing - for example you may be lying to a friend to cover up a surprise birthday party - surely that can't be classed as a wholly bad thing to do?
    
    I put it to all of you that lying isn't always wrong, and that telling the truth isn't always the best thing to do...and asnyway don't we all exaggerate a little when we're telling stories? Exaggeration is, in essence, a lie...
    
    happy.

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    Shadesbreathposted 14 years ago

    Truth is a matter of intent, not technicality.  And therein lies the difference between honor and knavery.

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