Is being jealous naturall among best buddies

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   gayatri tagoreposted 14 years ago

   its very naturall specially with girls. though we both are best buddies the j factor is in veins. do you agree with it? i do, may be we are not ready to accept the fact but its true , most of us are very gud in conviencing are mind. by not reacting in the situation were we dont undrestand how to react.
   a friend of mine not really very beautifull but smart, best buddies , share a quality time . happend to go for a wedding both dressd equally nice. but the heir was something gud abotu her that every one looked at her. i was given very less attention, thoug its still confusing y did people check her out when i was much more prety then her. well i didnt care after all she is my best buddy. we went out shopping togethr and she always got the best dress for her. We happend to be in same class , a week before our annual function we had practice for a dance conpitation. we all were dressed up well, and she looked prettier day by day, may be i was jealous but i wasnt sure always conviencing my mind, she happend to win the contest, i dont knw why, but i was'nt really happy about it, later i realised a drastic change in my behaviour, and i realised i was jealous of her.I tried to sopil her make up couple of time, and spoil her dress but she couldnt realise. One evening i went out for date and my dad happend to see me , at that time she had saved me from my parents saying that i was out with her bro, that day i realised that i had been so mean. And she has alwys been so supportive, that day onwards i just feelt guilty.. Now we are best buddies. And may be m not jealous of her.perhaps, she has'nt yet got to knw that i was the one who spoild her make up. he he.

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   jfreemonposted 14 years ago

   Jealousy is a natural thing. It's an instinct to keep yourself erm.. "competitive" for lack of a better word.
   
   If you want a Freudian spin on your question, you're probably projecting your own insecurities onto your friend. By insecurities, I mean the fact that you may not think deep down you're as smart or as intelligent as your friend when you very well could be. When other people give your friend more attention than you, you may feel that these insecurities are reinforced and more true when all the while they're not.
   
   But to come back and actually answer your question, yes it's true especially amongst best friends because they tend to know each other so well.

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      gayatri tagoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      thank you. actually i just wanted to know is it same with mens too?

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   Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

   My sons would say yes, other guys get jealous and try to copy their actions, styles, body moves, etc. natural actions will always beat *acting* tho

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   Alessia Amnesiaposted 14 years ago

   Jealousy is a natural feeling for both genders. How they act upon it are completely different.

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   kulewriterposted 14 years ago

   Jealousy has its basis in mystery - wondering about what is going on without knowing.  If one can let things be, one can avoid being jealous.

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   Jealous is a nature human trait. It goes to one's inability to handle their emotions and/or the outright refusal to control themselves.

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