Have your kids accused you of not loving them?

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   easyspeakposted 14 years ago

   I posted this on the 'questions' area but I think it's easier to have discussions in the forum.
   
   So my question was, have your kids ever accused you of not loving them because you wouldn't let them do something or you didn't buy something for them?
   
   Please be specific.
   
   One of my friends kids accused him of not loving him because he wouldn't let him use the Internet all night.

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      pooja0908posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry i dont have kids coz i am not married but i as a child never accused my parents coz they always fulfil my wishes even before tellin them for any particular thing.
      
      But your question is more interesting I think kids are more wanting by nature so they always want this and that and if you do not provide that thing they think their parents dont love them.
      It is normal thing they will understand it after some time but you have to take care about one thing if you are forbidding them for all the things then it can create problem and they can setup their mind with this thought that you don’t love them.

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      darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Nope. Never. Because they know if they did that I'd kill them.

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      cupid51posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      This is a common problem for all the parents. But we should not take it lightly. Before we judge their activity, we should first try to find out the route of that. After all we are responsible for bringing them up . May be  we are responsible in some way or other! May be it is still not too late!

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      never. that is one thing my son can count on forever, that i love him and that he is very precious to me.

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   caranoelleposted 14 years ago

   Haha, no that's horrible.  I am sure that I am getting close to the point that my daughter would ask me that though.  She's 11 going on 21, I tell you.  The attitude starts young.  You must nip it in the bud.  I have heard other parents say that their children have accused them of not loving them though.  One of my coworkers 17 year old daughter accused her mother of not loving her because she wouldn't get her a cell phone, like all the other kids at her school have.  She even tried the excuse that it would help her mom keep closer tabs on her, and when her mom still said no, the daughter said, "See, I knew you didn't really love me.  You don't care what happens to me!"
   
   Kids can be brutal.

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   Oh please, tell the little snot that it's because he's loved that he can't have the internet all night long.  That kid's just laying on a guilt trip.

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      A Texanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Then hit him with a shovel.
      
      
      
      Disclaimer
      A Texan in no way endorses or condones the hitting of children with shovels or any other gardening tool.

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   easyspeakposted 14 years ago

   Darkside and Texan, you guys are hilarious.
   
   okay, so far we got kids throwing a fit about not getting a cell phone...anything else?

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   Kathryn LJposted 14 years ago

   My kids used to threaten to phone Child line, accusing me of mental cruelty for pointing out the impact their behaviour had on my mental well being.  Now, they're dealing with their own kids, who drive them up the wall and phone me for advice!  Texan and Darkside you crack me up.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   Not exactly. Whenever I deny something to them or force them into something, they promptly inform me they don't love me any more

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      Ivorwenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      One of my kids, at age two, use to say, "Your mean!  I'm going to go find myself some nice parents, who won't make me do ____!" 
      
      We would tell him, "Well, if you really want to, but you know, we will miss you if you go."
      
      He would get all dressed up to go outside, then ask one of us to go with him, because, "I'm too little to cross the street by myself!"  We would kindly refuse, reminding him that he didn't want us for parents.  I wouldn't take long before he was undressed and doing whatever task he had been given.

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         earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         We have one of them rogue kids too!
         Superspiderman has a mind of his own!

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         earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         So smart! Little ones are getting very clever.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

   You dont love me anymore, they used those words to get what they want....
   
   Is there such thing as parents being abused too -- just because they are less than 18 LOL

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   tipperaryposted 14 years ago

   Yep,  ive three teenagers and i get that phrase any time one gets somthing and the other doesnt. 
   Sometimes when they want to stay out later than they are allowed, im told i just dont want them having fun.....as if.
   
   I take no notice,  i said it all to my own mother,  its payback time now!

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   cupid51posted 14 years ago

   If a child says that their parent doesn’t love them anymore, I don’t think, the parent should take it as a serious complaint. Don’t take it as blackmailing also. Try to understand them, spend some more time with them, go for an outing and have fun and then try to convince them why you don’t think that their demand is not justified or why you are unable to fulfill that. It is not sufficient to say “I love you” but to exhibit that you really love them.

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    Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

    My grandmothers most embarrassing moment was my dad throwing a fit in the grocery store, streaming, "You don't love me!  You hate me!"  when she refused to buy him some toy.
    
    Blackmail, it has been going on for years.  I have one son who tries it on a regular basis.  Of course, he threw his blanket away the other day, because it was not 'playing' the way he wanted it to.  He told me that it was just stupid and because it was stupid, it was trash.  A few hours later, he rescued the blanket, and apologise to it.    I love the craziness of his little mind!

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    earnestshubposted 14 years ago

    Grandparent abuse is rife in our family! I have been fired several times as a grandad, and told "You can go home now granpa!  Asha and me are big girls, and we don't need a granpa anymore!"
    

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    awareposted 14 years ago

    no never

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    pddm67posted 14 years ago

    Absolutely! What child doesn't say that at least once when they feel you're being totally mean to them. I faintly remember saying those very same words to my parents when I was a teen. It's only when you reach adulthood can you understand that your parents did those things BECAUSE they loved you, especially when you have kids of your own

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