Tell that to God and see what He says.
He's the God who holds EVERYONE responsible for their sins against Him, including His people if they don't repent.
We're all under the same Judgement, His righteous Judgement.
...There are a few things you leave out of your article here....
One is that God is a God of both Love and war.
Another is that there IS a righteous judgement that His followers have access to and the authority to use!
Another is that it's usually NOT hatred that compells Christians to warn people about homosexuality and other sins; it's a burden for their souls, the "Great Commission", along with the natural and Spiritual inclination to shelter innocents from the wiles of the Devil.
Speaking the Truth about sin is about Love, no matter whether it's handed out in gentleness or in a challenging way.
What mature person wants to be condescended to? I'd think they'd want someone to treat them like adults, not ignore their inclination for disaster.
To defect others, and to deflect from, the right to the left is the intent of the Devil's advocates.
To affect others, and deflect from, the left to the right is the way of conversion, the way of God's people. Different Christians have differing ways of putting their personalities to work for God, too. Some of us are good at speaking boldly; others are better at being meek......
I'm meek before God, but often bold about telling the Truth of the Word to people.
Many times the response has been (similar to your intent, I assume) that one "catches more flies with honey"............
The only problem with that is that Christians aren't trying to "catch flies"; we're fishing for men's souls, as we're told to do. It's serious business.