Picking on others

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   donotfearposted 14 years ago

   Picking on others. What is the meaning? 
   It takes many forms for sure. 
   Let's see,
   subtle criticisms, subliminal statements, outright insults, jeers, sneers, digs at one's character,
   taunts at what one believes,
   an aloofness toward one set of people and an automatic acceptance of those who believe the same as the perpetrators,
   rude responses, flippant remarks....what else?.
   
   It's not necessary to do this to have a meaningul debate or discussion. Yet it continues.
   
   I think what repulses me the most is the pompous-ass, better than you are attitude of some. Like looking down on you for who you are or what you believe.
   
   Good thing I don't lose any sleep over them because it's not worth the energy.

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      Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ok. Lets run away together tonight. I will send a carrier pidgeon and it should arrive about now. quickly! Too your roof. Stick to the pre-determined meeting point. See you soon. Vaya con dios

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         donotfearposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         
         Hi!!~!  Great to hear from you. Of course, if your hands aren't broken you could drop me an email sometime.
         
         Oh, yes, I'll give you the longitude/latitude of my location.
         
         Pick, pick, pick.

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            donotfearposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            
            An example of friendly 'picking on' just so the thread stays on topic.

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      Lisa HWposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not suggesting any of this stuff doesn't happen, by any means, because I've seen it.  There's something else that can go on, though, and that's the old thing about how what someone means to "come across as" isn't always the way it comes out in typewritten words.  I've seen things like the "dry" joke, or subtle humor, or the "straight-and-to-the-point" answer be taken the wrong way.    So often you (all of us, I think) can get start to kind of throw in tons of emoticons just to try to make sure people know it was a joke (or hint of a joke). 
      
      You figure, people on here are from all kinds of regions/cultures.  They're all different ages.  Everyone just has a different personality, and sometimes, I think, we just kind of assume people know us better (based, maybe, on past interactions) than they really do.
      
      I'm not defending "picking on", by any means; and I know it happens (and shouldn't).  Sometimes I think, though, that some stuff people take as an insult (or whatever) wasn't really intended to be.  I don't know....   I just don't think the "picking-on" thing is always as bad as it sometimes appears to be (at least not until someone takes something the wrong way, insults back, and the whole thing turns into a giant "horror show"  )  (Not making light of this subject or problem at all - but I've seen times when what starts out as nothing turns into a giant something because someone misunderstood the other person's intentions or tone.     (Kumbaya    )

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         tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         LOL! I agree with you on this !

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            samboiamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            tantrum, you can pick on me anytime.

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               tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Hi Sam !
               
               I rather not. Somebody might report me ! I'm sure there are a lot of people out there waiting for me to do a bad move !

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         TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I understand what you're saying, but I think for the most part, we were all talking about the obvious, in your face, attacks--the ones that couldn't be taken any other way...
         
         
         Tammy

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   Richieb799posted 13 years ago

   Picking on is usually due to jealousy or fear of someones individuality

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