Nursing homes - good or bad?
what experiences have you had with family members in nursing homes? good? bad?
96- Lady_E
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From the little experience I've had, as I used to visit someone there - I would say its not a good idea 'cos they are sort of isolated.
It's best to have them cared for at home and employ a nurse or two. Just my opinion.
97- AEvans
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I worked them for a while when I first became a nurse they are not nice! My father was in a home and they overmedicated him and let him lay in his feces. They are not nice and that is from a nurse's persepctive but I am certain that other nurses may have positive things to say, it is only my opinion.
My opinion exactly - I just started hubbing a few days ago and three of my hubs are about nursing care - and what happened to my father in law in a nursing home - I made a website about caring for the elderly and now - I think - finally have the pain of what happened to him out of my system a bit - it will always hurt - but through writing about it - its helped to start the healing process
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starme77 wrote:
what experiences have you had with family members in nursing homes? good? bad?
There is a need for these facilities but on a limited basis. Unfortunately those with little income can't get very much in home help- but the wonderful government of ours will pay for your care in a skilled nursing facility(pet peeve I have). I did work in 2 different facilities; one with an alzheimers unit and specialty rehab. Families often can't handle the aggression and wandering day and night of a dementia patient; especially if the spouse needs help too. I am a case manager with elderly and always prefer them to stay home or live with relatives- but some need the structure of a facility. I have one family that has tried several times to bring their dad home- but his behavior has put people at risk- he beat up his wife- he woke up and thought strangers had broken in- it was awful. He seems better in a nursing home. On the other hand some do not belong in a nursing home but have no other way to get any care.
86- ChaiRachelRuth
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My father and father-in-law are both the same age -- 81. My Dad has dimentia, my father-in-law has Parkinson's. My Dad is now in a nursing home as my step-Mom could no longer manage his care even with the help of home health aides. My father-in-law is still living at home with the help of full time health aides. My Dad's nursing home is quite nice, as I used to do Pet Assisted therapy with my dog and got to visit lots of different facilities, some nursing homes, mostly assisted living and adult day facilities. I know a good facility when I see one. He's not isolated, he's engaged in activities, has his own room, is visited frequently by my step-Mom (I live long distance). However the biggest difference is, my father-in-law is being 'nurtured' whereas my Dad's care is being 'managed'.
Not Bad
They are good but you need to know which ones to select. I currently have a loved one in a very nice nursing home!
69- sooner than later
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starme77 wrote:
what experiences have you had with family members in nursing homes? good? bad?
I think that they are terrible. Most people die very rapidly in the ones around here.
I have heard of good ones in places like Scottsdale, AZ- but there goes your retirement.
87- europewalker
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We just put my mom in one last month. Not all of the employees are really good with the elderly, we are still unsure if we will leave her there. It has been so stressful for us to put her there to begin with. With her alzheimers and dementia, she is difficult to handle. On the other hand, she was a good mom and I know she would never let one of us go to a home. If we take her out I would have to quit working to help take care of her. It would be up to me and one of my brothers. I just don't know what the answer is.
92- Pearldiver
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My mates and I have only good things to say about the nurse's homes that we used to visit (with a ladder) on Friday nights after the Matron left!
Great parties, good breakfasts and really good.... Ummmmmm gotta love nurses.
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starme77 wrote:
what experiences have you had with family members in nursing homes? good? bad?
Please read my hub on the horrendous issue we had with our mother in a nursing home. It is under "Abuse of the Elderly In Nursing Homes - A Sad But True Story, by Laura Thykeson. Not all are bad, but because of what we went thru, I would rather die than be put in one.
