being hurt..!
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?
60- Starlit Blessing
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After a time yes. I was hurt by a partner and it took me 5 yrs to finally get over it, but now I am stronger and have found out more about myself. It takes time longer depending on how you were hurt, but as they say time heals all wounds.
88- yolanda yvette
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mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?Yes. And forgiving them is a necessary part of healing and being able to move forward.
mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?I still miss the man of my dreams but then I wake up and am glad he is gone. This too shall pass
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mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?Yes. Maybe not 100%, but you learn to close off the hurt and not let it affect your life. It takes about two years to get over a really bad breakup.
83- affiliategypsy
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I really think for everyone the answer would be different.
Breaking up sucks no matter how you look at it.
61- geminimoon
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I've been separated for a month now from my 32 years of marriage and at first I thought what have I done? I was so used to living in an unhappy relationship I thought I screwed up when I first left! I'm doing so much better living with out the negative man! As for the expiration date, that's hard to say. I still love the man but I wont live with him any more. I'm FREE!!
97- cosette
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mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?yes.
then you wonder what you ever saw in that person...
95- dohn121
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mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?Absolutely. And then see them get married to someone else that they are not happy with. I should make myself a shirt with this logo:
Everything happens for a reason!Pam and I've been together for going on 13 years and are "hooked at the hip" as they say...but she's wife #7 which means, yes, 6 (countem 6) divorces in my past.
There was a lot of pain and suffering involved in every failed marriage, but the truth of the matter is that at this point it's hard to remember specifics (and no, it's not dementia, just time away from the situations). So that's good. I do remember some things:
#1: Hypercritical and refused to grow as a person. Divorced in 1973. Have had several powerfully healing experiences with her in the dream state.
#2: Best friend at the time and still a great one. She and I had strong chemistry but she basically did not want physical intimacy. Parted still friends, extreme pain due to lack of any anger to mask it. Have supported each other ever since (divorce 1980) and still do.
#3: She was full of rage and jealousy, believed if I was 5 minutes late getting home from work, I had something going. Can still talk but seldom do.
#4: Touchy and critical and the most beautiful woman I've ever known. Shortest marriage. Several powerful healing experiences in dream state.
#5: Built a huge business together (gone now). Strong chemistry. She would not follow when I was under attack and decided to leave Montana in 1991. No communication since last co-business check was sent to her in 2007.
#6: Claimed no greed, exhibited (after getting married) max greed. Learned her lesson too late after I left. Can still talk, but have not for years now. No dream state healing that I've noticed.- 95
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Ghost32 wrote:
Pam and I've been together for going on 13 years and are "hooked at the hip" as they say...but she's wife #7 which means, yes, 6 (countem 6) divorces in my past.
There was a lot of pain and suffering involved in every failed marriage, but the truth of the matter is that at this point it's hard to remember specifics (and no, it's not dementia, just time away from the situations). So that's good. I do remember some things:
#1: Hypercritical and refused to grow as a person. Divorced in 1973. Have had several powerfully healing experiences with her in the dream state.
#2: Best friend at the time and still a great one. She and I had strong chemistry but she basically did not want physical intimacy. Parted still friends, extreme pain due to lack of any anger to mask it. Have supported each other ever since (divorce 1980) and still do.
#3: She was full of rage and jealousy, believed if I was 5 minutes late getting home from work, I had something going. Can still talk but seldom do.
#4: Touchy and critical and the most beautiful woman I've ever known. Shortest marriage. Several powerful healing experiences in dream state.
#5: Built a huge business together (gone now). Strong chemistry. She would not follow when I was under attack and decided to leave Montana in 1991. No communication since last co-business check was sent to her in 2007.
#6: Claimed no greed, exhibited (after getting married) max greed. Learned her lesson too late after I left. Can still talk, but have not for years now. No dream state healing that I've noticed.
Woah! That's something else! I don't know if I should be impressed or fearful of marriage now
I guess #7 (Pam) Is a definite keeper and luck charm 
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cosette wrote:
mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?yes.
then you wonder what you ever saw in that person...Agree...+1
Yes, I believe that in your own time and your own way, you can. For me I had to learn how to truly forgive not only him, but myself as well and really let it go. I began to see myself and him in a different light and now we are working on a new relationship. Whether or not it last, that remains to be seen. I gotta say, the scars are deep, but they are healing and we are more open about our feelings and expectation then before while trying to create a new relationship. It does give a new meaning to second chances.
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mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?Since I'm going through this now, all I now is it takes a long time. A lot of self discovery to realize it's us who is okay, and that we can move forward despite what has happened. But it takes me a lot of time to get to that realization, and it's very frustrating to me. I wish my heart would agree with my head much more quickly.
86- Rehma Jamshed
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I am going through it right now! But time heals! My daughters are the best gifts I got through this relationship. That's why I will never regret the relationship!
Yes, you eventually get over it...but you never fully forget it!
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geminimoon wrote:
I've been separated for a month now from my 32 years of marriage and at first I thought what have I done? I was so used to living in an unhappy relationship I thought I screwed up when I first left! I'm doing so much better living with out the negative man! As for the expiration date, that's hard to say. I still love the man but I wont live with him any more. I'm FREE!!
lol Congrats! ^_^
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yolanda yvette wrote:
mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?Yes. And forgiving them is a necessary part of healing and being able to move forward.
So, so, true.
healing is the first part of getting over being hurt. You must heal self before moving on. Theeeeeeeen if you choose you can forgive them or bid them good riddance. All depends on you and how you feel. if the truth be told its really no longer about them anymore because while in the relationship you have been patient, understanding, FORGIVING god knows how many god forsaken times! now it is time for you to get your mind right and focus on getting yourself back on track-----PRODuCTIVELY!!!
atil wrote:
mace729 wrote:
does any one realy get over
being hurt by there partners?I still miss the man of my dreams but then I wake up and am glad he is gone. This too shall pass
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