Does love exist?
93- L. Andrew Marr
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My friends always joke that I don't have a heart.
There is a story going around that I dumped one of my ex's because she told me she loved me. It is true the two things happened to be at around the same time but also, people seem to leave out this fact, she was an absolute psychopath.
She said;
"I'd self harm if you ever left me."
I said:
"Ok."
And I left. No way was I ever going to stick around in a relationship where I was terrorised into staying with her.
Apparently she never did self harm; instead she just spread rumours that I was a heartless b*stard around her school.
Anyway, I don't know why I digressed into that.
So yes, back to the question:
DOES LOVE EXIST?
I have never felt love, nor have I ever told someone I love them in the eros way - only in the agapeic sense. I am beginning to think that it is just a psychological condition some people have typing themselves to another member of the human race.
This view could be because I am only 18 and still at school; who knows...anyway...
What do you hubbers think?
Surely love at first sight is just lust? Surely people who say they're in love after dating someone for three days are lying? Surely it is just an overwelming need for companionship?
Is love real or just pointless pain?
95- Luciendasky
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While I COMPLETELY understand what you are saying and think you are making very valid points... I would have to say yes, love exists...
but I think it is something you have to work for and work on... I know what you mean about the lust and the feeling people... and I think that many forms of love will start out that way - but if the relationship (either between people who are dating or just friends in general) is worked on and people care for each other, it can grow into love.
Surely there is someone (doesn't have to be someone you are interested in dating) that you care about very deeply and would do anything to help them if necessary??
When it comes to "dating love" things can get sticky (my sister is marrying an abusive jerk she knew for 10 days before engaged) but that doesn't mean love doesn't exist ever.
95- rebekahELLE
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yes, andrew, love exists. you're still young. when you feel it, you will know. not just a feeling, but a deep awareness.
82- Cagsil
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In my past experience, I say "Yes Love Exists!"
The fact that you've not experienced it yet is not a real surprise.
89- prettydarkhorse
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you will feel it and it will bring you so much joy, it will inspire you too
86- tantrum
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Yes love exists ! The thing is that the two of you feel the same, at the same time. and make it grow at the same time ,as well.
Which seldom occurs, I'm sorry to say.
96- KCC Big Country
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Most certainly love exists, but don't expect it to arrive all neat and tidy in a package with a pretty bow. It'll jump up and bite you when it arrives and catch you totally offguard.
I like your attitude about love. You did the right thing to dump her and hopefully she'll get help before she ends up ruining a lot of years of her life and a few other's along the way.
74- Stevennix2001
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L. Andrew Marr wrote:
My friends always joke that I don't have a heart.
There is a story going around that I dumped one of my ex's because she told me she loved me. It is true the two things happened to be at around the same time but also, people seem to leave out this fact, she was an absolute psychopath.
She said;
"I'd self harm if you ever left me."
I said:
"Ok."
And I left. No way was I ever going to stick around in a relationship where I was terrorised into staying with her.
Apparently she never did self harm; instead she just spread rumours that I was a heartless b*stard around her school.
Anyway, I don't know why I digressed into that.
So yes, back to the question:
DOES LOVE EXIST?
I have never felt love, nor have I ever told someone I love them in the eros way - only in the agapeic sense. I am beginning to think that it is just a psychological condition some people have typing themselves to another member of the human race.
This view could be because I am only 18 and still at school; who knows...anyway...
What do you hubbers think?
Surely love at first sight is just lust? Surely people who say they're in love after dating someone for three days are lying? Surely it is just an overwelming need for companionship?
Is love real or just pointless pain?love is about trial and error for most people. very seldom few meet the girl/guy they fall in love with right off the bat. most of us usually have to date a lot of different people and suffer heart ache a lot, until you find the right person your most compatible with. that's why they say love is so rare, and which might be the reason its all that much more special.
however, to answer your question, yes i do believe in love, even though i have yet to find it myself to be quite honest. my opinion is that love isn't something people know right away, it develops over time. it starts off with mutual infatuation when you see a girl/guy that you think is attractive and enjoy being with. then after spending a great deal of time with them like say over a year or so, give or take depending on the couple. then those feelings of infatuation for each other develops and grows into love. i could be wrong, but that's just my theory anyway.
as for love at first sight, your a 100 percent right on that. outside of films, people who fall in love at first sight are often saying that out of lust more so than feelings.
86- Bovine Currency
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It does if you say it so
88- Black Lilly
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Does love exist? I do not know.
I wish that feeling would be something real, but at the same time I've lived long enough and did not feel it.
There's plenty of lust and sometimes I get a crush on someone, but that's it. Then I just get bored and start having a secret wish to move on.
When I was in late teens (18-19), I could give a very professional my own practice-based (well, always worked) advice to anyone how NOT to fall in love, not to lose your mind and keep it all in control. I felt immediately which man is "dangerous" to me and took appropriate action. I guess all this got into my blood finally, and now it would take someone very special to change it.
But I still believe that EVERY FISH HAS ITS NET.- 74
- Stevennix2001
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Black Lilly wrote:
Does love exist? I do not know.
I wish that feeling would be something real, but at the same time I've lived long enough and did not feel it.
There's plenty of lust and sometimes I get a crush on someone, but that's it. Then I just get bored and start having a secret wish to move on.
When I was in late teens (18-19), I could give a very professional my own practice-based (well, always worked) advice to anyone how NOT to fall in love, not to lose your mind and keep it all in control. I felt immediately which man is "dangerous" to me and took appropriate action. I guess all this got into my blood finally, and now it would take someone very special to change it.
But I still believe that EVERY FISH HAS ITS NET.wow, thats probably the best answer i heard on this forum
96- Mrvoodoo
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No.
But I understand why it's such a desirable belief, and one that most people would do anything to cling to.
Loneliness can be a terrible thing, and a little self-delusion can be a small price to pay to avoid it.- 88
- Black Lilly
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Mrvoodoo wrote:
No.
But I understand why it's such a desirable belief, and one that most people would do anything to cling to.
Loneliness can be a terrible thing, and a little self-delusion can be a small price to pay to avoid it.Hm... Everything I've written on Hubpages goes around that - self-delusion of some sort.
But you know what? I want that.
And, like I wrote in one of hubs: I want that dizziness, feeling DRUNK WITHOUT ALCOHOL, when someone whom I like is near.
That's the feeling to live for. - 96
- Mrvoodoo
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Black Lilly wrote:
Mrvoodoo wrote:
No.
But I understand why it's such a desirable belief, and one that most people would do anything to cling to.
Loneliness can be a terrible thing, and a little self-delusion can be a small price to pay to avoid it.Hm... Everything I've written on Hubpages goes around that - self-delusion of some sort.
But you know what? I want that.
And, like I wrote in one of hubs: I want that dizziness, feeling DRUNK WITHOUT ALCOHOL, when someone whom I like is near.
That's the feeling to live for.Couldn't agree more.
It's addictive, and if I have to lie to myself, and the person I 'love' to get that feeling, in time, no doubt I will (but not yet).
I didn't believe in Santa for most of my childhood, but I was happy enough to play along if it got me some presents each year.
I hope you get that dizzy feeling in your life again soon (even if it takes a little self-delusion to achieve it).
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- Stevennix2001
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Black Lilly wrote:
Mrvoodoo wrote:
No.
But I understand why it's such a desirable belief, and one that most people would do anything to cling to.
Loneliness can be a terrible thing, and a little self-delusion can be a small price to pay to avoid it.Hm... Everything I've written on Hubpages goes around that - self-delusion of some sort.
But you know what? I want that.
And, like I wrote in one of hubs: I want that dizziness, feeling DRUNK WITHOUT ALCOHOL, when someone whom I like is near.
That's the feeling to live for.i think we all wouldn't mind having a bit of happiness in our lives even if we knew that happiness wasn't necessarily true
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- Black Lilly
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Mrvoodoo wrote:
I hope you get that dizzy feeling in your life again soon (even if it takes a little self-delusion to achieve it).Thanks
It always involves a bit of self-delusion, especially with regards to intensity - haven't yet met anyone who could keep up with the level of intensity that I need.
But - never say never. 
95- myownworld
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yes...to love...and then to have it reciprocated with the same intensity...now THAT is the real thing...! (the rest mostly amounts to crushes and infatuations that one just gets over pretty quick)
65- Maximus591
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There is a science to love.
Physical changes occur in the body when someone is in love. Pleasure chemicals are released in the brain. All this has been studied. So, yes does love exist.
The only person who would ask 'Does love exist?' is someone who has never experienced love. That must be you.
87- dave272727
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Black Lilly wrote:
Mrvoodoo wrote:
No.
But I understand why it's such a desirable belief, and one that most people would do anything to cling to.
Loneliness can be a terrible thing, and a little self-delusion can be a small price to pay to avoid it.Hm... Everything I've written on Hubpages goes around that - self-delusion of some sort.
But you know what? I want that.
And, like I wrote in one of hubs: I want that dizziness, feeling DRUNK WITHOUT ALCOHOL, when someone whom I like is near.
That's the feeling to live for.I couldnt agree more. I hope that you find it, it is something magical to feel. Love does exist in my humble opinion.
I have only recently understood the love I have
