6 Reasons Why Being Dependent Sucks (With SSI and Disability)

When I Talk About Dependency

This has been back and forth in my mind as I go through the motions of daily life. When I talk about dependence, I usually mean one of two things (or both): 1) General co-dependency, and 2) dependency on the government. The first one here means I generally depend on other people and devices to assist me with phone calls, translating a conversation, and being there with me when I go into public places. The second one here usually refers to public insurance like TennCare, which is associated with social security income for the disabled.

Dependency is one of the biggest debates with ADA and public as a whole.  ADA is being blamed for creating dependency on America, whereas they successfully created awareness of disability issues where disabled people were largely ignored.  It's a back and forth thing.

So, without further ado, I present to you six reasons why dependency sucks.

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The usual frazzled feel during and after paperwork looks like thisDealing with social stigma.The ever familiar social security card.
The usual frazzled feel during and after paperwork looks like this
The usual frazzled feel during and after paperwork looks like this
Dealing with social stigma.
Dealing with social stigma.
The ever familiar social security card.
The ever familiar social security card.

Give It a Try to Understand Six Reasons Why...

  1. Bad stigma. This is the least important, but highly relevant. Dependency as a whole is scowled at. There are debates upon debates about people who have welfare. This is a very hurtful thing to encounter when, in general, people do not believe you contribute to the society at all. You're not part of a whole because you do not actually work and you earn money from social security out of hard-working taxpayers' pocket. That's ESPECIALLY if you're a foreigner which gets many people frothing at the mouth.
  2. Playing By the Rules. In my case, the only way I could have insurance (to cover the extremely expensive costs of my cochlear implant which does go into the thousands) was to retrieve SSI (social security income). If you were to have all this, SSI says you cannot marry, you cannot have a job, you cannot own anything that values over what you receive. Lose SSI, lose insurance. It's a hard game to play.
  3. Emotional Risk. You can get stuck in feelings of inadequacy and entrapment. Dependency as a life-long situation is quite rough. Perhaps you didn't experience things the way you should have. Perhaps you could have gotten tougher and learned to be more independent. Perhaps, perhaps... thoughts like these can be so pervasive.
  4. Quality of Living. It's not the best as YOU can make it to be, when others are providing their concepts and quantification of what is the best for you due to your disability.
  5. Cost of Living. The money you receive is calculated to base off of what they believe you can survive on. For some, it can go up to just a little over $600 a month. With shelter to pay for whether rent or mortgage, utilities, groceries, and gas, I cannot see how that can really be stretched. That leads me to....
  6. Paperwork. Of course, it's like with anything, but insurance and social security provides so much paperwork to one recipient that is comparable to 5 acres of trees.

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Disability generally looks like this to many people.  However, those with invisible disability (hearing loss, blindness, and mute) still seem less recognized.Depression feels like this.
Disability generally looks like this to many people.  However, those with invisible disability (hearing loss, blindness, and mute) still seem less recognized.
Disability generally looks like this to many people. However, those with invisible disability (hearing loss, blindness, and mute) still seem less recognized.
Depression feels like this.
Depression feels like this.

In the End

There are still a lot of good things going for people who receive the benefits. There are also alternative solutions if it doesn't work out. But I stick to the fact that dependency after a certain degree sucks as a whole.

This is not against the disabled, or I would be against myself. This is against the ridiculous things Penn and Taylor talk about on their show. This is against government intrusion and deciding how we should live in order to keep insurance on things we could never afford otherwise, like cochlear implant surgery, appointments on tune-ups, necessities, and upgrades.

For me, I have a choice. It is either to lose my hearing through losing social security or live my life.

Editor's Note: The URL isn't quite right. I had planned on 10 reasons at first, but I ended up narrowing it down to six as some of the reasons were similar to others.

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SognoPiccolo 6 years ago from Wilmington, Ohio

Love you, Decisions like this are tough. You will make your way through it.


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MPG Narratives 6 years ago from Sydney, Australia

How frustrating for you or anyone with a disability. Good luck on your mission to dispel myths between disability SS and welfare,there is a big difference.

Along with AKirchner, I wrote a hub on her son's frustrations with vision impairment.


JJ 5 years ago

A person with SSI can't get a real job once the prospective employer does a background check through SSA. On my SSI it say I have pervasive development disorder. My mother signed me up for it behind my back and since then I have not been able to get a real job, only things like taking movie tickets, They basically say that I am retarded even though I have a very high IQ. Ruined my whole life, I'm thinking about expatrioting if they won't get me off this nonsense. I don't have the rights to pursue happiness or the American dream.


Hugo 9 months ago

SSI pays too little to survive without depending on help from family, it's impossible. SHAME on the American federal government for financially torturing the disabled!It is so wrong. Benefits should be raised to at least $1600/month bare minimum.


tom 3 weeks ago

well i certainly agree disability should pay us much more than it does,. i worked very hard and for a long time as a truck driver, then all those years took a toll on my body ,stress and smoking,but then had to had to have 4 vertebrae fused,so no more work, just a sad exsistance that makes everyday harder and harder to keep going, especially when all your hopes and dreams that you worked so hard for are gone

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