26 Positive Thoughts I Learned the Hard Way

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1. Falling down, slipping up, making a mistake - no setback necessarily means failure. Disappointment is a stepping stone, not a stumbling block.


2. It's sad, but it's okay to let go of people, even if it means no longer caring in the same way. Letting go is also a gift of love to myself.


3. It is okay to express a need to someone. Everyone has them sometimes and a particular need may never be met if it is never known to others.


4. I must love myself even at my absolute worst, because very few others will want to be around my worst and even fewer will stay after.


5. God will use me to bless someone else even when I am unaware of it. Finding out about it later is a blessing to me.

6. When I am my most authentic self, I will drive some away from me at times - but I will also make the most difference to someone else another time as a result.


7. The truth within my heart is always present even if God is the only one to recognize it.


8. Sometimes a soft heart feels more like the curse that is the cure. It brings with it deep, passionate negative emotions, especially sadness. It has a longing for the ideals of love. And it also feels that love and compassion just as deeply. Because of it, the joy and the laughter mean twice as much.


9. Sometimes the key to being me is just to be.


10. Sometimes a chance in perspective makes everything better.

11. Forgiving myself for being human - sometimes unlikeable is essential.


12. Spiderwebs are fragile. So are human bonds. Both are beautiful and sparkle in the light.


13. I will not always live up to the image people have of me in their minds. That's okay. If I am truly liked or loved for me and only me, it will not make a difference.


14. Strength does not mean never falling down. Strength is getting back up, facing a challenge, believing in myself - especially when others don't, and not allowing the trials of life to make me bitter or jaded.


15. I will feel what I feel , sometimes to the core of my very being, but it will not keep me incapacitated.

16. I will try not to entertain a negative thought longer than it takes for it to cross my mind, even those that are imposed upon me.


17. I will not wallow in the pain of past experiences or of past mistakes.


18. Ultimately, I am my own best cheerleader, but sometimes hearing the cheers and words of encouragement from others provides a much needed boost. It is of priceless value, but better than riches. I will strive to do the same for others in return.


19. I do not want someone to fix me or my problems. I want to be loved through them. I will do my best to do that for others and to make it known if I can.


20. Sometimes silence is the best gift. There is nothing like an ear to listen when emotions scream to be heard and a kind word or hug after to reassure.

21. Real empathy is not just about feeling what others feel; it is about acknowledging the truth. Sometimes it is not okay and may never be the same even when it is okay again.


22. I will not compare myself to others.


23. It is not selfish to take time for myself to recharge or to regroup. I cannot be my best for others if I am not my best for me.


24. Just because someone stops being my friend, that does not mean I stop being one.


25. Laughter truly is the best medicine for body, mind, and soul


26. I have a right to persue my own dreams and goals. I have a right to make myself happy.

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aesta1 18 months ago from Ontario, Canada

Laughter is indeed the best medicine. We often take this for granted.


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billybuc 18 months ago from Olympia, WA

I should have read this tomorrow morning. What a great affirmation to begin a day with.


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Thelma Alberts 18 months ago from Germany

These are good affirmations to ourselves. We have to think about what is good to our minds and souls. Thanks for sharing.


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Jodah 18 months ago from Queensland Australia

A great list of affirmations Shanmarie. We all need to read these often as a refresher.


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ChitrangadaSharan 18 months ago from New Delhi, India

A great hub with positive thoughts, which we need everyday to deal with the ups and downs of life.

Thanks for the reminder! Voted up!


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tillsontitan 18 months ago from New York

Perhaps you should be sitting on a mountain top giving advice! This hub certainly makes you a guru and very wise. You have learned the ways of the world and share them nicely.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.


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Ericdierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Very good concepts indeed. Just by my reading of them a better day is bound to happen. You shared your own wisdom here and from yours I can strengthen mine. Hopefully that will mean I can pass it on to another. See what you started here? Thanks


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Larry Rankin 18 months ago from Oklahoma

Seems like I learn everything the hard way.

Great article.


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MsDora 18 months ago from The Caribbean

Number twelve is so poetic and also so true. That gets my attention, but I can identify with and vouch for each of these thoughts. Thanks for sharing.


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Vellur 18 months ago from Dubai

Great positive thoughts to read and remember always. Thank you for sharing and voted up.


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manatita44 18 months ago from london

You turned it unto yourself. This is Yoga. You're also serving. What a beautiful thing! Day and Night the Universe teaches with radiant lamps. So much shine in your true flame! I bid you much Love and Beauty, Shanmarie!


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Sadly, aesta, it is often taken for granted. But it works much like adrenaline does. One can physically feel the difference after a good laugh.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Aw, thanks Bill. I wasn't intending to even make a hub out of this. I just found myself writing it all out the other night. So I thought maybe I wrote it out for a reason I know nothing about. Who knows?


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Thelma. Thank you for taking the time to read. I think positive affirmations are more powerful than we realize.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Aw, thank you Jodah. I'm sure there are plenty more that could be included. The thing about affirmations is that they can easily be personalized.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks so much, Chitrangada. I agree that positive thoughts, especially self affirmative ones, are needed daily.


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drbj 18 months ago from south Florida

These are very insightful affirmations, shanmarie. Your statement about laughter being the best medicine ... echoes a mantra that has always guided my life and activity ... personally, socially and professionally.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Mary, how did you know I have a thing for hilltops and mountaintops? There is a sense of peace and freedom on top of one. Not to mention, a great view on many. But I am no guru. I learn and relearn things constantly. And I pick the pieces back up after I fall, resolved to believe in my own positive affirmations still.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Eric, you always have such wisdom to share in your own right. It's an honor for you to suggest I have some small part in that.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Seems it is bound to be that way, Larry. Even if we try to shield others from it. Thanks for taking time to read and comment.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Hi MsDora. That's probably because number 12 actually inspired a poem I published on HP a few moths ago - Spiderwebs of Love. Thanks for reading and your lovely comment.


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MartieCoetser 18 months ago from South Africa

Indeed 26 positive thoughts, shanmarie. Nr 17 spoke to me...


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Vellur. For the vote up too.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Thank you, Vellur. For the vote up too.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Manatita, what a lovely thing to say! And inspiring too. Thank you!


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

Isn't it a magnificent mantra, drbj? I love to laugh and I will seek out people to laugh with if I need a little comic relief. Life is too shirt to be serious ball of the time. And the mental and physical benefits are unequal.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

That does not surprise me, Martie. From the little I actually know of you, we seem alike in many ways. Hugs.


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FlourishAnyway 18 months ago from USA

Better to learn the hard way than never at all. Enjoyed especially 14.


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shanmarie 18 months ago from Texas Author

I suppose that's true, Flourish. Thank you for coming by to read.


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Peggy W 9 months ago from Houston, Texas

Many of these thoughts are good to keep in mind as we go through our daily lives. Ideally #25 should be worked in as often as possible! Laughter truly is good for the mind, body and soul.


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shanmarie 9 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Peggy,

Thanks for bringing me back here tonight. Sometimes I need a reminder of my own affirmations. Hahaha Though I don't forget them for long. And laughter. . .oh. . .that one comes in handy right this second, considering my daughter just dropped a can of soda on the floor and then proceeded to open it up without tapping the lid or waiting a few minutes. It's great comic relief, too, after something stressful happens or after an emotional reaction.

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