"A Daughter with Fears, Depression And Anxiety"

"A Daughter With Fears,Depression And Anxiety"

My daughter is the youngest of three daughters, who also suffers bad depression, brought on about fears of what if this happens or that happens, it's always the same fears. She constantly battling one fear or another so she stays on a run away roller coaster, but she wants to get off and don't know how. I had to explain to her that she had to get prescribed medication to help with the chemical imbalance she fighting against.  If you're a mother like me, you want all of your children to be happy and content , but if they arent' then neither are you. she was married to a man with an alcoholic problem, and that didn't help matters any. She always worry about her two sons, which is 10 years old and three years old, she also has a problem with her weight; because she eats to make her self feel better, this is also a concern for me. We talk every day, through out the day, especially if she's having anxiety attacks, I'm constantly trying to calm her fears. I told her she needed help with medication, are she going to stay miserable.

My daughter has her highs and lows, but unfortunately the lows out weigh the highs, so the downers are keeping her sad and solemn, I want to help more, but it never last for very long before she riding the same old roller coaster again. It literally breaks my heart to see her going through this mental madness, and I can truly relate to her mental pain because I have been there myself. her once she had stabilized and she can handle the depression, she can slowly with draw from her medication with the doctors help of course. God knows I'm all for that healing action. I think maybe my daughter has bouts of depression because of my problem with depression and her father once had to be hospitalized for it. Let me tell you about my baby girl,she sweet. kind considerate and has a heart of gold, she the best mother anyone child can have.

Even though she has been unfortunate in love she hasn't totally thrown in the the towel yet, she still has hopes of finding the man of her dreams. I truly love all of my children, one no more than the other, but each of them have their own set of circumstances; for me to deal with individually. My baby girl has poor self esteem, and deep depression, which I try to bring her out of . I think she's  pretty and has a great personality, she just beat up on herself for pass mistakes. Depression is a debilitating sickness that takes a lot out of the person. she also suffer the anxiety and panic attacks. I think when it comes down to her ways. she has a lot of them just like me, and maybe that's not all good because of my history with depression. She loves to cook , invent and create, when she in the kitchen, just like me. She a mother that takes time and does many things with her children, because she loves them so much, and because the father is really not around enough to help out. I want my daughter to get help so she can live  a happy and productive life with her boys.

I know God is going to bless her to get her mental health back together real soon , because I don't want her to suffer a nervous break down from like of attention. She a reminder of myself and we talk two, to three times a day, we pray together, have bible study over the phone and sometimes we have to cry together; I just want the best that God has for her, because she deserves it.

Benny Faye Douglass

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Mekenzie you are a blessing to me, I apprecaite you, your comment and feedback. God bless you creativeone59


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan

Pmccray's prayer was beautiful and so uplifiting for someone who is facing depression. I too have faced deep depression and I know of it's devastation. You are a GOOD mom creativeone!

I just wrote a hub called "Looking Through His Eyes" .. I address worry in it .. and 'surprise' I even talk about YOU dear one.

Love YOU!

Mekenzie


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Pmccray, for your God given prayer for my daughter, I thank you so much for caring. if you haven't read or listen to Peaks and Valleys by Dr. Spencer Johnson, please go get it from the library, you really need to listen to it. Thanks again for your prayer. Godspeed. creativeone59


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

Dear creativeone59: A prayer for your daughter;

Dear Jesus, I walk in the valley of darkness for I suffer from depression. I feel unloved. rejected, useless to myself and useless to others. I feel lost in a world I no longer understand. At times, I want to sleep and never wake up again. Lord, I believe that Your love is a transforming love. Jesus, Son of David have pity on me. Out of the depths, I cry to you.

Lord, even though 1 feel nothing, I still praise you for the wonder of my being. You have formed me in my mother's womb and watched over me to this moment. I am precious in Your eyes and You love me. On the Cross, you shed your blood for me. You have carved me in the palm of Your hand. For all this I give you thanks and praise.

May your Precious Blood give new life to me and to all those who suffer as I do. Take each one of us and hug us to your sacred and loving heart. Through your glorious wounds may we be healed.

Dear Jesus, when you fed the crowd in the desert, you wished to gather up the fragments, lest anything be lost. As I wander through a desert and darkness of my own, I ask you to gather up the fragments of this shattered being, lest anything be lost. Through the prophet, Joel, Yo prologize to restore the years that the locusts have eaten. I ask you, lay Your hands gently on my weary head and restore me. Let your face shine upon me and give me back the peace and the joy that has been lost.

Amen

I will keep you and your family in my prayers, peace and love to you and your loved ones.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much Audrey, your story about your daughter gives me hope for my daughter, thank you for caring and leaving your comment and feedback. Gods blessings to you. creativeone59


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

That's a tough thing, huh? Our daughter struggled with that quite a bit over her lifetime but thankfully on finding the right man (second marriage) and having a good, solid life together, she is happier than I can remember in forever! That is the greatest gift. I will send all good thoughts to your girlie.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks Micky, it sounds like you have been ther and done that, thank you for your comment and feedback. Goodspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, for caring, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Parrster, I appreciate your info on the celiac disease, because I know she has a lot of those symptoms, thankk you for sharing, God bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you luciamurairaw, thank you so much for your advice and concerns may God bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Revlady, for your comment, feedback and your prayers, God bless you also. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, we all want our children to be healthy, prosper and behappy in love. Thank you so much for caring. godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for your advice Melinda, I appreciate your advice, comment and feedback. Godspeed.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I know what she's fighting. Godspeed!


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parrster 6 years ago from Oz

Has your daughter considered that her depression may be diet related? I am celiac: an intolerance to gluten that slowly destroys the digestive tract and prevents absorption of nutrients. This in turn creates an imbalance within the body that can lead to severe depression, anxiety or other mental illness. If I stick to a gluten free diet, all my symptoms disappear. Just thought I'd raise it as a possibility. Sometimes we can become fixated on what with think is the reason for a problem and so fail to investigate other options.

http://celiac-disease.com/what-are-the-symptoms-of...

God Bless


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

My heart goes out to you and your daughter. I hope she will be getting better soon and I send you all my best wishes. It is a horrible thing to have. I am so so so sorry.


luciamurairwa 6 years ago

There is proven evidence that Cognitive behaviour therapy is effective and works for depression and anxiety problems.She can get professional help or can teach herself and become her own therapist.

peace

Lucia


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

Creativeone,

You are blessed with your daughter and she is blessed to have you by her side. It is always helpful when someone who has first hand knowledge and experience with depression to lend support. I know it is not easy for either of you as the condition seems to fluctuate.

I also agree with msorensson, exercise is great for relieving anxiety and uplifting the spirit. Of course, it is not a cure all, but it may help.

I pray your strength and your daughter's mental health.

Forever His,


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

I will definitely keep her in my prayers. Depression and anxiety robs one of so much joy and happiness. I hope she gets some relief really soon. You are a good mother by doing all you can to help her during such a rough time.


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msorensson 6 years ago

If she exercises regularly..I mean really regularly..then it might alleviate her depression, Faye.

Much love,

Melinda

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