A Life Not Worth Living Anymore-Tyler Patton Is No Longer With Us-A Wichita Suicide-Don't Know If Death Meant Anything

Tyler Patton - You Will Be Missed

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Yesterday was Easter Sunday. It is supposed to be a day of celebrating the resurrection of Christ. It is supposed to be a happy day. A day with family and friends and children hunting Easter eggs.

But yesterday was different. A sad, handsome young man decided that life was no longer worth living. I didn’t know him very well. He was a friend of my niece. I met him once and was very impressed by what a polite, caring young man he was. He “friended” me on Facebook. I could tell by the comments he made and the comments made to him from his friends, he was a good man. He loved his friends and his friends loved him. It seemed that he had it all. But for some reason, he didn’t believe that. I don’t try to pretend that I had any idea what was really going on with him, because I didn’t know him that well.

About a year ago, a sad, middle-aged woman decided the same thing. Her son had died in a freak accident the year before. Her daughter-in-law decided for some reason that she couldn’t share her young boys with their grandparents any longer. Maybe it was too painful. Maybe it was another reason. Again, I don’t pretend to know all of the answers. I wasn’t involved in the day to day lives of these women. All I know that on one fateful day, the grandmother decided that life wasn’t worth living anymore.

A few years ago, a father had finally had enough. Two of his three children had severe mental illnesses. His wife was about to leave him. His daughter was fifteen and pregnant. He had just found out that he was about to lose his job. He felt that he didn’t have anyone to talk to. He felt that he didn’t have any friends. I didn’t know what was really going on. I only knew what I heard. He decided that life wasn’t worth living anymore.

All three of these stories have one thing in common. Besides all being wonderfully, awesome people, they all felt that there was no one that they could turn to. No one to listen to their problems. They felt as if there was no one that they could trust enough to tell their deep, dark secrets to. They didn’t feel like they could talk to their families or friends. For whatever reason, they felt hopeless and alone.

I am not a psychologist or therapist of any kind. I don’t know any secrets that could solve any of these issues. I am no expert. I don’t know if anything could have stopped any of these untimely deaths. From all outward appearances these people seemed happy enough to most people. Probably the only ones that knew they were hurting were those that were the closest to them – and maybe not even those knew.

These people that ended their own lives were not close to me. I knew them, but they were not my closest friends or my family. But they were people. They were people who needed something and didn’t know how to get it. They were people that, for whatever reason, decided that life was not worth living…

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Rochelle Frank 4 years ago from California Gold Country

So sad, for all of them. We all need a shoulder to lean on now and then. The wold seems to be running out of shoulders.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Rochelle - I agree...it's very sad and we need more shoulders...but the really sad thing is that all of these people had the shoulders available - they were just to proud or stubborn or something to take advantage of them...


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Wow, this is an eyeopener. Such sad stories, but I believe that we do need to be sensitive to those around us who may need help. Thanks for the reminder.


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

It's really hard to stop someone that has made up their minds to commit suicide.

I had my dog at the groomer one time, went to pick him up and the lady that did the grooming wanted to talk. I tried to talk with her I knew her mom had died. Her husband had just died from long illness and she had taken care of both of them. My dog was acting up and I couldn't visit long. The next day she commented suicide. I didn’t know her well and I couldn’t have stopped her decision to do this but I just wish I could have let her talk to me longer. She also wasn’t alone in her life. She had children.

My husband's great-grandfather killed himself and I've always worried it could run in a family.

It's the sadness and the people they leave behind. People who blame themselves.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

I know that if someone has made up their minds, its usually only a matter of time before it happens, but I wish there could have been something someone could have done...


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cebutouristspot 4 years ago from Cebu

A lot of people wear mask that they show to other people maybe afraid that they wont be accepted if people really know who they are. So its hard to find people who think life is not worth living because they are people who pretend to be happy but deep inside they are not


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

cebutouristspot - you are right - they hide behind their smiles and pretend that nothing is wrong - and if they would just open up so many people could help them...


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meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

It is always very sad when someone takes their own lives. For some the pain and suffering far outweighs any hope. The worst thing of all is that there are more bodies to ring than ever before if only for an ear. Sharing is key to preventing suicide. Very sad.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

meloncauli - it truly was very sad for all of these people...if they had just reached out someone would have helped them...


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Sharyn's Slant 4 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Very sad and difficult to comprehend. Someone I was in a relationship with for over 8 years committed suicide last October. There are no words to describe what those left behind go through. The bottom line really is they "don't feel their life is worth living." Thank you for writing about this.

Sharyn


johnny 4 years ago

i am desperately needing help and have no one to go to or any family member left...i have lost all of my family in death (120 members since my father died in 1990) i have not seen my twin daughters since christmas 1978 when they were 14 months old. i was very ill and their mother was persuaded that i was no good and should discard me which she did. another man raised my daughters and i never got over losing them or being their father and daddy. i do not know what to do or who to turn to and God has turned his back on me.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

God had not turned his back on you...the devil is trying to convince you of that but it is not true...there are people who care about you and want you to be happy! Be glad that your daughtersare alive and probably happy...I would suggest that you find some counseling...there it's even free counseling available in most places...you are a worthy person and mean something to many people...don't give up...don't let the devil win...you are too strong! Please keep in touch...I would like to hear more about you and from you!


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GlstngRosePetals 3 years ago from Wouldn't You Like To Know

I loved the article and its sad content of the truth about not knowing. But what if you did know, and what you knew was that of a life not worth living, the doom the dispare and the lack of doing anythingh but waiting for the inevitable? Would the anticipation push you to the edge? Or would you hold out and desprately try to hang on. Would there be someone there for you to keep you stiving for one extra moment? Would you suffer to appease that person one more painful, dredfull day? These are some questions i have never had answerd. This is a tough subject to look into, we all see it and know it but never ask the questions ourselves. Who is it? Why is it ? where is it? What can i do? Where can i go? These are the questions that the individaul had no answers to, or the answer wasn't the right one. It's a sad shame that it is all to common. Thank you for writing your article it was a deep rooted issue of mine that now finally i was able to get out. You don't have to post my comment just try to understand and it may help you as well.

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