ABC's of Self-Realization: Identifying Importance

In discussing self-importance, it’s important to realize that this topic is not about ego or arrogance. It’s about informing those with a low self-image that they are important.

Many women in the world are cast under the stereotype of “servant" - of putting others first. They are people-pleasers or they may be co-dependent – doing for others what those others could be doing for themselves. So many women become rescuers, victims, or those whom believe that self-denial is a positive thing. Many are not given choices. They don’t believe they are worthy of making their own choices. It’s not true. It’s truly not.

There are men in the world who have been taught that they are of little or no value. They have been taught that they have no right to speak up or stand up for themselves. They are told they are not allowed choices in life. That’s not true, either.

All of us have a choices. The very fact that we exist and breathe is the most fundamental aspect of understanding that we are important. The other aspects that make us important are that:

- We all have a purpose; every single person ever conceived has a purpose for being here.

- Because we were conceived, it is our inherent right to be loved and treated with respect.

- We need to realize that we have to learn to love and accept ourselves before we can ever truly love and accept other people. Self-love is important.

- Because we are here, there are people in the world who believe that we are the most important person in their life, whether we know it or not.


It’s important to realize that each of us has the innate right to become who we wish to be. We are born with perfect self-esteem, believe it or not. When we are babies, we innately know we are going to be fed and held and loved and coddled.

As babies, we innately know that the world “revolves around us”, so to speak. Most of us “know” that are needs are being met and that we have value and importance because we aren’t ignored. Keep in mind that I said that most of us have innate importance because most of us are taken care of in loving ways when we are born. For those of us who don’t get our most basic needs met, it is much harder to fathom our importance as we grow and continue our journey in this life. It is possible, though, to find our importance with a lot of diligent introspection and soul-searching. It just takes a bit longer for some than for others.

If for nothing more than food for thought, please ponder the following from Nelson Mandela:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Nelson’s speech expresses it perfectly. We are all important, valuable, and have a light inside that we need not fear. So shall it be!

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wheelinallover 5 years ago from Central United States

I remember now why I follow you. This message is timeless. I have known I have value because the ones who love me have always made me feel it. Through all the trials and tribulations in my life there has always been someone there to show me my life still had value and meaning.

I devoted two years of my life letting others know they still had value after losing their spouse or a parent. It's still part of my life with the people I take in.

I know you have been here a long time but please keep up the good work. Voted up and beautiful.

Lene Lynn 5 years ago

Wheel, thank you so much for your kind words. It sounds like you have been very blessed to have such a loving family in your life through your difficult times. It sounds like you are making something very positive and beneficial out of your life by helping other people. That is so wonderful and so fulfilling, isn't it? :) You are awesome! Thank you again! Blessings to you...:)

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wheelinallover 5 years ago from Central United States

Lene, I am not awesome,I am just me. I honestly don't know how to be different. When you are as loved as I have been what else can I do but follow the examples which made me who I am.

I know I have worth and that is enough for me.

Thank you though for your kind words.

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Lene Lynn 5 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

You are welcome! I say you are awesome because that is what I see about you. :)

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heart4theword 5 years ago from hub

I see what you are saying about our light, is what we are in fear? Fear of success at times? I myself for many years was used to living in darkness, afraid to come out in the light:) Yet, God does want us to step out and shine for Him, reflecting the light of Jesus in those who have chosen Him:) Another writing, I have enjoyed reading! Thanks:)

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Lene Lynn 5 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

Heart, thank you. I think Nelson Mandela was speaking about our own light - about the fact that we have greatness and talent and empowerment and value and worth within each of us and yet we fear that light, because we think we aren't worthy enough or as he says, we think that if we "shine", others will feel insecure around us. I totally agree with him, that each of us is a "child of God" and we were born to manifest that within ourselves. Thank you for you comments! :)

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Danette Watt 5 years ago from Illinois

Beautiful hub. Nelson Mandela's words should be read and re-read, very wise words. Voted up and beautiful

Lene Lynn 5 years ago

Danette, I totally agree with you about his words. I read them many, many times myself! Thank you very much for your compliment about my hub - thanks for reading! :)

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful hub and well written. I first heard those words from Marianne Williamson when she spoke at a church I had attended in Michigan. There is beauty in loving oneself and honoring oneself as a child of God. You are a wise woman. :) Voted up.

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Lene Lynn 5 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

Denise, thank you SO much! I appreciate your comments more than you know. I was born in MI, believe it or not! Born in Kalamazoo, and grew up in Battle Creek! Where did you live in Michigan? Are you from there? :)

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

I was born in Detroit and moved out of that area north about 45 miles to what was then Utica. It was later transitioned to Sterling heights which is where I own a condo. My two children still live in that area. I go back for visits and my spiritual retreats.

Marianne Williamson used to minister at the Church of Today in Warren, MI :)

Lene Lynn 5 years ago

Denise, that is so cool! I remember hearing about Utica and Sterling Heights, just recognizing their names! I think I heard somewhere a long time ago that Marianne Williamson used to minister in MI - that is SO awesome! Small world, isn't it? :)

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