ABC's of Self-Realization: Tangible Tenderness


There seems to be a lack of tangible tenderness in the world today. Yet, there also seems to be a deep yearning in the hearts of humanity in this moment of time for nothing more than the need for others to be tender. “Tender”, in the context of this article, means to be kind, caring, concerned, positive, and loving towards the needs, desires, and feelings of another. To be tender to those we love is something that we are meant to be doing on a daily basis. To be tender to humanity in general seems to be quite a difficult concept for a lot of us to grasp.


Look at the dissention in the U.S. government all because of the horrendous state of the economy. How has it happened that the most highly-appointed individuals cannot find it within their conscience to work together, compromise, and truly care enough about people to make our country the highly-regarded power it once was? We are downgraded in credibility and have become a “shame” in the eyes of the world, in many instances. How, as a country, can we be an example for others to follow when we aren’t even being an example for ourselves or our loved ones to follow?


Tangible tenderness, in this author’s perspective means that we take action. Don’t just talk off the top of our heads, trying to appease others. Don’t say things we have no intention of doing, whatsoever. Do what we say we are going to do. Take the time, the effort, and the responsibility to be men and women of honor, of repute, and of positive intention.

Our world is a place of instant gratification. We constantly see the “me-me-me” mentality of believing the world revolves around each of us individually. It’s a pathetic state of affairs if the truth be told. How did we get like this? The world wasn’t like that sixty years ago. That wasn’t eons ago, was it? Shoot, it's been within the lifetime of some of us right now! The universal thoughts of all humanity are literally just millions and millions of vibrations of energy. Thought is nothing but energy, multiplied and spread throughout the world. Each person’s thoughts have the scientifically-proven effect of travelling a distance of twenty-five miles and therefore, having an influence on anything it encompasses. Because of this, the thoughts of all humanity are spread and envelope everything they touch. That’s why the speakers and teachers of New Thought (which isn’t truly new at all, as science has been around for eons – and of course, energy and vibrational frequencies like thought - are definitely scientific), teach us that there is a Universal Consciousness.



Our thoughts of tenderness or the lack thereof, are what we see in the world around us. Everything we think literally shows up in the world as the result of our thoughts. Why is it that we cannot go deeper into our souls and wake up? Why is it that we choose to walk around with our eyes wide shut? All it takes, literally, is one individual to touch off a spark - to be the living, breathing example of conscious awareness – in order for the rest of the world to catch the spark and repeat that consciousness.

Tenderness in all its varied meanings is not difficult. Anything positive, accepting, congenial, helpful, and meaningful is way easier to reflect and much more beneficial for society at large. There’s enough negativity, chaos, bitterness, anger, and hatred in the world to last a million lifetimes. Why would we choose all that darkness (which has no vibrational frequency at all, by the way ), when all we need do is flip our perspective and spread some agreement, mutually beneficial compromise, and acceptance? That’s just some food for thought.


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Steph Harris 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom

If I had my way Lene Lynn I would like to get the worlds leaders, in your country and mine especially at the moment and say, "just read this hub and do exactly what it tells you to do, NOW."

In the UK at the moment we are having riots, it started with the shooting of a young man, there was supposed to be a peaceful protest in London due to the death of this young man, but as usual, young troublemakers who were more interested in looting and causing trouble got involved. Anyway, we have problems in the U.K., just as your politicians, in your country are causing problems of their own.

If man was able to act towards one another in the way that you describe, rather than acting through hate and greed all of the time, this world of ours would be so much happier.

Voted up and all of the buttons girl, this is a good one.


Lene Lynn 5 years ago

Steph, thank you SO much! I WISH the world would read this and open their eyes! :) I heard about the riots in your country since my boyfriend was born in Lancashire! He has lived in America for 34 years but we listen to the BBC a lot. It's very sad how the whole world is disintegrating farther and farther into chaos and "insanity." We all MUST wake up soon and find a universal POSITIVE consciousness...thank you SO much for all the buttons and compliments, sweet lady! :) *hug*


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Very excellent points. Now, here is one I did not see in your hub...the tenderness we show ourselves ignites a self love which enables us to reach out and care, truly care, for our fellow man.

It is sorely lacking (self love and self tenderness) and is evident in the self destruction that is exhibited daily.

Wonderful hub. Hugs to you.


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Lene Lynn 5 years ago from Glendale, AZ Author

HI Denise, you are right. I guess I didn't speak much about self-love in this particular hub, but I sure have spoken about it in many of my other hubs! We sure can't give to others what we don't have for ourselves. Thank you so much for your kind words! Hugs right back atcha, precious lady! :)

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