AS I GET OLDER

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I will be sixty this year and I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how my life has changed. From some of the articles I’ve been reading by folks in my age range, I believe there is a lot of this going on. There seems to be three groups of thinking about this subject.

1.) You are as old as you feel and if you remain active both physically and mentally, there is no reason your age should determine or interfere with your happiness.

2.) My usefulness is all behind me. My appearance has changed so drastically with wrinkles and extra fat or sagging muscles that all I want to do it hide in my room and wait to die.

3.) I am certain an alien has taken over my mind and body and I am only in control on rare occasions and those seem to be when there is work or pain involved.

Personally, I have never been one who went after, or even longed for, fitness. I know all about the little endorphins that are supposed to flood your brain and make you feel good but I happen to know that eating chocolate accomplishes the same thing and without all of the nasty sweating. I was fortunate enough to be in fair physical shape for most of my adult life without putting forth a lot of effort and mistakenly thought this would continue. C'est la vie – so I was wrong and I now wear things that stretch and disguise and have fewer mirrors in my home.

My usefulness does seem to have morphed into being the butt of jokes, keeping my grandchild when her parents have important things to do that require the absence of children and old people, and being used as an example of what not to do with your life. I guess that’s all right. If setting even a bad example serves to enrich the lives of others then that in and of itself is a sort of usefulness … is it not?

I do agree I’m not worth much if you need help re-arranging furniture, carrying heavy objects such as grocery sacks, lifting a mid fifty pound child so she can reach the monkey bars and pushing a child on a merry-go-round leaves me breathless and the child dissatisfied with only going one half of a mile per hour. I do, however make great voices for characters in children’s books, have developed a theory that desert first is not wrong, but indeed prudent, as life can end unexpectedly and you should enjoy what you can while you can.

You may be assuming that I have let my personal expectations slide but it is not so. I have always tried to be kind with myself, knowing I am a rare breed for which there is no official protective society. I am the person behind the curtain of the voting booth that has the line backed up because, try as I might, I simply can not get the pencil to stay within the tiny circles you are supposed to blacken. I am the student who so angers the teacher they keep the whole class in from recess because I can’t answer the questions on a true or false test … there are so many variables, how can one be expected to answer with absolute certainty that if Mary had five apples and gave three to John, that she would have two left? As far as I know Mary may have also given one to Bill or having seen how generous she had been, Betty had not given her three of her own? I also can not answer questions such as, affirmative statements. I like pie. Well, what kind of pie, who baked it, is it fresh, as apposed to cake or candy … I mean really! I need much more information!

I have to admit my reading habits have changed. I read the obituaries religiously. I read them all, whether I knew the person or not and I’ll admit, I do tend to see how my life so far stacks up to what their eulogy claims they contributed. I’ve read them at another period of my life but that was when I was house hunting and if you time it just right you can get a grand deal from a grieving, overwhelmed widow …. Oh PLEASE, like you haven’t done this very thing?

As far as the alien theory, it is the only logical answer I have found to explain how my reading glasses end up on the top shelf of the refrigerator while a carton of milk appears on my desk. While we’ve all experienced the “missing sock” phenomenon, I am quite certain that I would not try to answer the television remote or for that matter take my doctor a glass of lemonade and find a half full urine specimen bottle in the cup holder of my car. SO … aliens it is.

Yes, it is good to reflect on one’s life as you get older I believe, as long as you don’t take it all too seriously. Selective memory is a marvelous thing.

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saddlerider1 5 years ago

What an interesting observation, of as we get Older. I believe every single one of us have our own interpretation of getting older. I know that I am less tolerant to many things going on around me, I get angry more often than not,the discipline I had for taking better care of my health and body has diminished. I was an athlete most of my life, when my last divorce happened it took it's toll on my emotional state.

Although I kept my body reasonably in tact, my mind slipped into depression and caused me to withdraw and almost become more of a recluse. You can read it in my scribes, my outlook on life has dimmed. With all that's happening in the world, I believe it's affected many of us.

Although I enjoy life and the artistic side of life, I am less tolerant with the rest of living. I am semi retired and feel I have not achieved what I set out to do when I was younger. I had interesting careers and some fairly profitable, yet my glass is still half filled and it's now up to me as I step into my senior years to turn it around for the good.

So my friend you are definitely not alone in the getting older department and taking a serious hard look at where we are heading. I am confident that life will improve, it all really starts with us, we have to make it happen, no one will make it happen for us. We have to take the steps to be Happy and joy will return to our lives. I lost my joy going through my last divorce. I am trying now to make changes to my lifestyle, I'm a work in progress. Many hugs to you, keep moving forward, keep healthy and a fresh outlook on life. We have to make it happen.


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Aley Martin 5 years ago from Sumner, Washington,USA

I often have my students WRITE their obituaries so they have a direction to head into in their ages and stages. I just love being 55+. I feel liberated, life has more meaning and I do not tolerate things anymore...If things or people bug me, I let them go!

I am not interested in sports, exercise or politics. They sap the life out of me. And while I believe the glass is half full I still think that the world is going to hell in a handbasket and hate dealing with people who do not have a mind of their own!

Thanks for this...it reminds me I am not alone!


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StarCreate 5 years ago from Spain

I think only a person with the perspective and wisdom of maturity could have written this! Which is why I'd never want to be too young again... beautiful article, thanks!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota

Thanks Pooh for sharing your thoughts on aging. I had to laugh when you talked about finding your cheats on the fridge and the carton of milk on your desk. Totally sounds like me and I'm 48. I think it's good to talk about aging and how things change. None of us knew what it would be like to get older and we can help eachother through the ups and downs. Love you friend:) Linda


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Hyphenbird 5 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

Pooh, this Hub certainly provides much to think about. I am 55 and love my life. I also have never desired to exercise, however have recently taken up walking. A lovely young woman passed me (several times) running a great jog. A little voice in my mind said, "That can be you one day." I answered, "I don't see it happening and if you try to make me run the other personality is coming out!"

Really I need to lose weight. Otherwise, I am in great health and don't need to worry about my looks since no one else looks at me anyway. When I feel down, I go to the Senior Retirement Home. They all think I am a kid and make me feel like a teenager.

Thanks for another wonderful Hub.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

I was hoping for a good laugh here but thoughtfully contemplating age is good too. I do hope no one believed that I left a urine specimen in my car and took in a glass of lemonade!

saddlerider - you wrote, "Although I enjoy life and the artistic side of life, I am less tolerant with the rest of living. I am semi retired and feel I have not achieved what I set out to do when I was younger. I had interesting careers and some fairly profitable, yet my glass is still half filled and it's now up to me as I step into my senior years to turn it around for the good."

When I look back on my life I honestly don't find a time when I was not just so busy surviving the day to day of it that I had time to contemplate whether or not I was achieving what I set out to do. If I could provide a decent home for my kids, was not in an abusive relationship and was earning enough money to keep one step ahead of the bills, I guess I was succeeding. I never remember wanting to be one thing or another when I grew up, as a child. When I went to college in my twenties I had aspirations of being at least a paralegal but starting as late as I did and having the two kids to support, somehow that never happened. I think my expectations must be a little low in comparison to most folks. I want to spend whatever time my husband has left with him in as much comfort, peace and love as we can have ... beyond that I can not even imagine. I don't have a good feeling at all about living life solo ... honestly, I can't even bring myself to think about that yet.


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SomewayOuttaHere 5 years ago from TheGreatGigInTheSky

...great hub...good thoughts...me? my age?...i'll never reveal....haven't had a birthday since I turned 21!....ha ha ha...

great comments from everyone...oh come on...that lemonade story is true isn't it?


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

hard lemonade, maybe ... not telling


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

You are a beautiful lady dear Pooh.


baygirl33 5 years ago

Thanks Pooh!

Your exageration is humorous and uplifting. I can certainly relate to your wanting to be at peace with your husband while he is still here.I seem to be in that same boat. And I'm there with you in the late educational thing. Although I should say ,way behind you.I went to school all during my 40's and 50's and if given the chance may have done it another way.The flower children of the 60's and 70's were less than enthusiastic about people over 30 in their classes.

Good uplifting post.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Micky - you are a beautiful soul and very kind. That picture, BTW is not me. lol

babygirl33 - thanks for coming by, reading and for your comment. That was a courageous move on your part going back to school at your late age. My older sister still takes classes whenever she can find the time and funding and will be learning until the day she dies, I'm sure. I love that about her.


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WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

No matter how old you get, little sister, you will always be younger than me! :-)


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LVidoni5 5 years ago from Portland, Oregon

I'm still chuckling. This is so clever.. You're such an amazing writer... I admit, I read the obituaries... though not for real estate.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Bro Will - may you're younger in spirit! :)

LVidoni - You caught it - THANKS - everyone seems to miss my satire!


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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Pooh, at any age, you would be, and are, amazing.

It is true that we look at things differently as we age; we are certainly more open in our thinking. I notice that I give voice to things I never would have when I was young, and am silent about things I would have been very vocal about years ago.

A very thoughtful and candid hub, Pooh, and a breath of fresh air. Thank you.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Oh Genna - a visit from you ... now that is a breath of fresh air. Thank you for gracing my hub with your visit! We miss you!


Shitoldski 5 years ago

LOL lemonade indeed. and I hate all tests, voting as well. I hate lines to stand in. I rarely look at that ugly mug in the mirror anymore. He sure has changed.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Aw gee ... oldshyt I like your mug!


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fucsia 5 years ago

Your sense of humor and your wisdom are great messages for those who have afraid to get old. The life is a journey that allows us to became more wise and it is interesting note the changes that occur in our ways to live.

Thanks for this pleasurable reading.

fucsia


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Well thank-you so much for reading, following me and leaving me such nice feedback. I'll be checking out your writing as well.


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northernwriter 5 years ago

I love the old/young picture. What actually amazes me the most about the picture is how much you HAVEN'T changed.


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sofs 5 years ago

Enjoy what you can while you can .. awesome philosophy! You are only as old as you think you are and with your sense of humor you are pretty younger than your years, I guess! Love the picture that you have used .. :)


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

northernwriter, that isn't me. I don't think it is a real picture of anyone, but one of those programs you can do to see what you'll look like as you age. But I do appreciate you reading and stopping by!

sofs - A sense of humor goes a long way in making your life better at any age. I have always been blessed with one, no matter how warped it may seem at times and I'm very thankful for it. Thanks so much for reading and for your comments!


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stars439 5 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

You will always be beautiful in every different way that exists in my eyes because you are , precious heart. GBY.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Oh stars, you are the sweetest friend. Your visits always make me feel like a million bucks!


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Mamelody 5 years ago

I think its a blessing to be older. You're wiser, you're more in tune with yourself and like they say.. the older you get the happier you become. I'm looking forward to 60th birthday in 30 years time...


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

ROTFLMBO - yeah ... I was looking forward to mine at 30 also. You are supposed to be wiser as you grow older, that its not always the case. Unfortunately there are people who live a very long time and are none the wiser ... haven't a clue as a matter of fact.

I do believe that life, at any age, is what you make of it... or at the very least how you handle what it throws at you.


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Mamelody 5 years ago

True that, life is really what you make of it. It is a shame though that this generation is so obsessed with eternal youth..


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

There's always been hype of one kind or another going around. It's all about knowing who you are, loving God first and trying to do no harm.


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rwelton 5 years ago from Sacramento CA

Pooh-

Before I got to the end, I had already decided it was all Aliens. rlw


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epigramman 5 years ago

..well you are, in my humble opinion, one of the youngest and hottest chicks I know here at the Hub - because it's all in that beautiful mind of yours - and it's darn contagious - what can I say - I'm smitten and you've even turned my clock back in time - and your support of my writing and friendship is legendary - and that would make anyone feel young - and loved!


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

@ rwelton - I've secretly known it all along but my doctor keeps trying to pin it on me!

@epi my man - How anyone could be other than supportive and loving of you and your writing, I can not imagine. Thank you for your ever gracious words and visit.


SusieQ42 5 years ago

I'm a 58 year old grandma...of 9!! (and mother of 5) My life slowed down alot when they all left home. No more football and band practices and games, unless I go to my grandson's baseball games. Before I turned 50 I asked the Lord to please start turning me backward each year instead of forward. I wanted to turn 48 instead of 50! (and then 47, then 46...) No, He didn't oblige, now I ask Him to give me another 40 years. We'll see. I can deal with that better than having life end in 20 years. My outlook is pack in as much good memorable stuff as you can. Relax and enjoy not HAVING to send kids off to school in the morning, not having to do tons of laundry, and not having to run to school events ...anymore. Needless to say, I'm glad I'm 58!!!!!


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

SusieQ42 - thanks for your input and for reading. Yes, with age we can relax a bit, sleep later or take a nap if we want and have many things to be thankful for. If my health was better, I don't think I'd mind aging because every age has it's perks!


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Nice article with lots of wisdom words that really fascinated me.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

You are very kind to visit and read, thank you for your lovely comment.


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

I love your avatar it reminds me of Hino Tori by Tezuka Osamu and the image at the start of this hub is brilliant. You write every honestly and though what you say is very interesting and applies to almost everyone who subscribes to the belief about age that we hold collectively there is another perspective that you may be interested in investigating. What if your body is a construct of mind and is actually a projection of mind. In other words the body is in the mind and as such you have more control that you imagine on its appearance. Any way thank you for a great read and I hope I got you thinking because your hub seems to indicate that you are indeed a thinker.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

You know, Spirit Whisperer, your idea may not be that far from true in as much as our perceptions of ourselves is certainly guided by our minds/moods.

On another level it would explain why when a person is in love with another they can find them extremely attractive when others find them perhaps homely.

My avatar is of the Phoenix rising from the ashes but another reader made the same comparison so they must be similar. Thanks for reading and for the most interesting comments!


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Thelma Alberts 5 years ago from Germany

It is a great hub. I am getting older, too. But unfortunately not yet a grandma. I always said to myself that age is only a matter of number you can count but it´s how you and I feel that´s matter. Thanks for sharing.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Thank you for reading and commenting Thelma. I hope you will have grandchildren. They are what keep me going when I think I can't go any more!


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Sharyn's Slant 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Pooh,

This was a fun and enjoyable observation about getting older. Great writing!

Sharyn


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Why thank-you Sharyn's Slant. Your reading and comment are both much appreciated!


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andromida 5 years ago

Your writings and experience worth a lot to us all.I am just thinking about the time when I have to write a hub like this.But,I have noticed one thing that when a person grow older, he or she get the ability to see life from a much broader horizon.Great reading.Is that you in the picture? :)


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

No, the picture is from Google.pictures. It is hard to imagine for you when you will write a hub like this but time does have a way of either standing still completely or rushing past us. I never gave any real thought to being 60 I wasn't upset at forty but for some reason forty-five seemed as old as dirt, as my husband likes to say ...lol I wish you nothing but goodness, whatever your age.


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

How pleasing to finally read you. I've seen your articles in the Lit categories often. Remember, if we allow, its true; 50 is the new 40, 60 is the new 50 and so on. Its also time to start joining the Hyph friends club some. It's a genuine & talented team!


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

What is that?


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

Woops! Been having back spasms & the meds threw me a curve ball , I commented on the wrong writer hub obviously. Profuse apologies.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Well, lol, this is awkward. Feel free to stop following me. :)


Becky 5 years ago

I loved your humor and lost things. I am 53 now and find myself losing things all the time. I am not the one who left the remote in the freezer though. That was really the kids. NO,NO, REALLY, IT WAS THE KIDS. Ok, it was me. laugh about our problems and they do not seem as large. I have been doing it for years and I love it when soeone else does.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

Glad you dropped by Becky and that you enjoyed my humor - a sense of humor will get you through a whole lot of circumstances! Thanks!


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The Ghostwriter 5 years ago from UK

Great perspective, it really made me laugh too.

I love the photo, it made me look twice.

Excellent hub, well done!


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

So glad you dropped by, Ghostwriter, and that you got a laugh! Please stop by any time and I'll be over to have a read at your hubs too.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Poohgranma,

I just read stars' wonderful article on you and had to check you out! This is fabulous-- I voted it UP and across the board, including the "new interesting"!

My thoughts are with you and your husband, mar.


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Billie Pagliolo 5 years ago from Laguna Hills, California

love this essay as well! Your comments on usefulness remind me of my favorite quote: "Maybe the sole purpose of my existence is to serve as a warning for others." despair.com :) Voice for children's books? Just published "Lucky, the Left-Pawed Puppy" which my daughter, an actor in LA narrated along with Brian Julian. www.leftpawedpuppy.com


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge Author

marcoujor - I am so very sorry not to have responded to your comment. I get emails from HP on a sporadic basis and only come to one of mu hubs when a do receive one. Thank-you so much for reading and for your comment. Yes, stars is a true example of humility and such a good and decent man, husband and father. He reaches out in friendship and love to everyone and I am proud to call him friend!

Billie - Your book looks just delightful from what I could see on Amazon. I'm thrilled to know you have been published and again, I hope more readers here will check out your hubs. I enjoyed them completely! Thanks for reading and commenting on mine.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

I loved this. It is witty, succinct and flows so well too. The photo is kinda scary though!


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Poohgranma 4 years ago from On the edge Author

Many thanks for visiting my little hub and for your kind words. I agree, the photo is an eye catcher, just what I needed to hook a reader or two!


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Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

Very humorous. 'No official protective society' -- good one. Voting up and funny.


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Poohgranma 4 years ago from On the edge Author

Thanks so much, Pamela. Sometimes, you just have to look out for yourself!


AudraLeigh 3 years ago

Selective memory, I wonder if I have that sometimes. It's probably lost with my socks. I know its not with the milk, because I don't like it. But I enjoyed reading this piece and more about you :)


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Poohgranma 3 years ago from On the edge Author

Well it's all tongue in cheek, not a word is true you realize! Actually, I'm content with my life. I am so incredibly blessed with good friends, people who love me and very importantly, I have learned to celebrate myself. I try to give myself at least the benefit of doubt that I afford others and it seems to work fairly well. Thanks for reading my dear friend.

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