Abandonment issues - Causes and how to get over them
I feel for anyone going through something like this but I can positively tell you it is not about you. The feelings of why and the confusion about what you did or did not do are real but you have to realize that they are beyond your control and in the past. As for the the causes, it is probably not worth spending a lot of time on that topic and here's why, once again, it is not within your control.
You have to concentrate on the future. The best advice I ever read was in a book by a Nazi death camp survivor, who said (and I'm paraphrasing here) the people who survived were able to keep control of who they were in spite of their horrific circumstance.
They kept this control by realizing they have no control over what others did to them. After all, they were there solely because of their ethnicity and you can not control who your parents are. Similarly you have no control over being abandoned by someone and you never will.
What you do have control over is how you choose to respond to those people and that circumstance. Once you accept that idea and choose to control what is within your control, you can begin to look forward and not keep looking in the past.
Now there is a great deal more to this and I probably did not do justice to the concept but I hope it makes some sense to a few and helps even just one person...
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