How to fight depression - Acceptance is the first step

Depression so often misunderstood

From my experience and those of others whom have shared with me. One of the most difficult things about suffering from deep depression is being so misunderstood by those around you. Some depressed individuals tend to display a facade that so often is unconvincing. A made up character that depletes them of the little energy they have left.

When someone is in a deep depression and still must walk out and face the world, quite often the mask that they wear before leaving their home does not completely hide the darkness that lures behind it. A darkness that is more often than not, mistaken for impoliteness, arrogance, and standoffish. This in turn can cause the depressed person who is suffering to feel even more misunderstood and lonely due to the negative judgments others might have on them.

Many individuals in the mist of a depression, so desperately hold a desire within them to scream out loud to anyone that can hear them “accept me, look I’m hurting and I can’t control it!” But only for the few they choose to unveil the truth to, those are the one’s that will know how they truly feel, and that may just be enough. We can not teach the majority of the world with a vast amount of misconceptions. We can only hope they on their own will someday learn and that awareness on the topic will some how reach them.


Accept powerlessness - It is helpful for a person suffering from depression to come to terms with the powerlessness they have over their illness. Powerlessness does not mean we throw our hands in the air and say “oh well.” Through acceptance you can learn how to identify these negative emotions and strive toward positive progression.

It also does not mean the individual should succumb to it and stop working on improving their lives. Accepting the illness, symptoms and the lack of control that many times comes with it, can help tremendously in not punishing ourselves for something we can not control, something we are powerless over. Now by no means does this excuse erratic behavior. It means, once you surrender and accept you are powerless, you begin to gain control and take healthy steps towards healing.


Not everybody will understand, depression can be a complicated illness with a variety of symptoms for different people. There might be some people whom will interpret your symptoms as arrogant behavior or may even place you in the "strange" category, and if so, than I say, so be it. The individual suffering will not get better focusing on what other people think of them but, rather the focus needs to be on improving the way they think about themselves. Health, well being and an appropriate course of treatment should be the individual’s main goal. The depressed person should come to the realization that there are people that simply do not know how to recognize it and probably never will.


Due to the lack of knowledge and stigma attached to mental illness. The individual should not beat them selves up for symptoms that they are powerless over. They should eventually accept it for what it is, and begin to work toward healing themselves as well as seeking the appropriate help. The sooner the depressed individual comes to terms with this, the sooner they can apply the energy spent on worrying about others reactions or opinions on a better mind set for themselves.

Madison O'

My experience with depression

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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Hi, focus yes we need that, plus acceptance too, the other people who surrounds you shluld also understand as often like you said, you are misunderstood, thanks for this good hub, Maita

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you prettydarkhorse!

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JannyC 6 years ago

Bravo Madison Bravo excellent hub.

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Janny, Thank you for such a feel good comment. I really appreciate it!

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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Great topic Madison. I have known people with depression and I have made the mistake of talking about the symptoms. Now I talk about the wonderful person I know is in there until they come out again. As Goethe said: If you treat a person as they are, you make them worse than they are. If you treat them as if they already are what they are capable of becoming, you help them to become that.

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you for commenting Winsome! What Goeth said goes a long way, very true.

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fishtiger58 6 years ago from Momence, Illinois

Depression is just as bad as other diseases. People just don't understand. Thanks for a great read.

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

I agree with you 100%. Thank you for the comment!

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dragonbear 6 years ago from Essex UK

Great hub Madison. You are right about the mask - it takes a huge amount of energy to be all the people that we are. Projecting that image - wearing the mask - can be such a drain when all the depressed person wants to do is be themselves, who they really are. Finding that person again can be a great start to recovery; it can be a lonely journey sometimes though.

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi dragonbear, you hit it right on the nail! Thank you very much:-)

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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

great advice. Sometimes depression make us felt bad all the time. but your advice open us to solve that soon. thanks

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Prasetio, Depression is a very important topic to me. If I help only a few, that makes me happy. Thank you!

Lyra Carillet 5 years ago

Some people suffering from depression are fortunate to find a good psychiatrist. If they decide to go to a psychiatrist. My people let their pride get in the way or they are just too embarrassed to ask for help. Do not procrastinate– Depression can lead to suicide – do not wait until it is too late. It is better to be safe than sorry. When you suffer, your loved ones suffer. You are not the only one who gets affected. Find a doctor who is well informed on the new developments of treatment. You could even talk to your MD. They could help you too. Everything you tell then is confidential.

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Madison22 5 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you for your informative comment, Lyra.

SesyApporry 3 years ago

My partner and i used to get on top of life however as of late We have established any weight.

gepeTooRs 7 months ago

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