Aging.....It's All About Attitude
Maxine is my Idol
Time waltzes on
Just as with any unavoidable fact of life, aging can be what we make of it. It truly is all about attitude and how well or poorly we handle it. It's a process, our own journey...and simply, it is the natural course we're guided through by Mother Nature and Father Time. It's a good idea to consider them your friends.
For whatever reasons, celebrating another birthday has never thrown me for a loop. Not meaning to be smug, age is really just a number. Our chronological age represents the number of years we've traveled the earth......just a gauge to remind us how long we've been here and to imagine how much longer we might remain.
It is a fact by the way, that with each year, we become more than just another year older. Birthday gifts may not be necessary. All we need do is glance back to recall the numerous gifts we acquire by living each moment to it's fullest. Positive thinking, fond memories and gratitude create a sense of peace and contentment, no matter what the numbers say.
A few of my friends in my age bracket have always seemed to me to be terribly obsessed with anything to do with the aging process, most especially their own! I distinctly recall a time a friend of mine was approaching a particular age and I realized she had fallen into a depressive state the more she talked about it. I suggested to her that we make some plans to spend her birthday doing something interesting and fun. I added that I felt she should be the one to decide where we would go and what we might do.
When the day arrived, I still hadn't heard from her, so of course I called her to ask what the heck she was doing? She began her woeful song about being tired and feeling lonely...and blah, blah blah, so she decided she's just stay home. Yeah, I know, you're probably thinking the same thing I thought. "Does any of this make any sense?"
Well, I told her to get herself presentable and I'd pick her up in an hour. The moment I walked through the door she said to me, "I don't know why we should go anywhere or do anything.....I'm going to be 60 years old tonight at 10 o'clock!!"
I shoved her purse in her hands and said, "Yes, I know. There'll be a clock where ever we go....and you can STILL turn 60 at 10 o'clock, but wouldn't you rather be enjoying yourself with a friend?" I'm not sure she understood my point, but we went out and had a great time. It's really quite simple to handle the years if we welcome them with a smile.
In the beginning....
When we are young adults just beginning our journey and looking forward to all we aspire to be, there's a built-in sense of excitement and anticipation. We were sure of what we wanted and how to achieve it. We didn't give much thought to the possibility of obstacles or failure. We were fairly confident we could cross each bridge successfully as we reached it.
It is more than interesting that when we're young, we learn well what it is we do not want and hold firmly to the trust we'll know precisely how to avoid any pitfalls or negative outcomes. In short, we're pretty cocky in our youth. We heed few warnings from the voices of experience. This, I have come to believe, is as it should be. The reality is that each and every one of us must learn for ourselves through the choices and decisions we make....we must take wing, to fly in our own direction.
We each will fall more than a few times, perhaps even crash and burn. So, up you go, brush off the dust and try again. This is the fascinating thing about the years passing by. We get so damned much smarter and more experienced at the things we like to do. Before we realize it, we're experts.
Wisdom of Experiences....
We cannot know until we know.
There's a certain amount of caution that begins to creep in and we come to terms with learning to be alert and proactive. We grow in tolerance and awareness, not only in our own life but the lives of all whose paths we cross. These are good things. They are some of those gifts we earn going forward.
How enlightening to come to a place where what really matters is very clear and the foolishness of what does not, is calmly abandoned. To see with older eyes becomes more perfect vision and to hear with ears that have learned to listen creates a sweeter, more soothing sound.
Using every resource to our avail, we build our little world around hopes and dreams for ourselves and those we love. If all goes as planned, we arrive at a place of comfort and wealth of spirit. We can appreciate the simplest joys that support us through trauma and sorrow. We are proud when we rise above.
A great blessing that comes with age is that our senses become acute and more precise in weeding out the undesired and uncultivated from the blossoms. We do not settle to be common but to have common sense, for as we age, our judgement becomes sound and practical.
Yes, aging is an attitude peppered with knowledge and confidence. We should not wish to go back, but forward and free from the burdens of doubt and confusion.
Whatever regrets we may carry along, whomever we must go on without, we can be assured to do it all... not with struggles but with gratitude for having experienced that which life presented us. Why would we allow ourselves to begrudge this magical process called aging?
Slowing down only to "Remember When"
A Few Small Annoyances.....Nothing Fatal
In the aging process, our bodies begin to speak to us now and then, often angrily protesting what we might push it to do beyond it's better judgement. We can usually be wise enough to listen and respond with some tender loving care and kindness. Our image in the mirror has changed, but beyond the image is a vast memory filled with the gifts of living every moment as productively and graciously as possible. Everything changes and thank Heaven for most changes. It is this free-flowing movement of change, which keeps us going.
No thanks, I don't wish to start over. Right where I am, is precisely where I should be. I've walked the miles, cleared the way and offered my strengths to the weaker. I have made my statements, protected my investments and had my turn on the roller coaster. The road has been long, winding, fabulous and sometimes, rocky. Looking back never seems to be a good idea, except to reference a hard-earned lesson.
And so, like you, I have marched onward and upward and followed the rules. All the beautiful lives that have touched mine, I pray I've given back to, in love and friendship. When we gather up the treasures as well as debris, which will we embrace tightly and which will we let go? The answers are our own choices and protected secrets.
Aging, so kindly gives us the time and the patience to waste not a moment, or pass by sweet opportunities. We are able to relax, however we don't very often, for we don't want to miss a thing....there's much to do and we want to do it.
Whenever your birthday will approach again...and whatever number it presents.....I wish you, the happiest and most exciting ever. Believe this. You are at the most wonderful age of your life.
Funny Inspiration....Good for your Health!
© 2012 Paula
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