Alcoholism In A Family - Who Really Suffers

Don't Let This Be Your Family

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Who Are The Ones That Suffer

There are so many families in this world that have someone addicted to alcohol and these families are at wits end on what exactly to do or say to the alcoholic without wondering if they will be hurting them or their feelings. Well, there is the first mistake. Being kind and turning your head to their addiction to alcohol and just making believe it is not happening is the worse thing you could do.

So many people do this just to keep peace in the family, but in the long run you are only making things worse and prolonging the person that is an alcoholic in getting the help they need to become clean and sober.

When you hear of alcoholism in a family, who really suffers? Enabling the alcoholic is not helping anything, as hard as it is to say no. I will not give you money for your addiction or I will not buy any alcohol for you and so on. The family member or even friends find it so hard to say the word No to the alcoholic, but sooner or later these same people will just get fed up with the same old excuses and lies the alcoholic tends to hand out.

The alcoholic doesn't realize who they are hurting. They are blinded by their own addiction to alcohol and can not see past the addiction itself.

The children of these families see this drinking of alcohol everyday and as they are young they don't realize it is not the normal thing to do, but as these children get older and wiser, it is then that they realize there is a real problem in their family and the problem is alcoholism in the family.


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Think Before You Drink

Before you tilt that bottle up or fill that glass with booze, think of who you may be hurting besides yourself. Most alcoholics, such as myself, feel they are indestructible and nothing will harm them even though they drink alcohol everyday. If the alcoholic doesn't care about his/her own health and life, then stop for a moment and look at the others you are hurting with your addiction to alcohol and bringing alcoholism into the family.

Remember, if your children are young and really don't know what's happening in your family as far as your addiction to alcohol, sooner or later they will get wise to you and your addiction. There could be a chance of losing them and everything you had worked for your whole life for, all because of an avoidable addiction.

Lets all try to get alcoholism out of our families and start to live a clean and sober life and enjoy your families being sober. Yeah, I know easier said than done, but it is possible if you give sobriety a chance. Believe me, it will change your life and everyone around you if you decide to surrender to your addiction to alcohol.

Give it a try and you just might love the way you feel and how wonderful your life can be with your family being sober. There is now harm trying a new life, and once you experience your new life and see just how great it can be, you will try your hardest to continue to live the life of sobriety.

© 2011 Mark Bruno

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mkrandhawa 5 years ago from India

sir nice hub


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Thank You so Much mkrandhawa!


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Great hub, as usual, Marky. Loved the movie clip. You are off to a great start. As I told Ann--I am in, but will post something a bit later.


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Thanks you Denise and I am Proud to be your friend and lets get the hubs going and just maybe we can make a bit of money on the way. It will be tough but I will give it my best shot, do to moving this month. I want to see that whole movie> It looks great!


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Chatkath 5 years ago from California

Great hub, and so powerful. Alcohol is so seductive, the entire family is a part of it and sometimes they don't even realize the extent, and there are so many grey areas that it is hard to know what action to take and when to take it.

I think my Mom was always alcoholic but because she functioned no one really said anything, when she retired it really escalated and became obvious, she hid it and lied, etc. My brothers and sister wanted to intervene somehow and I was in the middle. She was really sick and I just wanted her to be comfortable so I definitely enabled her drinking many times. She finally died of lung cancer and I still wonder if I could have done something differently.


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

As your title justifies it...alcoholism effects not the person drinking but the family around him since; the love and attachment causes pain to see what physical harm that drink is doing!!


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Chatkath, I am sorry it has taken so long replying back to your comment. I am sorry to hear about your Mom, and don't blame yourself for not trying to do something for your Mom. You did what you thought was right at that time. I had the same problem with my Mom, not from drinking, but she was sick and a living will saying not to recesatate and went against her wishes, because of greed and wanted her her longeron earth. I beat myself up over that for years and more so when I drank. Now being sober I have excepted that whaT I did then was what I thought was right.

God Bless you and yours!


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Ruchira, Thank you for your comment as well and when we the alcoholics drink we don't realize who else we are effecting by drinking. I know I didn't know for the alcohol blinded me to everything in the outside world.

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