Alcoholism and the Twelfth Step in Alanon

Alanon Becomes a Way of Life for Most of Its Members

Eventually, Alanon becomes an essential part of every aspect of our lives.  This is the meaning of the Alanon 12th Step.
Eventually, Alanon becomes an essential part of every aspect of our lives. This is the meaning of the Alanon 12th Step. | Source

Living the 12 Steps of Alanon

Alanon is an organization for people who care about an alcoholic, whether that person is a family member or not. They follow a 12 Step program similar to the one that is used by members of Alcoholics Anonymous. The program has helped millions of people find peace and serenity in their lives, whether the alcoholic they care about ever stops drinking or not.

The final step of the Alanon Twelve Steps occurs naturally as we begin to live, blossom and grow in our new lives.

The step says: "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs."

This does not mean that we go out and tell everyone we know that they should join Alanon, or any other 12 Step program. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, Alanon is a program of attraction rather than promotion. Tell people about your meetings if they ask why you seen so much happier with your life. Otherwise, live a good life, enjoy yourself despite the alcoholics that surround you, and be a good example of an honest, caring person who also understands how to set limits. This is how to practice the Twelth Step of Alanon.

You will discover that, from time to time, someone may privately confide to you that they have a family member who is suffering from a drug or alcohol problem. When this happens, let them know that you attend Alanon meetings and you have found a lot of comfort in the program. You may also want to give them an Alanon devotional or another item of Alanon literature. Later in this article you will see some examples of Alanon literature that you or your friends can purchase on Amazon. Many people prefer the confidentiality of being able to buy their literature online ... at least until they start going to meetings where most Alanon literature will usually be available.

You do not have to share the specifics of what brought you to Alanon, if you are uncomfortable doing so. You can simply say that a relative's drug or alcohol use was really upsetting you, and Alanon has helped you learn how to cope better with the situation. You can invite them to attend a meeting with you, or give them a schedule of meetings in your county. After that, leave it up to them to decide if they want to give it a try. Don't mention it again, unless they do.


Reading Alanon Literature Helps Us Stay on Track!

Having a Spiritual Awakening

One of the aspects of Alanon that you may not have noticed is that you have found a new type of spiritual life. You are no longer bothered by the religious beliefs of other people. Your connection to the God of your understanding seems stronger and healthier than ever before, and you feel a personal connection to God, as you understand Him.

By now, you may also have seen God working in your life and in the lives of the people you care about. Things may not have turned out the way you planned or expected. However, your life has gotten better, and you now have a richer, deeper connection to God. This is your spiritual awakening.

Carrying the Alanon Message to Others

Now that you feel comfortable with the Alanon 12 Step program, and you have worked the steps yourself, you may discover that you have many opportunities to share your experience, strength and hope with others. Perhaps you will sponsor other members. You may become a speaker. You will undoubtedly have the opportunity to lead meetings. You may even be surprised by a friend or co-worker who privately reveals that he or she is feeling stress as a result of living with an alcoholic. However it works out best for you, there will be many times when you are able to carry the message to others. You don’t have to accost strangers on the street. God will provide you with plenty of opportunities to reach out to others.

Always remember that Alanon is a program of attraction rather than promotion. Allow people to come to you; you do not have to force your enthusiasm about the program onto them.

The Blueprint for Progress Helps Members Understand Themselves Better

Practicing the Principles in All our Affairs

Finally, Alanon teaches us the value of honesty, faith and prayer. More and more we will turn to God to help us deal with problems and difficulties in every area of our lives. We will apply the Alanon principles in our jobs, at school, with our children, and with our non-Alanon friends. The program will begin to permeate every aspect of our lives … and that is just what it is meant to do!

One step many people have learned to take is to read as much Alanon literature as possible. Even after years in the program, most members continue to read some Alanon literature every day. Sharing your books and literature with others is a wonderful way to help the people you know who may also be dealing with an alcoholic or drug abuser.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Steps ten through twelve keep me sober each and every day! This is a program that must be lived daily; no resting on laurels.

Well done!


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Deborah-Diane 4 years ago from Orange County, California Author

You are right, BillyBuc, that AA and Alanon are programs that we need to follow every day. It's worth it, though, since these programs bring up so much peace and serenity!


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

Very useful and interesting hub. Voted up.


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Deborah-Diane 3 years ago from Orange County, California Author

The value of Alanon is that it is a program that we continue to follow throughout life. It is not only valuable in dealing with the alcoholics we know, but also in dealing with anyone else who stresses us out!


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skye2day 3 years ago from Rocky Mountains

God Bless Alanon!! The program has saved millions from themselves. Alanon has sure saved my bacon. I am eternally grateful for the love and fellowship.

Having had a spiritual awakening!! A program of attraction not promotion. The program opened the door for me to God and changed my life. The blinders came off.

God Bless you DIanne. Love, Skye


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Deborah-Diane 3 years ago from Orange County, California Author

I'm always so happy when I hear from people who have found Alanon. As you said, it has helped millions of people survive life with an alcoholic or a drug addict.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

Definitely a good program for people who need support. Like a good diet, it becomes a permanent part of your life because it is the way things are supposed to be in the first place.


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Deborah-Diane 3 years ago from Orange County, California Author

Alcoholics Anonymous and Alanon become a permanent part of life for the people who want to succeed in staying sober or, for those in Alanon, who want to maintain their sanity despite the presence of alcoholics around them. Their friendships, relationships and most of their social activities revolve around the people they connect with in these programs. It is much more than just attending a meeting every once in a while. It is a whole way of life and permeates everything they do.


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Au fait 2 years ago from North Texas

I repeat my last comment. This becomes a part of a persons life once undertaken because it is the way things should have been in the first place. Hopefully this wonderful message you are putting out there about Alanon will reach those people who need it. Shared.


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Au fait 2 years ago from North Texas

Alanon is a great way for people to get their lives turned around. I hope as many people as possible who need this program, or who know someone who needs it, will find these excellent articles you've published here and send out the word that this program can really make a difference. Sharing again.


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Deborah-Diane 2 years ago from Orange County, California Author

Thank you for your comment Au Fait. I hope that many more people discover this program. It has changed many lives for the better.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

It sounds a helpful way to get back on track with life again


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Deborah-Diane 2 years ago from Orange County, California Author

Many people have learned that they can use the 12 Steps of Alanon to change their lives for the better ... whether the alcoholic they love ever stops drinking or not.


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

Good you sharing like this. Positive inspirations. God bless you.


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DeborahDian 2 years ago from Orange County, California

The Alanon program has helped many people deal with the alcoholics in their family and their circle of friends. It is a life changing program.


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smine27 2 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

Thank you for sharing this valuable information. I will be sharing it with my friend who is a long time sufferer.


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Deborah-Diane 2 years ago from Orange County, California Author

I think that all of us know someone who is an alcoholic. Alanon is a great help for people who care about an alcoholic, and AA is wonderful for people who are alcoholics. I hope your friend will go.


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pstraubie48 21 months ago from sunny Florida

That is so important...to offer help and insight rather than trying to force it on someone; it is rather like overzealous church members who try to force their beliefs on others. It is not the way to attract someone to whatever it is we are sure is a help to those in need

I have been around many alcoholics and suffered from the addiction for a few years myself. I presently have someone whom I love dearly who is battling this addiction and all I can do is suggest and be there for her. She lives across the country from me so it is somewhat difficult. But I text her every day...during Mardi Gras she did not text back for two days (she lives in New Orleans) but I kept on texting.

Perhaps one day she will find her way out. She has been in and out of treatment for 18 years and has gone through AA and other programs. I just keep on praying

Important information here, Deborah Dian....sharing voting up g+


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ezzly 20 months ago

Wonderfully written and absolutely love the serenity prayer bracelet !voted up and beautiful


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Deborah-Diane 19 months ago from Orange County, California Author

Thank you, ezzly. This program has become such an essential part of my life, I can't imagine what my life would have been like without it.

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