Anger: Controlling it, and finding ways to use it toward positive things.

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Introduction.

We all experience happiness and anger at various points during our lives. As beautiful and great as life can be, there are also the darker forces of life that attempt to mask and consume the good within us. Anger can be one of the negative forces that affects us. None of us can deny the emotion of anger. It's an emotion that we all experience. Both anger and happiness are unique emotions when it comes to us as individuals. These emotions can vary from person to person. What makes one person angry or happy, may be totally different for the next. Today I'm going to discuss anger in this article. I'm going to talk about why I feel it's important to control it, and point out ways we can turn it into something more positive. Lets get to it.

Anger causes recklessness.

I recall watching a documentary on boxer, Bernard Hopkins last year. As great and inspiring as I found the documentary to be, there was something he said that has stuck with me since watching it. There was a segment during the documentary where Hopkins discussed anger. Hopkins, who served 5 years in prison before becoming a professional boxer described anger in one of the best ways that I feel it could be defined: "When you're angry, you do reckless things". I thought this quote was so true, and I shared it with Facebook immediately after finishing the documentary. It's understandable that an athlete like Hopkins would need to control his anger and keep his composure while in the ring. However, I feel that this quote is profound enough to apply to us as people in general.

Negative effects of anger.

Anger and stress are very persistent in today's society. There are so many people who are constantly angry these days. With all of the negativity happening in today's world, it's no surprise that anger is so rampant. Despite all of that, ask yourself this question; What good really comes from getting angry so much? I'm almost willing to bet that if you think about it for a minute or two, you can't really come up with anything good. If you can come up with something good, please let me know. The fact is that nothing good comes from anger, that is unless it's controlled anger. Anger brings on added stress, and causes high blood pressure. Being angry can greatly cloud and impair out judgement - which causes us to say or do things we'll probably regret later on. Anger sometimes even leads to violent altercations, and nothing good comes from violence. When we allow others to make us angry, we are giving partial control of ourselves to someone else. Keep in mind that there are some people who actually get a rise out of making others angry. There is a remedy for this however. There are ways to use our anger for positive and useful purposes.

Ways to help control anger.

There are ways to take anger and use it for our benefit. As I mentioned previously, controlled anger is one of the best forms of anger. Exercise and fitness is one of the best ways to benefit from anger. There are times where I find myself getting angry, and I'll go for a run. Some of the most productive runs I've had came when I done them while being angry or frustrated. Other times when I find myself getting angry, I'll just go take a walk. Taking a walk helps us to think, and it also helps in calming us down. Venting through our words can be another way to counteract the negative effects of anger. Sometimes I'll get my tablet and write down how I'm feeling. These thoughts can sometimes lead to me writing a blog post. There are so many ways to counteract and control anger. We just have to find things that we enjoy to help us express our anger in a positive way.

Final thoughts.

I personally feel that controlling our anger is an important key to our health and wellness. I know that I've personally became a happier person since I've learned to let certain things go. The next time someone does something to make you angry, just stop and think for a second. That's one of the main problems there - people react too quickly before thinking. Just stop and ask yourself; "Is it worth getting angry over"? Don't allow people to control and dictate you through your anger. Even if you feel yourself getting angry because of something someone did, try not to let it show too much. It's very important to control our anger, and hide it deep inside of us. This can be hard task to accomplish, but I feel it's necessary. I'd like to know some of the ways you use to combat your anger. Feel free to leave your thoughts and feedback in the comment section. Thanks for reading.

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cherylvanhoorn 4 years ago from Sydney

Hey great hub. Anger is actually regulated by hormones which is why it is so closely linked to PMS. (Premenstral stress syndrome). Cortisone levels and norepinepherine are released and do cause a fog out. This is at times difficult for a person to be able to regulate. This does not mean they get a free pass on their behavior, they don't. What they need to do is understand this so they can regulate it better. It is not easy.


SusieQ42 4 years ago

So true, Prospect Boy! The blood pressure rises and the relationship falls apart when we say things we don't mean. Anger can be controlled. I like your ideas about going for a walk for a run. Great ways to control our anger! Thanks for sharing!


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myndiwexler 4 years ago

Great hub! Harnessing anger to make positive actions can be a really difficult task... but it can definitely be one of the most rewarding. All that energy needs to go somewhere; it might as well be towards something constructive!


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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hi there myndiwexler. Thanks for viewing. You are correct. Controlling anger can definitely be a daunting task. However, it's a very attainable thing to do. We just have to work at it just like anything else in life. I know that putting my frustrations into my writing and my health has definitely changed my life for the better. Again thanks for viewing, and thanks for leaving your feedback. I value it greatly :)


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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hey there again SusiQ42. It almost baffles me at the number of people who have high blood pressure due to anger. Like I mentioned, everyone gets angry, but it's a big problem when it affects our health like that. You are also right in your statement regarding saying things we don't mean. People tend to forgive, but forgetting hurtful words is hard to do. The lack of not being able to control anger isn't worth damaging a good relationship or friendship. I'm glad to hear that you agree with me that anger can be controlled. It can be challenging, but it can be done. Thanks for reading my friend and leaving your valued feedback. Best wishes to you.


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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hey there cherylvanhoorn. I want to say thank you for providing this information, and explaining more in depth what causes and triggers anger. You should consider writing your own article on this topic based on the information you gave. I would love to see you expand even more on it. Thanks for your knowledge and feedback. It's greatly appreciated :)


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mzindependent 4 years ago from Texas

Great hub, prospectboy. As you pointed out, it really comes down to choosing how you are going to respond to certain situations versus reacting recklessly. It makes a drastic difference in one's life and health to have an outlet to release their frustrations. When I'm upset, I'll usually play the piano, discuss the issue with a close friend, or I'll just write in my journal. If everyone finds a positive outlet that works for them, it may take the edge off the rising tension within society. Voted useful!


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prospectboy 4 years ago from Texas Author

Hey there mzindependent. Thank you so much for the kind words. I think it's great that you have positive outlets that you can turn to when you're frustrated. I know that my life has improved for the best since I've developed a few of them myself. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this topic. It's greatly appreciated :)

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