Anger control for good mental health

Underlying cause

Experiencing anger due to certain circumstances is normal. How ever, what we should try to avoid is it becoming a common emotion and having the anger get out of control. Once you learn how to handle your anger, you will be able to see the warning signs that indicate something else needs to be addressed like a particular situation, emotion or even a daily routine. If not carefully supervised it may lead to both physical and mental health issues along with social troubles in the future.

Anger as part of our lives usually derives from an underlying cause, often times is indicates other emotions and inner turmoil that have been over looked. I know for me one of the things that can easily cause me anger if I’m not aware, is a lack of sleep, stress and anxiety.

Things that can help with anger.

Identify your anger - Is there a particular reason behind it? Sometimes in our lives we have to play different roles to achieve control over a matter. So in this case playing archaeologist may serve us well but instead of digging for bones we have to dig for the source.

When you are beginning to feel irritable and intolerant, take a time out. Walk in into the nearest available room where you can be alone and take a deep breather, then think of a calmer solution to what ever is causing you to feel angry. If you were in the middle of a very heated argument, walk away. If you are alone go for a walk in the park or engage in some healthy form of physical activity.

Once you are alone make your self a cup of coffee or tea, or if you prefer, just sit comfortably.. Now, ask yourself a few questions. Have you been sleeping well? Are you stressed at work due to coworkers or dead lines? Maybe you are experiencing financial problems or recently ran into a person from the past that brought back unpleasant memories. Even ask yourself how long have you been short fused with others? Write down your feelings, this can help in your awareness process, seeing your emotions and feeling in print can assist in you making a mental note of them.

Share your concern.

Share your concerns with others – Call a relative or a friend and tell them how you seem to be experiencing anger problems, I’m sure they will offer you some tips and share their experience with you. I also find there to be a huge healing effect in the spoken word especially when you hear yourself speaking of the particular subject, it causes you to become more aware and awareness is key in order to take hold of a situation and not allow it to unravel into something that you will later regret.

A support group or therapist that is based on anger management can also help a great deal in identifying the underlying cause of your anger. Many therapeutic programs include the use of worksheets or journals as a way of monitoring your behavior and emotions during the day to see where the development of anger came about. Although, you can create a journal of your own, either way it will be beneficial.


Be honest – If you have displayed anger toward someone, afterward you will mostly likely feel horrible. Your best bet is to offer your apologies to them, while explaining to them the underlying cause of why you think you may have gone overboard and how you are working hard on gaining control and will continue to do so in order to avoid it from happening again. This not only allows you to be apologetic and kind to the other person but, it also helps to alert you while preventing the circumstance itself to become the underlying source of another anger mishap because you are feeling bad.

Take charge

Remember, we are not perfect, we will occasionally get angry and upset at certain things. But, when we cross the occasional line into it becoming something that will hurt us or others physically or mentally, We must take charge and get to the root of the problem. Although, there will be trial and error, with a sincere desire to get better, seek appropriate help and practice self awareness, a person can learn to deal appropriately with their anger problems.

Madison O'Sullivan

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JannyC 6 years ago

I think you are right in that that the anger is underlying something else and it has built up and up and your tolerance has reached its peak and you explode. But sometimes. Though for me it does take a lot to cause anger in me and has to deal with my paitence especially with my child. I do not anger quick when he does wrong or spills milk, breaks something, but when he keeps on and does not learn the lesson I implore in him I kind of lose for the 13th time he does the naughty thing and yell and send him to his room. Im weird though so dont mind me. Lol

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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

Be honest thats nice and it takes humility too to accept that you have erred and apologize. Nice advice as usual, maita

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Janny, Lol kids sure can test your patience, you took me back to when mine were little. But, you're right in dealing with children patience is key and how can we get angry when the majority of things that they do is so adorable. Thanks for the comment!

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Humility, you are so right. Thank you Prettydarkhorse!

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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State

Very nice hub-many should read and take the advice. Clearly a rate up!

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

H.C, thank you for reading my hub and commenting:-)

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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Yes, I know; anger is really bad. I sometimes get in that mood when I feel frustrated and disappointed. I know, we should be and all expectations be left out. But, this is an exercise of the mind; as control and discipline. Thank you for sharing this great information Madison22. More power.

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hello Teresa, thank you for commenting.

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Fluffymetal 6 years ago from Texas

I use to have anger problems but they calmed down. I enjoyed your hub

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you Fluffymetal, I'm glad they have calmed down. For me too:)

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brianzen 6 years ago

I like the enter my world approach, very open, very cunning. Mastery of ones self is so important. Great stuff!

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Mmmm, "Mastery of one self" It certainly is so very important. Thank you Brianzem:)

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brianzen 6 years ago

That sounds a bit like a yummy noise, or an "uh-huh as if" noise, either way I adore your work and always look forward to more. The art to conquering anger for me has been to embrace, it but not to act upon it until its "feeling" component has abated. (or just go nuts and regret it later)

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PrayerWarrior101 6 years ago

I think its interesting that the Bible tells us in

Ephesians 4:26

Be ye angry, and sin not: . . .

Yes we are going to get angry, mad. It is how we handle it that matters. Blessings

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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you so very much for your comment Prayer Warrior.

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