Anger management control and techniques
Abraham Low-Recovery, Inc.
Mental Health Through Will Training
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I'm naturally an angry person. Always have been. Anything from crowded rooms, waking up to early, rude obnoxious overbearing needy idiotic energy draining people, traffic, to much laundry and everyday chores, etc, etc, etc...can really piss me off and ruin what should normally be a great day. Yes, I window wash people on the freeway, I get snippy and snappy if I miss my morning cup of coffee. The worst part for me personally is when I fly off the handle and see nothing but red, this is the part of anger I could happily live the rest of my life without. I have to make a daily practice to be grateful, because I know I am blessed, but I adore my solitude and when I don't get it, I get mean. I've cut people to the ground with harsh words, and I'm not proud of this. I've had to work hard to keep my anger under control, and it continues to be a work in progress. But anger has also been a huge motivator for me, and I try to use it constructively when I can calm down and recenter. Anger ranks high on the energy frequency scale, it's also the easiest of aura's to see around someone.
Anger, is the easiest emotion to express, and often the root of the problem is caused by hurt, fear, resentment or feeling as if you were "done wrong" or that you cannot control a given situation and are powerless. Anger can cause a normally sane person to make some very terrible and insane choices (anger and rage is not the same as stupidity, although stupid people are equally if not more dangerous when angry than half intelligent people, because stupid=unpredictable). Anger can come in many forms: spewing verbal garbage at those you love, going to extremes and breaking things, or physically hurting others or oneself. Internalized anger is physically damaging.
Anger is a normal, healthy, human emotion,initially meant for survival and rarely needed for that purpose in our modernized society. But when anger is out of control and turns destructive, like full blown rage and not meant for survival, it can lead to some serious problems— in relationships, careers and with the overall quality of your life and health.
When angry, the first expression normally noted is agitation and aggression. Your muscles tense up, your brow may become intense and furrowed. You're heart rate increases, and your senses peak. Anger has useful points when responding to physical threats. It allows us to fight and defend ourselves when under attack or survive and conquer at any cost. So on one hand, it's needed for survival. But lashing out at people over trivial matters is unproductive, and can have huge, ugly legal ramifications. Anger also affects us physically, our heart rate and blood pressure increase when it's unnecessary, our bodies stiffen and tense up, and we don't think clearly or rationally. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
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What triggers anger?
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What triggers you to lose your temper? Blow your top? Or completely see red?
Here are the more common causes:
- Internal and external events
- People, spouses, children, family, and pets
- Coworkers, supervisors and bosses
- Delays like traffic jams, delayed flights, crowded areas
- Personal stress, worry, anxiety, fear, sadness
- Memories of past hurts that have not been forgiven or resolved
- Major life changes-changing jobs, death, moving, the ending of a relationship
- And rarely-physically threatening danger
Levels of anger
- Low – upset, annoyed, irritated, cranky
- Medium – fed up, angry, mad
- High – furious, repulsed, outraged, seeing "red"
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- Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; only you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
- Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. - Maya Angelou
- The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem
- When angry, count to four. When very angry, swear. - Mark Twain
- Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. - Ambrose Bierce
- Get mad, then get over it. - Colin Powell
- It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses. - William Arthur Ward
The 3 parts of anger, and the part you must learn to control
There are 3 stages of anger.
- One, your mad. You're going to act out, lash out, and possibly go into a fit of rage.
- The calm after the storm, this is typically 5-20 minutes long and starts after your "crash" from an angry outburst. I say crash at this point because anger is like getting high. Everything becomes emotionally charged, and the peak begins to wear off in stage 2. Remember, anger is a very strong emotion, especially physically. I personally feel it surging through my body, and it's exhausting when it wear off.
- And finally, the anticipation of another outburst. If you reach the third stage by lack of self control, your anger tends to come out and act as one seeking victory over a real or imagined threat or battle.
The key to control is to recenter and refocus once you realize you are in the 2nd part. If you regain control of your emotions at this juncture, you release yourself from the anticipation of another offense. If you can successfully do this, you can, with much practice, learn to avoid your anger all together and begin to manage it. If you fail at stage 2, the cycle repeats itself.
Anger management control and techniques
Realize first of all that you cannot control the universe. So from this point forward, I hereby relieve you of that job position/title. The goal is to redirect, express openly, honestly, make your need requests clear, and learn self control. You must learn coping skills to calm down and adjust your attitude, perception, and expectations.
Change yourself first, and watch how things fall like domino's into place without you burning up so much life energy being mad. Wouldn't it be nice to use all that energy for a solution? Rather than allowing it to cause additional problems? Isn't life difficult enough?
- Control your reactions since you cannot control everything else.
- Express your emotions calmly and rationally (once you recognize stage 2 of a fit).
- Forgive not only others but yourself for mistakes and undesired outcomes.
- Exercise (burn up that angry energy), make this a priority, exercise is good for not only the body, but the mind as well.
- Change your perception and perspective.
- Realize you are human, you will make mistakes, acknowledge them, and correct them.
- Find an outlet-writing, taking a walk, listening to music, and having some alone time are all good things to try.
- Remember, life is short, and most things are not serious, or worth wasting your energy being angry about.
- Seek support groups.
- Take anger management classes if needed.
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