Ask DJ Lyons: Heal Body Image Issues from Middle School

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Healing Weight Loss Issue: Body Image

Junior High (grades 7 to 9) and Middle School (typically grades 6 to 8) students are generally inundated with body issues: breast size, acne, hip size, the way particular outfits look on your body, hair style, etc.

I was certainly no exception. Below are some of the issues that stand out in my memory.

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Hub Structure for Maximum Benefit

For maxiumum benefit, this is how this hub will be structured.

I will share my body issues from that former time period that may be still causing me feelings of angst.

There will be a comment section where you, my readers, can choose to share body issues that you might have had when you were around that age. Perhaps by reading my anecdotes, it might trigger some memories of your own.

Then I will spiritually work through those feelings of anxiety using a process I co-created called the Reintegration Healing Process.

Afterward, there will be another comment section where you can share your thoughts and reactions. Plus, if you decided to apply the Reintegration Healing Process to your own past body issues, you might want to include testimonials of how you feel now.

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Junior High Body Image Woes: Leg-Wrapping like a Pretzel

When I was in 7th grade, I was so skinny, I could easily cross my legs twice over. Other girls would make fun of me; however, I found that position to be extremely comfortable.

It's rather ironic now that my legs are so thick that it is not very comfortable to cross my legs for very long. I mostly will cross them at the ankles only. I have heard this is a lot better anyway. I even had one authority figure inform several of us that crossing legs causes cellulite. Does anybody know if that is true?

Naturally, at age 12, there is no danger of something like that. One of the two girls who used to make fun of me for my double crossed legs and other issues has since apologized. In fact, she has become a "friend" on Facebook.

There is certainly a charge for me about this 7th-grade memory.

Acne

Like many teenagers, I had to deal with acne issues. Little did I ever imagine that I would still be dealing with acne as a grown-up. One of the few blessings of going through chemo is that it has largely cleared up that acne.

When we had to get 9th-grade pictures made, I turned my head in such a way that you could not see the big scab created by picking at one particularly stubborn zit on the side of my nose.

Like many teenagers, I found acne on my face to be quite embarrassing.







Breast Size

I started wearing a trainer bra when I was in the 6th grade - not because I needed one. It was for 'appearances' sake.

In 7th and 8th grade, as we got ready for gym class in the locker room, I recall us flat-chested girls singing a litany that began like this:

"Grow little boobies, bigger, bigger.
I've got an underdeveloped figure."

I don't recall the rest of the words. When I Googled it, I found the rest of the verse; however, the extra lines did not sound very familiar. So perhaps some girl reconfigured the verse another way.

There was a song for the bigger-breasted girls. Naturally, I never did have to learn that verse; therefore, I do not recall how that went.

It was not until I turned 22 that I finally managed to develop breasts of a significant size. This is what I am wondering.

My breasts were kind of my enemy-friend. Could the fact that I kind of beat up on myself about my diminished breast size have any connection to the fact that I developed breast cancer at the age of 51?

There was another issue regarding breast size when I was in the 7th grade. Sixth grade was my one year where I was popular simply because I had a boyfriend. That seemed to be the only criteria that year. Once I entered the hallowed halls of Junior High (grades 7-9), the criteria had changed. I no longer had the boyfriend. Plus, even if we had been together still, it wouldn't have made much of an impact as he was enrolled in the other Junior High on the other side of town.

That year, the criteria to be popular was based on significant breast size and the willingness to be mean to other people. That left me out totally. I definitely did NOT have the breast size; plus, I did NOT want to be mean to and gossip about other people. So, I was never popular in school again. Oh, well!

My Shield

The other big thing that got developed in Junior High (grades 7 to 9) was that I developed what I called "My Shield." I was quite the crybaby when in elementary school. I would cry whenever I got my feelings hurt, which was often.

I learned the hard way that when you wear your emotions on your sleeve, so to speak, you simply invite people to make fun of you all the more. I processed it this way: "People are fair weather friends. They only like to be around you when you are happy or smiling; therefore, I should never let them see me cry."

By sixth grade, I only cried twice. After that, I never cried at school again.

I had been so vigilant about not allowing myself to vent and release tears that when both my paternal grandfather and maternal cousin died in December of my 8th-grade year, I could not manage to cry even though I was sorely grieved.

By 9th grade, my shield was so effective that people always saw me laughing, smiling, and chattering. If I had a few moments where I was simply sitting there in quiet contemplation, people would ask me what was wrong. In one way, that shield was good as I had quite a few more "friends." In another way, it was bad as I eventually got to the point where I was no longer certain where the shield left off and the real me began.

The only place where I would 'let down my hair', so to speak, was in a journal I began writing in during the 7th grade. To make it more personal, I would begin every entry with "Dear Anna." I wish I had kept that journal. It would have been interesting to read those passages all these years later. Unfortunately, I tossed them all away.

Does this remind you of your own former issues regarding Appearance or Weight?
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Does this remind you of your own former issues regarding Appearance or Weight?

Does this remind you of your own former issues regarding Appearance or Weight? If so, feel free to share in the comment section below.

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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

This is a wonderful hub and it reminds me of those years! I think that every child had some issues because appearance is what matters in that age! No one think they are good enough! Like all girls I had breast issue and in my case they where to big to early which was quite embarrassing for me! Big breasts were so interesting which draw attention to me. In that age you want to be popular but in this case it wasn’t me as a person that was popular! And like you I was emotional but slowly learned to shield my emotions! You described this in an excellent way. I have difficulty crying even now! You have done a lovely hub about the problems that every generation have and I so enjoyed reading this! Well done!


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Ask_DJ_Lyons 5 years ago from Mosheim, Tennessee Author

Thank you so very much! I so appreciate your feedback. I realized recently that the only way I am going to get on top of my current weight situation is to heal my body issues from long ago. I am so glad that you understand. I wish you every blessing!

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    Reintegration Healing Process

    Reintegration Healing Process - picture of ocean at Myrtle Beach taken by Debbie Dunn
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    How to practice Self-Healing using the Reintegration Healing Process

    Here is the step-by-step process to follow as you practice Self-Healing using the Reintegration Healing Process. It is a combination of elements I learned at Delphi University in McCaysville, GA, Reiki classes I have taken, and a process taught to me by my team of angels and spirit guides.

    Click SELF-HEALING to read the entire how-to article on FireHOW.com.

    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn
    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn | Source

    Reintegration Healing Process used on the Pretzel Leg Issue

    Step 1:

    First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

    Step 2:

    Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

    I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

    Step 3:

    I am going to picture me as a seventh grader. As I did in the other hub dealing with my Elementary School body issues, I will call her Little D. The other girls also had my same first name. Perhaps that is part of why there is such a charge about this memory. There were four girls in our school that had my same first name. One of them was a friend. These two, that we will call D2 and D3, often would attempt to make fun of me.

    As I indicated above, D2 is now my Facebook "friend."

    I am picturing myself walking into a classroom. The teacher and all the other students, in my mind's eye, are frozen in position - non-hearing and non-moving. The spot light is shining on Little D sitting in one desk and D2 and D3 sitting on the opposite side of the room laughing and pointing at the way that Little D is crossing her legs.

    Currently, if I was capable of sitting in that way wiht my legs double-crossed like a pretzel, my sense of humor would carry the day. Someone making fun of that position would not phase me. But this was back when I was twelve or thirteen when I had very little self-confidence. I felt bullied. I also had a stubborn streak. The position was so very comfortable that I was not willing to give it up just because they were making fun of me. Even so, this memory has carried a charge all these years.

    It was partly put to rest when D2 found me on Facebook. We connecting as "friends." Then we shared links. Finally, I revealed that I was going through breast cancer at the time. We ended up having a 3-hour phone call where all was discussed,apologized for, and forgiven. Even so, I can detect that Little D, that former D2, and that former D3 are still carrying their energy inside of me. It is going to be liberation day for all 3.

    Like I said, I entered that classroom and saw those three girls. First, I walk up to Little D and say, "Little D, I put my arms around you with so much love. I want you to know that I am now aware that you have been harboring your energy inside of me all these years; however, that is okay. I totally forgive you. Do you have any messages for me?"

    Little D: Yes, I do. By listening to you, I realize that having a sense of humor about this whole situation would have totally defused the situation. That's one of those "hindsight is twenty-twenty" situations. I would like to replay it if a few minutes with D2 and D3. That will help me gain a feeling of release.

    DJ Lyons: Absolutely. That is a great idea. Why don't you join me for this next step.

    Litlte D: Oh, you mean the love and forgiveness part?

    DJ Lyons: Yes.

    Little D: Okay, I can do that.

    So we both walk over to D2 and D3. I lead and Little D mimics. We say:

    DJ Lyons followed by Little D: We put our arms around you with so much love.

    They resist at first. They try to shrug us away. We continue sending love energy their way until finally, they give in and hug us back. D2, the leader of the pack, so to speak, leads the way. Then D3 follows.

    DJ Lyons and Little D: D2, D3, we put our arms around you with so much love. We know you both have been harboring your energy inside of me all these years; however, we totally love and forgive you. It is definitely time to do this. We forgive you. I forgive you. You are forgiven. Do you have anything to say or share?

    D2: Yeah, like the future me told you several months ago, I was dealing with my own stuff. This was one way that I knew how to cope at the time. I'm sorry. I really am.

    D3: Yeah, I'm sorry too.

    D2: I can tell that holding grudges just does not help. So, if you won't hold a grudge, I won't either.

    Little D: I won't hold a grudge.

    DJ Lyons: I won't either.

    Step 4:

    Little D, D2, and D3, I realize now that I have kept all three of you trapped inside of me all these years.

    D2 quipped: Yeah, Junior High Hell. Thanks a lot!

    She said this with good humor, so I did not mind at all.

    DJ Lyons: I am so sorry. You are right. I have kept all three of you trapped in Junior High all these years. I have also kept you trapped inside of me.Please forgive me. I really am sorry!

    Little D: I forgive you.

    D2 and D3: Yeah, we forgive you too.

    Little D: Okay, I need to replay this using humor this time.

    She looks at D2 and D3 and asks: Do you mind?

    They nod. They sit down and begin to role-play making fun of Little D's double-crossed legs.

    Little D, instead of feeling offended, jokes and smiles about it all. She laughingly said: "I can't help it. My legs seem to have a mind of their own. Can anybody else do any double-jointed things in the room?

    Various students, freed from their frozen positions, show off their prowess by demonstrating some kind of double-jointed type pose. Even D2 and D3 discover some position that they too can show off. The tension in the room lightens since everybody is laughing and having a good time. Everyone is feeling light and free. Hooray!

    Step 5:

    DJ Lyons: I have forgiven you. You have forgiven me. You are free to leave this classroom. You are free to leave the Junior High school. You are free to go to the light of God's heavenly realm. Do you need assistance?

    The three D's stand up. They move around a bit to restore circulation in their legs. Then they look at each other, smile, and hug. Then they look at me and say:

    3 D's: Nah, we've got this.

    Believe it or not, D2, Little D, and D3 actually join hands. They exit the classroom. They walk out of the building. They find a golden elevator leading up to the sky. They board the elevator and rise up into the sky, giggling like school girls all the way.

    Step 6:

    Since I know that Nature abhors a vacuum, I ask the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit:

    DJ Lyons: Would you please help fill the space these 3 girls vacated plus that classroom and building with divine love, light, and energy? Thank you so much in advance for your help!

    I feel lighter and quite a sense of relief and release. Thank you, God, for sharing with me this healing process that I find to be very effective.

    As detailed in the other hub, I am going to use the Healing Code process to further cement the healing release.

    Epilogue:

    I work The Healing Code in three rounds.

    During round 1, I affirm, "I am free. They are free. I am free. They are free. I am free. They are free."

    I get ready to do round 2. I start to chant and affirm, "it is safe to be slender." That's when I have the epiphany that this had been one of the memories that needed to be healed. Back then, it did NOT feel safe to be slender. Having skinny legs and a slender body made me the butt of jokes.

    But I am no longer 12 or 13. I am a grown and confident woman. Using humor, using self-acceptance, and using love, I am understanding more and more that it truly is safe to be slender. Plus, I am not asking my body to become anorexic slender. I still want to have womanly curves. I simply wish to be a weight that is appropriate for my height. I no longer want to be considered to be obese by the BMI scale. I wish to be fit and slender and happier and healtheir than today. It IS safe to be slender.

    Round 3: I affirm: I have great agility and dexterity. I am healthy. I am happy. Well-being abounds.

    I feel so good right now. I can feel healing energy coursing through my entire body. Thank you, God! I am so very grateful for this!

    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn
    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn | Source

    Reintegration Healing Process used on the Acne issue

    While that good feeling is coursing through me, I will carry on with the Acne issue.

    Step 1:

    First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

    Step 2:

    Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

    I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

    Step 3:

    I am going to picture me as a ninth grader. It is picture day. Little D is getting ready to get her picture taken with a big scab on the side of her nose. Obviously, there is a lot of charge about this memory. Nearly every time that I view this photograph, through the years, I remember what the turned face and tilted head is hiding. Also, Acne is something that has plagued me for years up until going through chemo. That is when the Acne totally cleared up.

    I walk up to another aspect of Little D. She is standing in the Junior High bathroom staring into the mirror. She has a very worried look on her face. Poor thing! I walk up to her, tap her on the shoulder, gently turn her around, and take her into my arms as I say:

    DJ Lyons: LIttle D, I put my arms around you with so much love. I know that you and your concern about acne and that scab have been harboring your energy inside of me all this time. I want you to know that I totally love you, and I totally forgive you. You are so very dear to me. Do you have anything you would like to share?

    Little D: I think I need to work the same process on that zit and that scab. Let me try it now before you continue.

    DJ Lyons: That makes sense. Once you feel a sense of release, it will be that much easier for me to feel a sense of release as well. Please proceed.

    Little D, mentally talking to the scab that came from picking that giant zit on the side of her nose said, "Hey, Zit and Scab, I am going to mentally put my arms around you. You know what? I bet you couldn't help it. I probably ate something that caused you to grow. Plus, I did attack you pretty viciously with that needle. I wasn't being gentle with you at all. So yeah, I forgive you. As for love. Do I love you? Can I find a way to love you? Hmmmmm!

    Uh, DJ?

    DJ Lyons: Yes, Little D?

    LIttle D: How do I love a zit or a scab that comes from a zit?

    DJ Lyons: That's a good question. Let me think, for a moment. Okay, I've got it. Little D. Have you ever heard about Native Americans of the long ago sending smoke signals to each other?

    Little D: Yeah.

    DJ Lyons: They didn't have telephones or mail service back then. One of the few ways they could get messages to each other long distance was to send a smoke signal. Think of that zit and the scab from the zit trying to send you a smoke signal. The zit was there to alert you to scrutinize your diet choices a little better or your face-washing technique or even what you are using to cleanse your face. It is simply trying to tell you, in the only way it knows how, that something is out of balance and needs to be tweaked. The scab, of course, is the end result of you applying a needle to the zit in your attempt to get rid of it. It did its best to heal the side of your nose so that it was not continually pouring blood. It is working hard to heal up that part of your skin so that soon, it can look back to normal again. Does that help?

    Little D: Yes. That helps a lot. Okay, zit and scab, now that I look at it that way, yes, I not only totally forgive you, I love you as well. Do you have a message for me?

    Zit: Yes, please do not eat so much greasy food.

    Scab: Yes, please do not stab your skin with needles. Instead, ask your mother to buy better face wash or to give you some Witch Hazel solution to use or some other solution like that.

    Little D: I know I've kept you trapped inside of me all this time. Please forgive me.

    Zit and Scab: Yeah, we forgive you.

    Little D: You are free to go to the light now. Do you need some help?

    Zit and Scab: Yes, we do. We're going to take our energy away off to the light. Please understand that the material sign of our presence, that big scab the size of a pea, will heal up as quick as it can and will follow at that time. Other than that, we are out of here. We say that with a loving smile.

    Little D: Thanks. Have a pleasant journey off to the light. God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please send healing light to that scab, helping it to heal in the fastest way possible. Also, please continully fill the space they vacated and are vacating with healing love, light, and energy. Once all sign of the scab is gone, please fill that space with love, light, and energy as well. Thank you so much in advance for your help!

    Hey, DJ, how did I do?

    DJ Lyons: Little D, I am so proud of you. You did great! Are you ready for me to carry on now?

    Little D: Yes, I am.

    Step 4:

    DJ Lyons: Little D, that zit, and that scab, I know I have kept you three trapped inside of me all this time. I am so very sorry. Please forgive me.

    Little D: I certainly forgive you.

    Scab: I forgive you too.

    Acne: I need a little bit more than that.

    DJ Lyons: What do you need?

    Acne: I need an agreement. Should I appear again, please take time to try to get to the root of the situation rather than jumping right in and picking me, squeezing me, or trying to eradicate me in some way. Try to figure out what my "smoke signal" is all about. Can you do that?

    DJ Lyons: Yes, I think that is totally fair. Yes, I can do that. Do you think you can forgove me now?

    Acne: Yes, I forgive you.

    Step 5:

    DJ Lyons: Little D, Zit, and Acne, all three of you are free now to go to the light of the heavenly realm. Do you need help?

    Zit and Acne: Nah, we don't need any help. We're out of here. See ya! Remember, we said that with a loving smile.

    Little D: I feel free; however, I think I would like to hang around. Can I go live in your heart garden instead of leaving you. I want to be there to remind you that when you see things manifest on your body in the future that do not appear "normal," it is your body's way of sending you a smoke signal to alert you that you should strive to discover what is at the root of why it is there. For example, when you first saw the dimple on the side of your breast, instead of dismissing it, if you had investigated why it was there right away, you might never had to lose both your breasts due to a more advanced-stage breast cancer.

    DJ Lyons: Point taken. Yes, by all means, LIttle D, feel free to join all my other Inner Kids in my heart garden. Thanks for wanting to stick around to be of service to me. The healthier you are, the healtheir I am and vice versa.

    Step 6:

    Remember, Nature abhors a vacuum. God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please fill the former space that Little D occupied and the space that the zit and acne formerly occupied with divine love, light, and energy. Thank you so much for your help!

    Step 7:

    I will now apply The Healing Code process to wrap up this particular session. In all three rounds, I will affirm: "Well-being abounds. I have a pretty and clear complexion."

    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn
    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn | Source

    Reintegration Healing Process used on the Breast Size issue

    Step 1:

    First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

    Step 2:

    Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

    I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

    Step 3:

    I am going to picture 'the girls', as my husband liked to call them back when I still had them. I lost the girls aka my breasts on August 11, 2010. I will get a new set of girls around November of 2011 when I get reconstruction surgery.

    My husband and I jokingly and lovingly call what I have now 'the babies'.

    Mentally, I will look back at what I had in the seventh grade as The Mini Girls.They certainly could not help their diminutive size.

    There is a part of me that has been wondering if the angst I felt about their small size had anything to do with why I got breast cancer years later. I think this process might reveal a partial answer to that.

    FYI - No worries! I am currently cancer-free aka in remission from breast cancer. The breast cancer was a 2010 issue. That was a year of great learning!

    For the purposes of this healing process, I am going to picture a pair of "The Mini Girls" such as they were when I was in the 7th grade. To add a touch of humor, I am picturing them as a pair of mini-breasts separate from the body. They are sitting on a table looking rather lost and forlorn. They have mini eyeballs, the nipple is where the nose would be, and below that is a tiny rosebud mouth. I can even imagine tiny little arms and hands and legs and feet sticking out at the appropraite locations. Here is what I am picturing in my mind's eye.

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    Step 3 continued

    In Step 3, I walk up to the Mini Girls and state:

    DJ Lyons: Mini Girls, I put my arms around both of you with so much love and compassion. I know full well that you have been harboring your energy inside of me for many, many years. I want you to know that I am fully able and willing to forgive you now. After all, you could not help your small size. I totally forgive you.

    Do you have anything you would like to say to me?

    Mini Girls: Yeah, you've got that right. it was not our fault at all how small we were. We did not like how you kept putting us down. You even blamed our small size for keeping you from being able to be popular in the 7th grade. So, yeah, there is a small part of all that angst and despair you felt that contributed later to you having breast cancer. Because you did not cherish your body parts is loved members of your Body Temple, your body parts that you felt great despair and even a little self-hatred about turned on you and wanted to get a bit of revenge. Now, we did not mean for the revenge to go as far as it did. We just wanted to get our point across that you should love and cherish all parts of your Body Temple. Just like in that Squirrel story that you wrote a while back. We are all part of your team.

    Remember that quote about "We are only as strong as our weakest link." Because you held a grudge against us, you made us even weaker. Do you see what we are saying?

    DJ Lyons: Yes, I do now. I wish I had known that back then. I guess this is part of why I am sharing such personal information on the internet. Perhaps some young pre-teen or teen could read these words and realize she should cherish all parts of her body as being a part of what makes her be her. I guess it is time to get to Step 4.

    Step 4:

    DJ Lyons: Mini Girls, I realize now that I have kept your energy trapped inside of me all this time. I am so very sorry. I am sorry I made you feel less than and not good enough. I really regret that I did that to you and to myself (my inner psyche). Could you please, please forgive me?

    Mini Girls: Well, ..., hmmmmmm, ..., okay, we forgive you. It helps that you at least appreciate us now.

    I am picturing the three of us hugging, holding hands, and circling around in a swirl of love and appreciation feelings. It's like that wonderful poem that I learned back when I was in Junior High. Here's one link to it: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/179023.Edwin_Markham

    "He drew a circle that shut me out-
    Heretic , rebel, a thing to flout.
    But love and I had the wit to win:
    We drew a circle and took him In !

    From the poem " Outwitted" by Edwin Markham

    That is part of what this hub is about. We should love and cherish all parts of ourselves. Instead of drawing a circle to try to shut that part out, we should find a way to make peace with that part and incorporate it into our circle of friends and loved ones.

    I used to use expressions like "I am flat as a pancake" or "I was flat as a pancake" back during those years. Instead, I could say, "The Mini Girls were little and cute and did the very best they could to grow and catch up to the rest of my body. We all had growing pains to go through. I sure do appreciate that they were there at all. I also appreciate that they were trying to grow bigger. We all just had to learn to be more patient.

    Step 5:

    DJ Lyons: Mini Girls, it feels so good to know that I forgive you and you forgive me. That means that you are now absolutely free to go to the light. You are no longer trapped. Do you need any assistance in moving on.

    Mini Girls: Yeah, we do. We would like to hop on a proverbial flying saucer to go and join all the other Mini and Maxi Girls up there in Girl Heaven, as we like to call it. Could you request that for us?

    DJ Lyons: It's a good thing that God created us to have a vivid imagination. I am envisioning that there is a small legion of pretty angels who love the challenge in that request. They draw a flying saucer with their fingers, blow on it lovingly to give it a sense of depth and animation, then they board this flying saucer to fly it down to where you are located.

    Mini Girls: Oh, boy! The flying saucer is here. Oh, look! Some other Mini Girls and Maxi Girls are sitting in some of the passenger seats. They are welcoming us to a flying saucer party. Bye, DJ! We will think of you will love!

    DJ Lyons: Bye, Mini Girls! I will think of you with love as well. Go in peace and have fun in that part of Girl Heaven.

    I watch them board the saucer and fly away. Their faces are full of smiles and laughter and a sense of joy and bouyancy. Working this Reintegration Healing Process is becoming more and more fun. Thank you, God for that!

    Step 6:

    As we know, Nature abhors a vaccuum. The Trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please fill all the spaces that the Mini Girls vacated with Divine Love and Light and Energy. Thank you so much in advance for your help.

    My chest area feels so good. I can feel waves of love filling me and enlightening me. Thank you, God! I am so very grateful!

    Step 7:

    In the 3 rounds of "The Healing Code" process, I will affirm the following: "I love all parts of my body, and all parts of my body love me. We celebrate the gifts we share and give each other."

    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn
    Reintegraton Healing Process inside the Tunnel in Asheville, NC taken by DJ Lyons aka Debbie Dunn | Source

    Reintegration Healing Process used on the Shield issue

    Step 1:

    First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

    Step 2:

    Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

    I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

    Source

    Step 3:

    I am going to picture me walking up to a cartoon-looking Shield. It is sitting in a store that sells nothing but Shields. I will imagine Little D walking into this store as a 7th grader. She knows that she wants to cover up her feelings so that she no longer gives the appearance of being vulnerable. She plans to only show a happy, smiling face to the general population. Since her mother often got migraine headaches when she worried too much, Little D planned to try to only show a happy face when she was around her mother as well. It would be mainly when she was alone in her bedroom that she would take down the shield and reveal the real Little D when she stood in front of her full length bedroom mirror or sat on her bed or at her desk, journaling and reading.

    So Little D, in my imagination, walks into a Shield store and looks around. She selects a Shield that she feels will successfully help her to appear invulnerable to attack or persecution. Just like it is said that there is many a smiling clown who is secretly crying inside, she would do something very similar.

    Little did Little D ever guess that when she got to be a Junior in High School, there would come a day when she no longer could pry the Sheild lose from her face. By that time, she sometimes could no longer figure out what part of her was really her and what part was the Shield.

    But back in 7th grade through 9th grade, this worked pretty well.

    So, I am going to walk into that Shield store and approach Little D in the dressing room trying on this particular Shield for size. She has already paid for the Shield; therefore, she is free to do with it whatever she desires. I am going to walk up to the two of them and state:

    DJ Lyons: Little D, Shield, I am putting my arms around you with so much love. I know that the two of you have been harboring your energy inside of me for many, many years. I want you to know that I totally love you both and forgive you totally. Do you have anything to share?

    Little D: Yeah, I am feeling a sense of resistance. I am afraid you are going to tell me that I can't keep this shield. I really want to have this experience without interference from you.

    Shield: Yeah, I really want to leave the Shield store and go live with Little D. I feel like the puppy dog or kitten in the window who just wants to be loved and to have a good home. Why don't you check with us next year?

    Little D: Yeah, try us again when I am in the 8th grade.

    DJ Lyons: Okay, I know just the moment to do that. It is December of my 8th grade year. My paternal grandfather had died of his 2nd heart attack. We also knew that my dear cousin Peter, only 8 years old, was soon to die form the form of cancer he had back then. I wanted to cry and so badly needed to release those feelings of sadness and grief, but I could not manage even one tear due to the presence of the Shield. I am going to try Step 3 again.

    Little D, as you sit in your bedroom attempting to release those tears of grief, I put my arms around you, Dearheart, with so much love. Shield, I realize that you were doing your very best to shield Little D from any feelings of sadness. I put my arms around you with love as well. I know you both have been harboring your energy inside of me all this time. I want you to know that I totally forgive you. Do you have anything to share?

    Little D: Yeah, I guess I realize that having the Shield is not always that great, but mostly, it is still working for me.

    Shield: Yeah, I don't want to leave. I love Little D and want to keep my place as her most helpful best friend.

    Little D: Hey, I never really thought about you being my best friend, but I guess you were. So, I'm not ready to stop this experience. Tapping into your memory bank, I can tell that I will not be ready in 9th grade or when I am a sophomore in high school. It is not going to be until I get to be a Junior in High School that I will be ready to let go.

    Shield: Yeah, me too. So why don't you continue this section on the Hub dealing with your body issues in high school? We're not ready to release each other or you yet.

    DJ Lyons: Okay, that sounds like a fair deal. I do want you to know that I love you and forgive you. I hope you will forgive me.

    LIttle D: Yeah, I forgive you.

    Shield: Me too. We are just not ready to go. So table this issue until later, okay?

    DJ Lyons: Okay, readers, Steps 4 through 7 will have to be conducted on that other hub. I will include a link to that hub here when it finally gets written. In the meantime, many blessings to you all! Thanks for sharing in this process with me.

    To give myself a sense of closure, I am going to skip Steps 4, 5, and 6, and go on to Step 7 right now.

    No Steps 4, 5, or 6!

    Step 7:

    I will go through the three rounds of The Healing Code right now and affirm the following: "My body issues from Junior High have been put to rest. I am feeling more and more free and quite a bit lighter. It is getting more and more safe to be slender. Thank you, God, for that!"

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    Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

    A great hub Debbie which is interesting,well presented and very useful to many.

    I vote up and up here.

    Take care and have a great day.

    Eiddwen.


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    Ask_DJ_Lyons 5 years ago from Mosheim, Tennessee Author

    Eiddwen,

    Thank you so much! I appreciate the kind feedback.

    Happy day to you as well,

    Debbie

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