BABY FAT: Sacrifice of Being a MOM
What is WOW turned upside-down? MOM. It amazes me how many married men I know that are thin and handsome have wives that are quite large. Why? Well, it's no secret the couple has two, three, four children. What a guy! He knows to love his wife and accept that her body "beauty" had to be sacrificed to a significant degree to have those little ones.
I couldn't exactly show photos of everything that happens to a woman's beautiful body upon having a child or two or three, but I have attached photos of the lower body. What I couldn't post are her once full and supple breasts that have now been flattened like they've been vacuumed into a space bag. The once tight and firm tummy now looks like a fallen soufflé or better yet, bread dough prior to rising! And oh, the cellulite! Bye-bye bright light and bikinis!
Why is it the skin stays so loose? Well, just like a super obese person that loses a lot of weight relatively quickly has drooping, loose skin to deal with, a pregnant woman whose skin is stretched around a huge tight bag of water with a baby's weight inside is similar. The skin stretches out for months, then the baby is out overnight (or during the day) and the extra skin certainly can't just shrink back in. Why doctors don't yet have a surgical procedure to help women with this problem post birth is beyond me.
Of course, fathers fell in love with the beautiful bodies of their soon-to-be babies' mothers, which started out with the visual beauty. That's the purpose women have such beautiful bodies in the first place...to attract the male to procreate! Great fathers are usually great and supportive husbands, too, in that they understand how a woman's body will undoubtedly change post child-bearing...and not necessarily for the better.
But, let's talk about the husbands who complain that their wives were once so beautiful and thin when they got married and, "Look at her now!"; "She let herself go!"; "She did this to herself!"; "I'm not happy!". Excuse me.....I think the husbands had something to do with the cause ~ it's just that SHE had to be the one to sacrifice her body ~ her outer beauty ~ the very thing she felt most womanly about.
These husbands that leave the mothers of their children to go seek out the next beauty need to just GET PREGNANT. Of course, that's impossible. So, will they ever understand? What he will eventually find out is that any woman who is a mother, even if she's "thin" will still most likely have that "baby fat" / "bread dough" / and "vacuum sealed breasts" issue. Yes, there are a few women out there, especially those who had children at a young age, that were lucky enough to "spring back" maybe 80%, due to the fact her skin still had it's elasticity.
So many women flock to cosmetic surgeons, at least to get their boobs out of the vacuum bag. But, a tummy tuck can be extremely dangerous. Some of the side effects are as follows:
· Fat or blood clots may make their way to the lungs and cause death
· Too much fluid loss, which can lead to shock
· Fluid accumulation that must be drained
· Friction burns or other permanent damage to the skin
· Permanent nerve damage
· Injury to the vital organs
· Bad reactions to drugs
· Scars or imperfections
· Change in skin color/pigmentation
· Weeks of pain, burning, swelling and bleeding while recuperating
I guess the point I'm trying to make is, MEN, please understand that women who have children cannot be expected to have a pre-baby body the MAJORITY of the time. That loose skin can't simply be exercised away. I personally went for a tummy tuck consult and was told my ab muscles were good and tight, and there was no way I could exercise that "baby fat" away. I chose NOT to have a tummy tuck; it's simply too dangerous.
Women, honor yourselves as MOTHERS. You sacrificed something very special to you to have something even more special ~ the most special something in the whole wide world....YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. Men can come and go, but your children will never stop loving you. They will never leave you.
Men, those of you that cherish your wives and girlfriends that are mothers who have sacrificed their "beautiful" bodies ~ whether they be the mothers of your children or mothers of another's ~ you truly are MEN to be HONORED.
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