Beauty Before Aging

Beauty has many faces
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Introduction

We are all born beautiful. Really, think about it. Have you ever seen a newborn baby who wasn't beautiful? Perfect skin, rosy complexion, and a face everyone falls in love with at sight. As babies we were admired for our smiles and our loving dispositions. Innocence makes us beautiful. As toddlers we were admired for our joy of life and our laughter is often considered beautiful.

Does this beauty stay with us or do we drive it away? Does beauty come before aging? There is definitely beauty in youth so the answer would be yes, beauty comes before aging, but does aging preclude beauty? As we age do we lose beauty or do we gain more? Does our love of life and appreciation of what we have add to our beauty? Are we able to really see the beauty in life and the beauty in aging? Beauty has many faces and comes in many forms.

Growing Older, Growing Better: Daily Meditations for Celebrating Aging
Growing Older, Growing Better: Daily Meditations for Celebrating Aging

Presents a year of daily meditations on aging and personal devlopment. Excerpt from the book, "...take pleasure from your daily activities, think of your life as meaningful..."

 

Beauty in Aging

Aging certainly does not preclude beauty! As we grow older we face challenges we never dreamed of in our youth. We learn to cope with whatever life throws our way and hopefully it makes us stronger inside. Our life experiences add to our beauty, the beauty not only physical, but internal. The Mona Lisa is considered a beautiful painting of a beautiful woman and yet, it is difficult to see the physical beauty in her face. Part of her beauty is the mystery surrounding her and her enigmatic smile. Could, therefore, smiling add beauty to an aging woman?

While we find tree saplings cute or pretty, nothing compares to a full-grown tree! One with its stately branches and leaves, surrounding itself with natural beauty. What of the rose? A rosebud is a delicate and beautiful thing, but as the rose opens and it's petals reach full bloom, the true beauty of the flower shows itself. As we grow and our personalities branch out or open up, we add beauty to ourselves and our life. Our beauty is there for others to see, so yes, we do gain beauty as we age. A beauty of true self.

It is the beauty of aging and maturing. The beauty of knowing we have led a good life and done good things in our life.

Betty White and President Obama

The beautiful Betty White with President Obama
The beautiful Betty White with President Obama | Source

Beauty of Roses

Rose buds ready to open
Rose buds ready to open | Source

Beauty of Aging

Remember being fifteen and wanting to be eighteen, or being eighteen and wanting to be twenty-one? In our youth, we look forward to age and yet sometimes fear it when it comes. Aging is the normal process we all face but we can keep beauty as we age. Have you seen the actress, Betty White lately? She just celebrated her ninety-first birthday and her smile rivals the Mona Lisa. She is an actress who has not tried to hide her age but has reveled in it and continues to just beam with happiness. You can always see the twinkle in her eye. Is there a twinkle in your eye?

Signs of grace and beauty in aging are all around us. Mother Theresa working in Calcutta exuded a beautiful countenance....her love for her work and fellow man was always so evident, making her beautiful. The joy in what she was doing gave her confidence. Do you have confidence in yourself and what you are doing?

Did your mother ever tell you to "act your age"? Maybe that is what it takes to make you beautiful, acting your age no matter what that age may be. Beauty may come before aging but it doesn't leave with aging, but grows as we let it. When a sixty year old tries to look like a twenty year old she only lessens her beauty. Too much makeup, clothes meant for younger women, things that do not fit in with her age. A man trying to emulate his youth going out night after night looking for something he may never find, only making himself tired and probably irritable. Revel in what you have, do not look for things are gone. There is no need to envy youth because youth will age and if they do not understand the beauty in others they will lose the beauty in themselves.

Have you ever seen an ugly grandmother? No way. Every grandmother is beautiful. The warmth in her smile and the love in her eyes makes her beautiful. No matter your skin color or the number of wrinkles on your face, inner beauty makes you beautiful.

We all know you have to exercise and eat healthy to keep your body young, but what about your mind and spirit? It needs to be fed too. Feed your mind and spirit with love and laughter. Never be afraid to help others or extend yourself. There's beauty in aging, its up to you to find it.

Appreciate what you have and what you've learned. Learn to "go with the flow" and take things in stride. Nature has given you a chance to use your knowledge and experience to make you better and the better you are, and the better you feel, the more beautiful you are.

I'm not saying women should stop wearing makeup, but maybe wear less. Use your makeup to brighten your face, not hide all that is there. Let your skin breathe and be beautiful. Oh, I know, you're scratching your head and thinking I'm crazy, but remember, some things you just can't hide so why even try? Your inner beauty doesn't fade or change, beauty before aging, beauty while you age, and everlasting beauty of spirit.

Celebrate the beauty around you

Two pond lilies in full bloom.
Two pond lilies in full bloom. | Source

Conclusion

Probably an odd song to choose, but Lady Gaga's "Born This Way" makes some very good points. She says, in the song, that her Mama told her we are all born superstars. What a wonderful thought. We ARE all born superstars, maybe not on the screen or in music, but in what God gave us and how we live our lives.

"I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way
Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way"


We are all beautiful at birth and remain beautiful if we just let ourselves be beautiful. Beauty before aging? Yes. Beauty as we age? Yes. Beauty in aging? Yes. Being positive and loving ourselves and who we are. Appreciating the beauty around us everyday. The rose, the hummingbird, the clouds in the sky...so much to appreciate.

Giving of ourselves to others, showing tenderness and understanding for those who need it, helping when our help is needed, ways to increase our inner beauty. The more we increase our inner beauty, the more beautiful we become. Always smiling, no matter how we feel or what we're thinking, sharing that warm smile with everyone we see. Everyone is beautiful!

Keep that beauty you were born with, never let it fade.

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Appreciate the beauty in all things

Chocolate covered strawberries, hand dipped...beautiful!
Chocolate covered strawberries, hand dipped...beautiful! | Source

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Ronnie 3 years ago

Wow you did it again, all your hubs are always a work of art. Than You


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Oh my dear, sweet friend and fellow-grandmother....Of course no one's ever seen a baby nor a grandmother, who isn't "Beautiful." You had to know, how much I would love this hub. All of my beliefs on the subject, in one fabulous article.

What truly exists within, is surely reflected on the outside.....the happy eyes that sparkle with love and the smile that shines with gratitude. The aura that speaks of experience and wisdom.....it doesn't get more beautiful than this.

This is an award winner, gf...........UP++++


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Great message, Mary! I'll tell you the truth...I have always preferred women who wore no makeup. Maybe it's a 60's thing, but I think natural beauty is so much more attractive than artificial beauty. Thank you for this message; I think this is so important for self-image and self-worth.


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jhamann 3 years ago from Reno NV

Wonderful message and a great hub, thank you for sharing. Jamie


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thank you dear friend for reading and the wonderful compliment. Through thick and thin, you are always there Ronnie.

Oh Effer, our minds travel along the same tracks it seems in all things. Yes fellow grandmother, our love shall see us through!

Thank you Billy. This ties in very well with your hub about having a job. (The Secret of Life: The Second Secret)....I also agree with the no makeup. My mother never wore make up and she was a beautiful woman!

Thank you Jamie. I truly appreciate your kind words.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Mary,

This is absolutely beautiful to me... Oh how I love your philosophy, presentation and passion in this piece.

Your writing style feels like we are having a lovely conversation over tea.

Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria


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Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

Oh totally a beautiful message Mary and thanks for sharing this here. I have of course voted up and shared all over as always!!


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this. I don't know when it started put m eyes see ,y friends as ageless. They don't seem to grow older.


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LaThing 3 years ago from From a World Within, USA

What can I say, Mary, this hub is BEAUTIFUL! Excellent points and a great message..... Enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing..... :)


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livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

Such a lovely and beautiful hub, enjoyed every bit of it. How true, beauty lies within! And it is up to every individual to choose to be beautiful or not.

Voted up and sharing!


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Jools99 3 years ago from North-East UK

Mary, wonderful hub with a great message. I agree with you - beauty is within us all. I agree with Paula that the eyes have it, always! My mother has a lovely expression which is 'all babies bring their own love' and maybe that's why all babies are beautiful? That inner beauty is all that matters and it is created by love.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Livingsta how nice of you to stop by and leave such a lovely comment.

You are so right Jools, the beauty from within!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Maria, how I would love to have a conversation over tea! It is always a pleasure to have you here.

Janine you are such a ray of sunshine. Thanks for the votes and share.

MHatterI have a feeling you, too, are ageless! Love seeing you here.

LaThIng, as you are Beautiful! Thanks for being here.


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

It is not easy to accept the signs of aging, but the challenge is to accept it with grace and dignity and to keep ourselves fit to be seen. Vanity spoils inner beauty.

Beautiful hub about beauty and aging! Thank you :)


Qudsia Q 3 years ago

Greetings,

This hub is absolutely beautiful and interesting to me... Oh how I love your philosophy.

A thing of beauty is a joy forever: its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness.


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hawaiianodysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

My wife wears no makeup, and at 57, she is even more beautiful than when I first met her over three decades ago. Beauty does evolve...in both the person admired as well as in the eyes of the beholder. Love that matures in a good marriage adds to that appreciation of beauty. I just love your writing, and this particular hub touches my heart especially because I have been so conscious this year about mortality...and how that triggers me to appreciate life and loved ones all the more. You've penned a lovely piece for us baby boomers; equally, you've scribed a tribute of wisdom for our youngsters.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Martie, yes GF, beauty is a joy forever and it is something we can always keep in our lives.

Qudsia, thank you for the kind words. It is nice to know others share my philosophy. A way to live and appreciate.

HawaiiO, I have no doubt your wife is beautiful. We all need to be aware of our mortality and appreciate what we have. Livin and lovin while we see the beauty around us. Thanks my friend. Enjoy your day.


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wetnosedogs 3 years ago from Alabama

A great hub and appreciate how you think and thank you for writing this and sharing with us. I, for one, am glad I'm older. I believe I grew to appreciate more and see the beauty in more things.

Sharing this.


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b. Malin 3 years ago

I personally think Women are like Fine wine...We age Beautifully. Do I mean that? Yes, I do. It's all in the mind. My mother was Beautiful at 75. Sadly she died a few months later.

I so Enjoyed your Hub Mary, on the subject of Beauty & aging. Beauty comes from within...aging is seen from without. A smart woman knows that Beauty is only skin deep. How she views life is how she will age.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

WND I truly believe what I wrote and it is nice to know you understand and feel the same way. ..with age comes wisdom and a beauty we never dreamed of. Thanks so much for the share.

Oh, b.Malin, I love the way you put it, "beauty from within, age from without"..and as we age we realize this beautiful truth.


Vickiw 3 years ago

So pleased to read your lovely thoughts on beauty, and agree totally. I am so glad I have never seen the need for makeup. Not worrying about it frees me up for the real things in life!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

And I am happy that you agree with my thoughts. Makeup is nice and all, but real beauty is so much better Vicki.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

I think sometimes some people get sex appeal and beauty mixed up. They aren't really the same thing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and some people have a more mature definition of beauty than others. Enjoyed reading this hub as I always enjoy your hubs.

Congratulations on getting Hub of the Day a few days ago. You deserved to get it long ago.

Voting this hub up, BAI, and will share!


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rebeccamealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

What a great way to look at life, and people. Babies, grandmothers, and all in between are beautiful. Love those chocolate-covered strawberries!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

That's how I feel Au fait, beauty is where we find it. Thanks for the congrats and of course for your votes. I always appreciate it when you stop by.

Rebeccamealey, even chocolate covered strawberries are a thing of beauty ;)


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Brett.Tesol 3 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

Nice hub, being happy definitely makes the world of difference! Learning to accept who you are also helps a lot, as those that try hard to appear young, will normaly end up only looking older. Where as someone who has their own style will often have that unique beauty about them, as they will feel comfortable in themselves.

Up, beautiful and sharing.


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mperrottet 3 years ago from Pennsauken, NJ

What a great hub, reminding us that we should be comfortable in our own skin, even when that skin is wrinkled and aged. I'm glad you mentioned Betty White - I just love her, and think she is the greatest example of how to grow old. Voted up, awesome and shared!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Definitely Brett, it is all about acceptance. Accepting who you are and accepting how you look, and being happy with it! Thanks for the votes and share.

Mperrottet, 'comfortable in our own skin', boy you nailed it with that one! Thanks for the votes and share.


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Kathryn Stratford 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

This article is very well done. The media distorts our perception of beauty, and I think that everyone should view it differently. Age brings a richness that youth doesn't have, and I look forward to keeping that in mind as I age.

My most beloved friend was an older lady, and she had a beauty that surpassed anyone else I've ever met. She was so kind and caring, and she was strong and tough. I would feel good if I were half as wonderful as she was when I am that age. No beauty queen could compete with that!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

"Beautifully" put Kathryn. We have to stop letting the media and others tell us what to think. Beauty is all around us and doesn't need to be distorted. I enjoyed your comments about your beautiful friend.


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ImKarn23 3 years ago

isn't it amazing how someone can be somewhat physically unattractive and yet - to those who know him/her well - that same person appears breathtakingly beautiful?

Beauty comes from within - and those who desire the 15 year old sapling instead of the beauty and majesty of the full grown tree - probably aren't too 'mature' of a tree themselves..

You're a smart cookie, my friend - excellently written hub!

up and sharing on..


Justsilvie 3 years ago

This is a lovely Hub and so very true! Voted up and shared.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Ah Leslie, trees and cookies, what more could we ask for at any age? Thanks for the comment, as always so insightful.

Justsilvie, glad you enjoyed and appreciate your vote and share.


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Suzie HQ 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Hi Mary,

What wise words you speak. Beauty is in us all at every age and stage of life without the use of cosmetics. Well written my friend, beautifully said in such a lyrical way. I am also a gaga fan!! LOL

Voted up, interesting awesome!!


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Suzie HQ 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Hi Mary,

Forgot to ask if ok to add this in as link to a new hub I hope to have out in the next day on Quick and Easy Beauty Tips? Thinks it will compliment it well as it is so on point!!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

So happy to see you enjoyed this. Beauty is what we perceive it to be. Thanks for the votes, I am always happy to see you.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

OMG, of course Suzie. I would be honored!


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

Physical beauty is passing. A transitory possession. But the beauty of mind and richness of the spirit and tenderness of the heart aren’t taken away, but grow. Increase with the years. How strange that we are destitute when we have these treasures locked in our heart.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Oh Vinaya, what a beautiful comment! This is definitely one to remember..."treasures locked in our heart", beautiful. Thank you.


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macteacher 3 years ago from New York

I agree that we can become more beautiful as we age if we're acting our age. Too many women try to look younger and end up looking silly. We can fight our age or we can choose to age gracefully.

Not everyone sweetens with age though. My grandma lived to the ripe old age of 99, and she was one of the meanest people I've ever known. I hope she's found some peace wherever she is. Thank you for a lovely hub.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

And I have to agree with you macteacher, acting your age does make you more gracious....all we have to do to prove that theory is look at Joan Rivers. I have met some pretty mean old people too, I am sorry to hear your grandmother was one of them. I hope she found peace too....wishing you peace and joy.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

Those chocolate covered strawberries look yummy and beautiful! :)


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

Hi, I totally agree with you, theres nothing worse than an older woman for example having so much cosmetic surgery her chin ends up on her hairline! lol! I remember a friend saying, years ago, when I was about 15 when I was moaning about being spotty, she said, just smile and you will be beautiful, so this is a beautiful hub too!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

That's one of my daughter-in-laws specialties Linda.

Nell, you had me in stitches (smile) with the chin on the hairline! Thanks for liking my hub.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

You are so right, oh, wise one! All the vane gals in our society should read your article. Yep, that Betty White is beautiful. I think it might be because she is always smiling.

I voted this UP, and will share.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

I think Mary, as we age we become more aware of what's important and beautiful in our lives! I appreciate your vote and share.


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

What a positive hub on aging gracefully, beautifully and loving oneself for it. Just awesome!

Voted up, useful and neautiful.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

If only more people would realize their beauty! Thank you Rajan.


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

Mary, I was running my article on duplicate checker, and it said some portion of your text is available on one source. I checked the link and was surprised to see my comment here on your wonderful hub.

PS: The quote does not belong to me.

Have a great Sunday.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

So Vinaya, are you saying you did not make the comment above?

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