Bedwetting Solutions for your family today

The Causes of Bedwetting

Bedwetting is a fairly common problem for children. About 25% of children around the age of 4 are estimated to wet their bed on a regular basis. However, by the age of 7, most of these kids “grow out” of it. The causes of bedwetting are not well defined since it is not considered a disease but a stage that the vast majority of children are able to overcome simply with time and the understanding of patient parents. Though it largely is considered a matter of slower maturation, it can be difficult for the children and the family who are going through the stage. Some of the bedwetting solutions can be a lifesaver curbing the stress imposed upon the family.

The causes attributed to bedwetting include deep sleep, insufficient production of anti-diuretic hormone at night and small bladder capacity. Some children simply sleep so deep that they don’t get a chance to alert the brain that the bladder is full in time to get up to urinate. The brain in short, is deeply involved in the sleep itself and nothing else. Also, our bodies make anti-diuretic hormone at night allowing for us to produce less urine at night while asleep. Some of the children have less of the ability to produce enough of the hormone to help them avoid the need to void the bladder overnight. Another cause contributing to bedwetting in children is small bladder capacity. The bladder in such children have lower capacity to hold urine resulting in needing to urinate even when the bladder may not necessarily be full thus increasing the chances of bedwetting.

It is also important not to dismiss the possibility of underlying medical causes in the children that need to be addressed. That is to say, is it truly a matter of childhood bedwetting or is there a genuine medical condition that is causing bedwetting? This is more important when the child is around the age of 7 when the normal causes of bedwetting in children would have been resolved for most children. External factors such as excessive stress such as divorce of the parents can contribute to nocturnal enuresis or nighttime bedwetting in some children especially if they have already had dry nights for some time but have started to wet the bed again. Any pain when urinating or any changes in the color of the urine must also be discussed as to not overlook any possibilities of infection. Increase in urination can also be brought on partly by diabetes so any risk factors for diabetes such as obesity or family history should be discussed.

Bedwetting Solutions

One of the most successful bedwetting solutions is to employ some type of an alarm.  There are different types of such alarms but they are usually sensors worn or placed in a mat that detect moisture and sound an alarm.  Some of these models also come with various sounds for the alarm to avoid the pitfall of the child “tuning out” the alarm.  The alarms boast a pretty high successful rate with roughly ¾ of the children having success within 10 weeks or so and about the same number of children having success continuously.  The children can learn to recognize the need to empty the bladder through training with the alarm. 

The reward method is also very effective as a bedwetting solution.  Instead of embarrassing the child for the failures, reward the child for successfully dry nights.  Offer a toy after a dry night each time.  A favorite snack or an extra trip to the park or a trip to the zoo after so many nights may also work.  Emphasize the positive rather than dwelling on the negative.  Make it a great growing experience instead of a failure along the way.  This can be a great motivator and may help the child get involved actively instead of feeling helpless with the problem.  Let the child know that they can, in part, take charge all the while being careful not to assign blame for the nights he/she wets the bed.  Since bedwetting is known to run in families, it can be encouraging to let the child know that mommy or daddy also used to wet the bed but as they grew they no longer had such problems with the parents help.  It is important to let them know that you are there for them.  And, to realize that the parents who seem so capable have also had the same problem when they were young can reassure the child that it is not a problem that they face alone but many others go through as well.

Learning to hold until absolutely needing to go can be also helpful.  Especially if you are working with the child by rewarding the child for dry nights, the child might be open for more suggestions and willing to try and learn to hold which is said to help increase the bladder capacity positively affecting the child’s ability to stay dry.  The child can at the same time be encouraged to go to the bathroom just before going to sleep.  Much as we may go to the bathroom before leaving for a long car ride, children can learn such behavior to help avoid the need to urinate at night.

Some suggest waking up the child to go to the bathroom at night.  This may work as a temporary solution but it makes the child miss out on the training of detecting a need to empty the bladder.  It can seem a great solution versus having to wake up in the middle of the night to change the sheets but if the child does not learn to realize the need to go to the bathroom on his/her own, it is only a temporary fix.  To curb hardship on the child and parents, it might be better to rely on water proof sheets and/or absorbent training underpants to help transition while trying to stop bedwetting.    

While some parents may experience some success in decreasing the amount of liquids close to bedtime, this method does not appear to hold water either since the child’s bladder may not be necessarily full but not able to hold for long whatever amount it is holding.  It can also be misconstrued as a punishment from the child’s point of view so it is not a very effective or a recommendable method. 

Medication is usually considered the last resort in treating bedwetting in children.  Although it may be helpful in social situations such as at camp or sleepovers, it is considered a last resort since there are side effects and the right dose must carefully considered for each child.

THE Bedwetting Solution for your family

The best bedwetting solution for any family involves patience and love. Letting the child participate in devising a solution can be a crucial factor in returning some sense of control to the child. Taking the embarrassment out of the equation by informing the child of the fact that he/she is not alone and that many other children, including perhaps even the parents themselves may have gone through such experience can be empowering also. Let your child know that no one may talk about it but other children do experience bedwetting and it is a part of the maturing process. But first and foremost, let the child know that you are there for him/her to help grow. As in many things in life, love will find a way.

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ajm5050 6 years ago from NY

I've had this experience with my kid and for parents going through the same problem, I cannot emphasize enough on the importance of displaying positive attitude towards your child.

It is like the author says, "Emphasize the positive rather than dwelling on the negative", this is so important to keep the child motivated.

I had wet my bed until I was 6 or so and I still remember my mom always comforting me that it was OK and that I could get over it soon enough. I never felt embarrassed and I wanted to try harder to try to stop bedwetting.

I showed the same patience and understanding for my kid's bedwetting. Even though it might have taken him some time to stop wetting his bed, I'm just glad I never made him feel an ounce of shame or guilt. Just remember these three words, patience, understanding, and positivity.


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terixf 6 years ago from USA Author

How wonderful that you dealt with bedwetting with patience, understanding and positivity! The best bedwetting solution for any family in my opinion is a positive parent like yourself who seize the opportunity through a child's bedwetting experience to express the true love it takes to be a light in the child's life.


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billyaustindillon 6 years ago

A good analysis - positive resolve seems to be the best to dealing with the problem - it is a lot tougher on the child than the parent and many forget that trying to force the issue.


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terixf 6 years ago from USA Author

I agree with you. I think many do forget that bedwetting is difficult on the child and the child often times feels lack of control on the issue. By including the child in the bedwetting solution as opposed to making him/her appear to the a part of the problem, I think the battle is half won. Our children are the most important investments in our lives. Much like everything else in life that is worth our while, it takes patience to guide our children in the right direction. Bedwetting need not be just a problem but a hurdle that can bring the family closer.

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