Being ridiculed for body size

Body Size Ridicule

Being ridiculed for the size of your body is so very rude and prejudicial. It is a form of bullying. One can not help how they were born. For example: Too short ,too tall to thin, too fat. One can get elevated shoes for height or wear flat shoes for the ones that are too tall, but for weight some have medical problems,like thyroid etc... and they have no choice this is just who they are.

So for someone to ridicule you for something you have no control over whether it is genetic or medical is just so unfair. Ridicule and bullying of all kinds happen often. The point is what will we tolerate? How should we react?

The best things is to do:

1. Ignore such people and hang around with more like minded people.

2. Don't allow them to see that you are hurt as that only feeds their ego.

3. Don't react just keep walking. They want you to react so they can continue making fun of you. So when you don't give them any attention they are left looking like the idiot and they eventually stop because it no longer feeds their ego.

4. Be self resilient. Know inside your self that you are perfect whole and complete no matter what your size. Most of the time when you are confident inside yourself you won't get picked on.

5. If it does escalate to physical abuse not just verbal then I would go to the authorities and let them deal with it. If it is just verbal I wouldn't give them the attention or time of day as they don't deserve it. Life is just too short to waste your time and energy with such people.

I have wondered what the person doing the ridiculing or bullying ever got out of being mean to others and I realized that they have some major self esteem issues. The only way they can address them is to boost their egos any way they can. So one form is verbal and psychological abuse and the other is physical abuse. Whatever it takes to make them feel good about themselves. They are truly sad individuals that need psychological attention.

So if you are someone who has ever been ridiculed for your body size just know that the person doing the ridiculing has many more problems than you could even imagine. So never take anything they say seriously as they are the ignorant unhappy ones.

Stay strong ,be safe and know that you are perfect just as you are. Only hang around those that are of like mind.

I love these quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt:

"Great minds discuss ideas.average minds discuss events,small minds discuss people."

"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built."

"Friendship with ones self is all important,because without it one can not be friends with anyone else in the world"

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

"When you know to laugh and when to look upon things as too absurd to take seriously, the other person is ashamed to carry through even if he was serious about it."

Many many blessings to you on your life's path.


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Paul Kemp 3 years ago

I will agree it is rude and out-of-place to criticize people for their body weight, BUT I do not agree that most of those who are fat were born that way. They got that way by falling for the dumb, unhealthy food-like substances that are pushed on us by the major food processors. A big part of the problem, too, is that when eating that type of basically nutritionless "food", it creates a craving for the essential nutrients that have been processed out, or were never there in the first place, so we overeat.

What disappoints me is that somehow these folks who have gained so much weight since they were in high school never took the time to find out WHY and then do something about it. It is just sad to see what they have let themselves become -- because they certainly weren't born that way.


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moneyfairy 3 years ago Author

Thank you Paul for your opinion. Some do have thyroid and medical problems while others like you say have poor eating habits. But what does making fun of or ridiculing do to solve the problem??? It just makes them want to eat more.


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Paul Kemp 3 years ago

I don't make fun of these people we're talking about. I do believe we are all mostly responsible for our own health and, if something is going wrong, we need to find the answer and fix it.

You and probably most of the heavy folks we're talking about don't share my belief. You want the world to be nicer to them. I look at most heavy people and think, "Why don't you find a way to do something about that?"

You mention people having thyroid problems. Dr. Russell Blaylock points out that the fluoridated water in most American cities is likely to blame for some of this. Instead of asking my doctor what's going on with my body, I go to books that tell what researchers have found -- then I make up my own mind. MDs don't know much about human nutrition, they just hand out drugs to mask the symptoms for the most part. Believing your doctor -- unless he or she is very unusual -- is most people's first mistake.

Stop making excuses for people is my advice to you, Moneyfairy. Help them find the answers to why they have grown so heavy. That's what I am trying to do for them, but most don't want to do what it takes.

That's a shame. They are shortchanging themselves, in my opinion.


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moneyfairy 3 years ago Author

Paul: thanks again for another comment. I am glad you don't ridicule others for their size and I am glad you are perfectly healthy .

I am not advocating obesity, I was just writing the article about others that are ridiculed and bullied for their size , not just overweight but also to thin, too tall, too short etc.. And yes ones health is their responsibility but the ones that are too tall, too short can't really help that now can they? And to be ridiculed or bullied for something they can do nothing about is appalling. I am not making excuses for others I am just advocating that they are fellow human beings and should not be treated with disrespect. Would you disrespect someone with a limp? or one eye and an eye patch? or someone with one leg? if not than why should one with extra weight be disrespected or one too short or to tall? That's all I'm saying. Ridicule and bullying is not o.k. under any circumstances.


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Paul Kemp 3 years ago

I agree, Moneyfairy. I have been ridiculed a lot. In my home town of Miami, when the Latins became the majority, thin Anglos like me would draw catcalls on the street and be ignored when we showed up at a Latin-run gas station. I didn't like to be treated like that in my own neighborhood, but it seemed a waste of time to try to change small-minded people, especially when there were so many of them. So, I moved to a part of the country where civility is the norm, the Pacific Northwest.

I appreciate what you're saying in regard to bullying and harassment. No, I don't make fun of cripples or people with eye-patches (a friend's father lost an eye in WWII -- it never crossed my mind to make fun of this). We should be more compassionate to others, but some individuals are so miserable and stressed-out that they are just looking to make some vulnerable person feel even worse -- as if this will make them feel better!

I am glad I have found a place where neighbors treat each other well and respect and enjoy others' differences. I applaud your efforts to make other areas more aware that there are better ways to get along than to ridicule and bully others. I wish you much success -- it's a big job that needs to be done.


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moneyfairy 3 years ago Author

Thank you Paul for finally getting where I was coming from. I am glad that you found a place to live that feels safe for you. I'm sorry that you too have expereinced how horrible bullying can be just for being yourself. You said it well that we should be more compassionate of others . We should not be judgemental of others just from appearence.

Thank you for understanding and for being proactive in finding a place that you feel safe being you. :o) Good for you!!!

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