New Year's Resolutions That Will Make You Happy

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Resolve To Be Happy

There’s something about a New Year that makes people think they have to make New Year’s Resolutions. And many of these well-intentioned resolutions, while good at first glance, just set us up for unhappiness. This year, why not make Happiness your New Year's resolution.

Have these New Year's resolutions ever been on your list?

Resolutions That DON'T Make You Happy

  • Exercise and get fit
  • Drink less
  • Be frugal
  • Love your enemies
  • Do good works
  • Eat healthy; Slim down…
  • Get rid of clutter

Well, you get the picture. These are all great ideas, but probably ones that will make you pretty cranky in the New Year. Think back to your list of resolutions for last year. Did you keep them? or did you just feel bad when you came across the list in March and realized that your resolve dissolved by the second week in January? Well, I’m here to give you some advice on how to make New Year’s resolutions that will bring you more happiness in the coming year.

Now there are two things about making the New Year’s Resolutions mentioned above that have a built-in misery factor, and that are sure to make you miserable right off the bat.


How New Year's Resolutions Can Make You Unhappy

Number 1: If you actually keep your New Year's resolutions, it will mean that you either have to stop doing things that you enjoy or start doing things you don’t enjoy. Now this is not the road to happiness, is it?

Number 2: If you don’t keep these resolutions, you’ll feel like a failure. Either way, not a good way to spend the coming year! Usually, there are plenty of ways the world can turn to make you feel bad. Keep a positive outlook on life, don't set yourself up for failure. Make resolutions that will make you feel good about yourself.

Be Kind To Yourself - Resolve To Be Happy!

So here I am to tell you how to start the New Year off right. Forget all thoughts of starvation diets, daily exercise regimens and penny pinching til it hurts. Do you LIKE making yourself miserable? Be kind to yourself and make New Year’s resolutions designed for happiness and New Year’s resolutions that you will keep. Feel virtuous! Bring a smile to your face! Below are some practical New Year’s Resolutions for the coming year.


Three Resolutions to Improve Your Happiness Factor


1. I Will Not Exercise!

When you think you should exercise, lie down until the feeling passes. Don’t buy another exercise video, and for heaven’s sake, don’t waste your money on another membership for the gym! (You do remember the gym fiasco last year, don’t you?) Don’t resolve to exercise, but do get going on some of those fun things you've always wanted to do.

Belly dancing
class? Your belly will thank you, and your spouse probably won't mind, either! Take a ballroom dancing class with your significant other? This is not only fun, but romantic. And it's great preparation for that cruise you hope to go on later in the year.

How about finally going with your friend to a line dancing class? O.k., it sounds a little hokey, but it will be great fun to do together. And if you accidentally get some exercise when you do these things well, that’s life .

You might also get some accidental exercise by doing a few laps around the mall with your friend before treating yourself to a manicure or a cappuccino. Hey, if you can’t help exercising, you can’t help it!


2. I Will Not Go On a Diet!

You know it’s been proved that dieting was probably invented by a sadistic skinny person who can eat 3000 calories a day and never gain an ounce. There is something twisted about depriving yourself of something you really love so that you look better for people you don’t care about.

Think about all those diets you’ve tried. Did they make you happy? Did you get a warm fuzzy feeling from watching your friends eat cake and ice cream while you had celery sticks and diet ginger ale? Think about it. Have a snack, it helps you think. And if that snack turns out to be an apple before dinner, and you eat less, well, that’s OK. In fact, have an apple right now.

The best way not to diet is to eat when you are hungry. So have some fresh fruit with yogurt. Or be really sinful and have some rice cakes with peanut butter. The snack will help you not think about diets. And maybe you’ll still lose weight. (Take that, you skinny sadist!) Be happy!

3. I Will Splurge On Myself!

You’ve heard the expression, “You can’t take it with you.” Well, even if you could, how would that help you now? You want happiness NOW, so splurge on yourself once in a while. It doesn’t have to be a costly splurge to make yourself feel good.

Buy yourself a fresh flower for your desk or your dining room table. It will remind you, and say to the world, that you are special. (As an added bonus, don't tell anyone you bought it for yourself. Your co-workers will be so jealous if they think that a secret admirer sent you flowers for no reason. How fun is that?)

You can be frugal in your grocery shopping and your clothes shopping. You can cut coupons and mail in rebates to save money. But resolve not to be frugal when it comes to doing some little special thing to make yourself feel good. Bring on the happiness!


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Resolve To Feel Good About Yourself - Resolve To Be Happy!

So if inspiration strikes you, and you get the urge to make a list of New Year's Resolutions, think twice about what goes on that list. Make only New Year’s Resolutions that will make you feel good about yourself and that will bring you satisfaction and happiness in the coming year!

Best wishes for New Year's Resolutions that make you happy and for a very Happy New Year!


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ehasert 5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

I was saying this same thing on New Yrs eve! I never do resolutions, because it sets me up for failure! I try to be kind & giving to others all year, so there is nothing I need to resolve to. The weight thing I gave up yrs ago & I do exercise by going to the pool 3 times a week, so those were already in place. I feel good about myself & don't have to give anything up! Good article, Steph:) Thnx


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Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA Author

Thanks for being such a faithful reader, Estelle! I do feel that New Year's Resolutions are often unrealistic. There's nothing wrong with self improvement, but you need to know yourself when setting goals. You are right— feeling good about yourself is the most important ingredient for happiness! Happy New Year!


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kashmir56 5 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Stephanie, I think that New Year's Resolutions sometimes put to much pressure on people and that is why they fail at them most of the time.

Best wishes for you in 2011!!!


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Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA Author

Thanks for commenting Kashmir. It's true that life itself puts a lot of pressure on us, maybe we need to be kinder to ourselves? Best wishes to you also. I hope that 2011 will be a very good year for you!


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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

These are great ideas for New Year resolutions. Ceertainly less restricting and more fun.


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Millionaire Tips - Best wishes for a Happy New Year! Hope all your resolutions are fun ones!


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago

Steph ~ I love your hubs and will revisit this one, so I clicked "Follow" ~ Hugs, Debby


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happypuppy 4 years ago

Fun to read and great ideas!


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

Great suggestions, Stephanie! I'm all for being happy in 2012. Happy New Year to you!

JAYE


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Happypuppy - Glad you had fun with these New Year's Resolutions! Happy New Year!

Debby - Thanks for your comment and follow!

Jaye - May all your resolutions be happy ones! Happy New Year, Jaye!


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sallieannluvslife 4 years ago from Eastern Shore

Stephanie, I love your hubs....you always make me smile. :)


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Hi Sallieannluvslife,

Your comments make me smile! Thanks for visiting my hub. May your New Year's Resolutions be the best for a Happy New Year! Thanks for stopping by!


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hey Stephanie - I took you advice and ran off and bought myself this gorgeous Owl lamp I have been admiring! lol This was great advice and oh - I am staring at the lamp right now! I LOVE it! lol Ok I was gonna buy it anyway - but you made it even guilt free!

Loved this hub:) I needed a dose of good cheer today!


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

RealHousewife - You absolutely should have that owl lamp guilt free! What better way to have a happier life than to treat yourself to something nice now and then? My thing is flowers. I used to either cut flowers from my garden or buy flowers every week to keep on my desk at work. It always gave me a lift ...and still does! Glad to hear that you gave yourself some good cheer today! Thanks for sharing it with us! :)


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Stephanie, I am a firm believer in not making New YEar's Resolutions, because so true and agree with you that they never get kept anyways, so love your idea of just being happy. Perfect way to start the new year!! Have voted up, shared and tweeted too!!


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Janine Huldie - Thanks so much for your comment and shares! Stay happy! :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Oh, Lord, is it that time of year again when I have to make New Year's resolutions?? Really, I never do anyway. Cute Hub. I voted it UP


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Mary615 - Absolutely only make resolutions that will bring you happiness and contentment. :)


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

Nice hub with good thoughts! Voted up and useful.


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Tillsontitan - Thank you for reading and commenting! Be happy!


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Stephanie - bookmarked for 1st January, though I could turn over a new leaf tomorrow? I love #1 and #2, both get my vote cos they're normally my first two resolutions every year and I could use a change.


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ChristyWrites 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I like the resolution that I will splurge on myself! Take care of ourselves - a great message :) I vote up.


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

ChristyWrites - Those little splurges do wonders for our morals. When I was working, a fresh flower on my desk always cheered me up when things weren't going just right. Now, I still go out to my garden several times a week and pick some fresh flowers for our dining table. Thank you for your comment! Take care of yourself!


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA Author

Jools99 - I know that dieting and exercising are among the top resolutions...next year, just resolve to have some low calorie fun! :) Thanks for stopping in to comment! Be good to yourself!


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

I think you are very right, Stephanie. We have to be good to ourselves first before we can keep resolutions. Thanks for sharing, and I'm passing this on!


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Stephanie Henkel 3 years ago from USA Author

Midget38 - I recently heard a news report that said most New Year's resolutions are broken by the end of January. While it's good to try to improve ourselves and our lives, it's silly to make unrealistic promises. Thanks so much for your comments and for sharing. Happy New Year!

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