Bipolar and Extra Stress How to Avoid Crashing

Coping with everyday stress

 Coping with daily stress is hard for everyone and those that can manage well enough to never let it show has alot of Willpower.  Stress can cause Anxiety and Anxiey can cause stress.  How to  beat it without it screwing up your already screwd up gene pool is something that works often but I also suffer within and try so hard to hide it. 

There is no secret or a magic pill, you  just have to pull up your boot straps and bloom again.  I always say "this too will pass" but sometimes that just doens'nt make the night terrors go away or the "little" mood swings or hurtful comments that you don't mean.


Those who suffer from Bipolar, stress is like salt to a wound.  Here are a few tips I have learned to use when I feel like I am getting to the point that stress is a four letter word.  This week has had alot of ups and downs, daughters getting ready to return to school with lists 5 miles long,  the baby fell on her bike and looks like De'LaHoya hit her in the eye, the a/c went out twice, granny is refusing physical therapy and that is just the beginning. It goes downhill from there.

Ways to avoid Extra Stress

1. Don't over schedule yourself, common stress's are not having adequate time for everyday activities.

2. Take things one step at the time, take your time especially with dealing with stressful issues and never say things you don't mean, no matter how stressed you are.

3. Exercise: allot. I have walked around the block so many times this last week I have a path in the pavement. Walk it off.

4. Keep up a good regular diet, don't avoid meals ( which i do all the time for fear I am too stressed to hold down food.)

5. If you are on anti-anxiety medication, do not miss a dose, heck if you have to call your doctor and if he understands your condition he may up the dose for bit or prescribe something to help with the anxiety. Controlling your anxiety will help you cope better with stress.

6. Be Careful. Don't be vulnerable, being over stressed or suffering high anxiety can make a bipolar person become vulnerable to instant gratification. This includes finances, relationships, and lack of.

7. Remind yourself everyday that you are on control of your own fate, you are in control of the decisions that you make today. The way you choose to deal with stress results in either a positive or negative response.

8. Last and the hardest, Walk Away if you have a stress-or in your life that you have a choice of living or living without, following your heart sometimes leads you where you never wanted to be because of past pains. Use your head.

9. Listen to my favorite song on the ipod while exercising, it will work you to death ( listen below) This song describes me to a T.  No one will ever know who I am because they don't stick around long enough to find out.  I am just an avatar.

10. Don't fall in love

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Alpasa 4 years ago

I've been naturally slow to start over with big changes-and I've had many-and one more after being diagnosed bipolar. I recently moved to Canada where I had lived for 15 years. My tendency is rather to not overburden myself with schedules and aside from my natural hardship to start, it's harder for me to start with a job. And I'm a prolific writer, also. But have been pressed by family and friends to move, that is, speed up, or even a bit since I do take time. Still, I feel family and friends don't quite understand me and me. I'm very stressed out, have heaviness in my head and am anxious all the time, thinking I always let down people. I live in a small town too and this friend removed her friendship from me (an old friend) and with her many friends. It's been extremely hard to let go of this, I feel pressured all the time, thinking, and these people simply don't like me, and this of course affects me since I'm an okey person other than I'm sick..anyways..need some advice, really, other than those above which are good too, Thanks!


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fortunerep 5 years ago from North Carolina Author

confused,

with my experience it just leads to heartbreak. What I meant by that is don't fall in love out of nned to be needed or loved, depression or mania can make you do things for instant gratification, so it may not be love at all. I am sorry you misunderstood and thanks for bringing that to my attention.

hugs,

dori


confused 5 years ago

really ? Dont fall in love ? Is it not lonely enough having bi polar ? Did you think this comment through at all ? !!!!


wendy87 5 years ago

we all know much stress is bad for us but its not always easy to get rid of it but above tips may help..thanks for sharing...voted up


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Each and every manic episode that I experience is triggered by some stressor or another. It's taken me awhile, but I have begun to see patterns that I need to avoid at all costs...

Thanks for the advice everyone on the planet should heed!

Love Evanescence, so thanks for the video, too...


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Each and every manic episode that I experience is triggered by some stressor or another. It's taken me awhile, but I have begun to see patterns in the behavior of others that cause this stress-and they I now avoid at all costs.


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

The video you selected says it ALL. So many people (I daresay mostly WOMEN) feel like frauds. You don't even have to be bipolar.

It occurs to me that the principles of recovery apply quite well to bipolar. We really can only deal with what's right in front of us. We are taught do "the next right thing."

The feeling of being a fraud, a lie, goes away as we live with integrity.

I know it's helped me stay on the straight and narrow path. Can't say I never crash, but it's not as bad as it used to be.

Anyway, glad to have you here to share your experience, Dori. xo, MM


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

I guess it would be hard to walk the walk all the time, we are all human and how we cope with stress is the key. If you have that many critical decisions to make in one day I think I would slow down, solve them one by one as of importance. You have to take it one by one, learning to cope is the first step. I am sorry you have so much on your plate at this time but calm down take it slow and if you are bipolar u sound manic. If i can help anymore let me know. The main thing is to not expect so much of yourself or others.

hope you are well

dori


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free4india 7 years ago

Can anyone really walk the talk?

Consider a situation....

Recession hits.... price rises... everybody working for me wants an increase in salary while I starting get paid less... house rent will be more.... maid wants more salary.... google ad rates fall to as low as 0.01 .... new methods tried put its down even in search engines.... company starts throwing people out.... well one at a time can one really solve it?

When you have 10 critical decisions to make in just 1 day how to do it one by one ?!


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

yeah Jen #8 is very hard to do.

dori


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Jen's Solitude 7 years ago from Delaware

We don't all suffer from being bi-polar, but some of us do have close friends who battle this daily. Thank you for this comprehensive list. I especially appreciate #8 when I think of my dear friend.

Jen


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

Rachael,

the ones that are green and underlined?

dori


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks Rgraf she does need some guidance, sounds like she in a mania episode when she takes control. To her, she feels as though she can conquer the world. No need for sleep, food, she has racing thoughts and can't make up her mind so taking control becomes frustrating to her. Always know that when she is in the manic phase that she will come down, some slowly but some like me just crash like a plane into the side of the mountain. Be there for her, I have always said that if I was making you miserable then I was 10 times as miserable.

hub hugs

dori


rachelsheart 7 years ago

That's awsome dori...

how did you get those contera words in there?


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RGraf 7 years ago from Wisconsin

Very good tips. I have a friend that is bipolar and she is constantly over scheduling herself. When she was determined to take over something I was doing to "help", I mentioned that maybe she needed to slow down because I knew her schedule and it was already overflowing. We had a very heated argument in which she has now decided that I'm controlling because I won't let her have it. One of the things she needs to do is be willing to listen to loving guidance.


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks John, and you hit it on the head with #10. How I treasure you advice and wisdom as I have said before.

Sometimes the idea of someone loving you, really loving you is just that an idea.

hub hugs

dori


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John Chancellor 7 years ago from Tennessee

Dori,

Great tips ... a couple of comments.

With respect to #1. I think it is extremely important that a person realize that we all have way too many things we could do. The trick is to realize we can't possibly do everything. So we must learn not to let the good things we could do keep us from doing the great things we could do. Another way of saying this is don't let the urgent rule your life so that you never get around to the important things in your life.

As to #10. If you mean what most people consider love, I totally agree. Most people do not really understand who they are and who their lover is. Both are in "love" with the idealized version of each other. That is doomed to lead to stress and heartache.

I do believe if you are totally realistic, you can find someone to be honest and open with, someone you can trust and communicate with. And that would certainly reduce stress. Just never try to "force" a relationship. Don't try to make someone what they aren't just to fit what you think you want or need.


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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks BC I love this whole CD. It is very relatable.\

Shame: lol that was the hub on how to control hypo mania which stress and anxiety can trigger as well. No series, I written a freaking book!

BP Thans for stopping by, I wish your sister well, it is definately not a picnic.

hugs

dori


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

This was great as my sister has this, great hub Fortune. xox


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

Hi dori, it seems that this is a sequence to another hub that you publish earlier! Great tips dear. I will start my annual vacation on next Thursday 30/07/09 and I will WIND UP at last :)


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cindyvine 7 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

I think your tips to handle stress and anxiety are good for those without bipolar as well! Great info!

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