Blame it on being human
This Hub was inspired by my reading another Hub here. The name is irrelevant, save to say that it brought me to my knees. It opened my eyes to what the world may indeed see those off us inflicted with Bipolar and or Tourettes as. I was saddened and surprised at the same time. I will ponder the words and the Hub for some time I am certain. Disturbing and leaving me a bit abstract in my thinking, I will endure writing this Hub.
I sat here and read some of the most unbelievably cold and cruel words I have ever seen. I read and shook my head, not at the "wives" being written about but at the men writing the words. Anger and writing sometimes are like alcohol and driving. A poor mix and dangerously careless.
I will not give a thought on the Bipolar issue except to say Hmmmm??? Maybe more to it than what the writer thought. His wife sounded as if she is more Tourettes and perhaps border-line split personality than simply bipolar. It is so very easy to say "Oh, she/he is Bipolar and simply accept that this is how Bipolar people act. I suffer from both and though I am as they say, high maintenance, my family and Love stand with me and try to understand as much as they can. I have done most everything that was mentioned in the Hub. From the splurge spending without needing to the cheating and late nights. Although I am not a screamer, I will say I speak softly when I am saying "leave me the F*** alone" just because I slipped, in minutes, from "Love me please" to "get the Frick away from me." No cause, no reason.
The things the men said of their wives and ex's was incredible. It is also why we that suffer from the "conditions" have a hard time being "normal." The world sees Bipolar as the reason for everything strange or not understood. Sometimes, I do things way out in left field just because I am freaking human. No blame or pointing or making the excuse "sorry, I am bipolar" or "oops, it's the tourettes." Call a spade a spade but don't call it a freak. Life happens and bad things happen and people spend huge amounts of money just because they are bad, NOT because they are bipolar only. "Humans" do things JUST because it is the Human thing to do. You do NOT have to be bipolar or suffer from some Mental illness to run all your credit cards to the max or to cheat on your spouse. You just have to be "Human."
Wives cheat, just as husbands do and yes, the bipolar intensifies this and also causes us to blurt out our infedelities BUT, we are not robots that Have to do those things or Have to be Bipolar because of this.
I shook inside at now wondering how often and how quickly people pass not only judgement but medical diagnosis's because they "heard" a friend say... "I saw this on T.V. I am sure my wife/husband is Bipolar." That diagnosis should be left to professionals. There really is so much more to a mental health issue than violence or cheating or spending. Are those all signs of a Mental illness?? Yep. It is also true that people who do NOT suffer from a mental disorder do all of those things.
Again, to call your wife or lover or ex cruel, vulgar names and then place the Tag on it, Bipolar, is to show your own inside issues. Sorry it didn't work out. Sorry things went way bad. Sorry, of course, that you were cheated on. All very bad things to have happen to you. But life happens and not always in a good way and it happens because we are humans and life happens, to humans. There truly is enough on the T.v. programs and talk shows depicting every Bipolar person as a freak or bad person. No one needs to add to it. Easy to blame it on, for sure, but not always the cause of a marriage failing or a credit card getting Maxed.
I am Bipolar and suffer from tourettes anddddddd I am human. I raised my children and we have had a fabulous life. I am raising 2 children again and very blessed to be able to. I write and live life as best as I can. I love and laugh and get mad and sad, just like you. My issue simply take me to dark places. Before we scream out ""he/she is bipolar, first let us say "Ohh, look, they are Human," and give us a chance. Life is life and the men's wives they spoke of did bad things but to call them the filth they called them, well, the wife wasn't the only issue.