Bless People Who Hurt You: Forgiving Others And Quotes On Forgiveness

Words have the power to hurt too

I often think about the times when I have felt hurt and insulted by rude remarks from strangers and sometimes even from acquaintances. How does it feel to be at the receiving end of such insolent attitude? And for no fault of mine.

Strangely, I don't react in such situations. I feel deeply hurt, tears blind my eyes sometimes, unable to withstand the harshness of the words but I don't react verbally. Later when I narrate the incident to friends and family, I am usually reprimanded for "not having paid back in the same coin", which I have never been able to do so far in life.

Quotes on Forgiveness

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.”
Oscar Wilde


“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
Mother Teresa

Learning to forgive

What is the use of doing so anyway? If a person hurts you intentionally and you also react in a similar way, there will be nothing but hatred and enmity increasing between both of you. Moreover, what is the difference between you and the person who hurt you? Shouldn’t you be different from them and show that you are a class apart from them?


On the contrary, if you don’t react, the person hurting you will not find a chance to show more of his/her angry feelings against you. They’ll find it difficult to continue with their verbal attack on you and even become confused as to what to do next. This is because they expect you to retaliate, scream or at least curse under your breath for them to feel instigated and provoked to say something more rude or vicious.


Quotes on Forgiveness

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Mahatma Gandhi, An Autobiography: The Story of My Experiments with Truth


“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”
Alexander Pope, An Essay on Criticism


When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.
Bernard Meltzer


It takes two hands to clap

But when you become subdued while putting up a straight face clearly indicating that you have done nothing wrong, he/she would even feel ashamed (if not at that moment, later surely) by your silence and calm disposition. Passers-by who notice this will only see one person shouting or arguing and the other person quiet and composed. This will lead to the inference that the crazy man who is screaming his head off is insane.

Sometimes, the man screaming may be right if the other person standing in front of him puts his head down in shame indicating that he has done something wrong. But when you stand upright looking straight into the eyes of the screaming man, people know who is right. After a while, the person will start wondering what the topic was all about because there was absolutely no response from you. It will either put the person to shame or make him move away from the place angry and frustrated.

Quotes on Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
Mark Twain


“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”
Martin Luther King Jr.


“Keep in mind, hurting people often hurt other people as a result of their own pain. If somebody is rude and inconsiderate, you can almost be certain that they have some unresolved issues inside. They have some major problems, anger, resentment, or some heartache they are trying to cope with or overcome. The last thing they need is for you to make matters worse by responding angrily.”
Joel Osteen, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

The art of forgiveness

All religions advocate the principle of forgiveness. People of all races, color and creed live a life based on love and trust. Love and bless your enemies and you'll find them turning into friends. This is something I have personally experienced in my life.

Do good to people who try to harm you emotionally and you can be sure that they'll be put to shame by your act. Your act will confuse them no end, as not many people believe in such acts. Try it out once, you'll understand my point. This will make you happier and more peaceful in life. After all we need to be happy for carrying on our day-to-day activities in a smooth manner.

The world would be a much better place to live in if each one of us gave this concept a serious thought. Crimes will diminish and productivity will increase by adopting such an attitude. Smile and the world smiles back at you. May Love and Patience rule this world!! Wishing you inner peace all through your life!

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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

True wisdom in your words. If everyone follows this, there will be only peace and good will. I guess this comes with a lot of practice. Great hub, voted up and shared.


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

Very wise hub for sure to start the day with dear Rema.....

well job done. all votes up and I am sharing this too.


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

An awe-inspiring hub! Forgiveness is a real virtue that need to be practised worldwide for a better and peaceful world. Being forgiving helps one in attaining happiness and peace of mind. Once again, great food for thought! Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up & Shared on Facebook


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thanks Nithya for your kind words of approval. Glad you liked this hub. I am sure it can be done with a conscious effort and a lot of practice. Thanks for the votes and the share Nithya. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Deergha,

I am so glad you cam by to comment here. Glad too that you think it is good. Thank you very much for all the votes and the share.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Ishwaryaa for your lovely comment. It would be great if this world turned into a peaceful haven for us to live in! As you rightly said, forgiveness can bring about peace and happiness. Thanks very much dear for the appreciation. Cheers, Rema.


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Adept2012 4 years ago

thanks for sharing this


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Beautiful message Rema. I was raised that, "You catch more flies with honey." My mom always told me this and said just as you if you be nice to someone who hasn't been as nice to you will in the end confuse them and they should have nothing left to do harm to you with. Also, along these lines that if someone is sorry for their misdeeds and says they are indeed sorry that I should be big enough to forgive. So I can very much agree with the essence of your Hub article. Nicely said and done. Have of course voted, shared and tweeted as always!!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

An awesome act forgiveness is. Simple yet so difficult. With us, yet most of us are not able to give it. Doesn't require any effort or expense or time. Yet...

Wonderful hub. voting all the way up and across. Sharing .


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Adept for stopping by. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Janine,

As always, a beautiful comment from a beautiful person. I am so happy you think just like me, thanks to your wonderful mom. Thank you very much for all that you do for me by sharing and tweeting. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Rajan,

it is indeed very heartening to know that there are so many like-minded people who belong to the hub community. Yes, forgiveness doesn't require special skills except for a particular mindset. Once we develop that mindset, then everyone around us becomes our friend. Thank you very much for the wonderful comment and for the votes and share. Much appreciated. Cheers, Rema.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago

Thanks Rema...frankly, your topic grabbed my attention...bless people who hurt you. Learning to forgive is actually a tough lesson, still...we need to learn and I love Mother Teresa quote the most. Thanks again for the sharing Rema, be blessed...


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mrsromain 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

That is well said. I look for an increase to be able to be a blessing to others. It is a hard task but we all can forgive it takes time to heal from the hurt. Keep up the good work.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Injured Lamb for stopping by and sharing your views. Mother Teresa's quote is beautiful. Thank you for your kind words. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Yes mrsromain, it is no doubt a tough task to forgive, but something that can be achieved with the right mindset and a little practice. Thanks for the visit and your comment. Cheers, Rema.


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Icyents 4 years ago from Michigan

good reminder to everybody and thanks for sharing that thought to us.


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Wise words spoke well on such an important topic! I have learned that unforgiveness only breeds hatred, anger and sickness. Your have spoken what many need to hear in order to heal and continue a positive move forward in life. Voted up.


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Mama Kim 8 4 years ago

Love this hub, you are on smart lady! I've found forgiveness to be very freeing. This is a must share! Thank you


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Beautiful philosophy from a beautiful lady.

I love each of your well-selected quotes that were woven into this thoughtful essay. Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and yes it would be a wonderful world if forgiveness and human compassion were part of it. Great quotes.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Icyents,

Thank you for the comment. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Dianna, thanks for the appreciation. True, healing and positivity become easier when we learn to forgive. Thanks for the votes too. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Sasha for the lovely comment. Thanks for your input and the share. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Oh Maria,

I too loved the quotes that are likely to have an impact on those who read them. Here I have another beautiful lady posting a wonderful comment. Thank you for stopping by and for your strong support of my work. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Gypsy for the visit and for sharing your views on this subject. Nice to hear so many things from my wonderful hubber friends. Thanks again.

Cheers, Rema.


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girishpuri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

very much inspiring and words full of wisdom, the path shown by you is exemplary and beneficial for all, voted up.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you girishpuri for taking the time to visit and comment. Cheers, Rema.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Oh My word this is so good.. and so true. if you do not forgive it will make you sick.. bless you for writing this..

Matthew 18: 21 and 22 Peter asked Jesus:"How many times should I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?

Jesus said: I tell you, not seven times but seventy times seven.'

I love your love

sharing on prayer page

Debbie


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

"May Love and Patience rule this world!! " Your prayer is one we should all pray! This hub is more than inspiring, it is right on the money. There should never be an end to our forgiveness. You've worded it beautifully.

Voted up, useful, and awesome.


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sherrituck 4 years ago from Virginia

Forgiveness is essential to our overall well being. Thank you for this beautiful hub.


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Neil Sperling 4 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

Forgiveness is an amazing thing - it frees ones mind from spinning in unending circles of hate or anger. To forgive oneself is even more divine. Acceptance of others, as well as acceptance of self is the starting gate to learning.... without acceptance forgiveness is shallow and unreal.

I love your line - and I quote "After all we need to be happy for carrying on our day-to-day activities in a smooth manner."

Love - Light - Laughter

Neil


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

I agree, Rema, forgiveness sets you free from awful, negative feelings. It puts you above others who self-serve. It does not mean that you don't defend yourself. There are times when you do need to stand up to being bullied or treated unkindly. But it's the way you do it....forgiveness and showing them the right way to behave is one of them. You are right...it puts them to shame!! You have given me a lot to think about this morning!! Thanks for the write, which I share.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Great Hub. I always say "kill them with kindness". If someone is rude or inconsiderate, I think it's good to just be as nice and sweet to them as you can be. If someone slams a door in my face, I just smile and say, thank you very much!

I voted this Hub UP, will share.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Debby for your kind words and blessings. Yes, there is no limitation to forgiving people. We have to keep forgiving whoever hurts us. Thanks for sharing it too. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Oh, thank you very much Mary for your beautiful comment here. You are right, more than an act, it is a prayer that we should do regularly. Thanks for the wonderful input. Thanks for the votes too. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi sherrituck,

It is my turn to say thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Thanks. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thanks Neil for the wonderful comment. Hate and anger will ruin a person while love and forgiveness will nurture one. Very true, we should accept ourselves and the others, so forgiveness becomes meaningful. Thanks for the great input that has added value to this hub. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Michelle for your excellent views on this topic. Of course, when there are very serious things happening, we cannot just stand there and watch them do harm to us, this is where law comes in and we cannot handle everything in this way. This is only for the regular day-to-day things that happen in our life when we face insults from friends or outsiders. We cannot be dumb at the venue of a crime trying to practice this. We as humans have the capacity to differentiate the situations depending on their intensity. Good you brought up the bullying act to this discussion.

Thanks for the lively interaction Michelle and the share. Very kind of you. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Very well said Mary. Killing them with kindness is the right way to do it. I like your principle. Thanks very much for the votes and the share Mary. Cheers, Rema.


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Hyphenbird 4 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

Remaniki, this is a wonderful article. The power of forgiveness is the power of love in action. Refusing to retaliate is strength and that same act of love, empowered by knowing who we are. The killing with kindness thing is killing that spirit of anger, hate, frustration or whatever is going on in the attacker's heart. Indeed, this does not mean we bow to abuse, it means we respond instead of reacting. You are so wise and lovely.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Brenda,

Thanks for the compliment my friend. How beautifully you have expressed your views! Well said Brenda. Very true. Respond instead of reacting is another topic I want to write about with reference to a well-known person. That is a beautiful statement.

Thank you Brenda for the visit and the lovely comment. Cheers, Rema.


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yoginijoy 4 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

So true...it is hard not to react emotionally when someone hurts us, whether they meant to or not. Depending on the person, I usually say something like, I think you need a hug. Would you like one? Or if I don't know them well enough to do that, I mentally send them peace because they certainly need it. I have occasionally said out loud to folks when they are being very testy, and I love you also. And I use a very soft, calm voice. That completely disarms them--they think I'm nuts! But the objective is to get them to stop behaving so poorly and saying I love you shocks most people! Give it a try.

Peace.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

That's a wonderful thing to do yoginijoy. I am very glad you found this hub because now I know you. Very happy to meet you. Thanks for your great input. Cheers, Rema.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I'm a little late getting here Rema, but I finally made it, and I'm glad I did. What a great message....the title was perfect, and judging from all the comments the title got the attention of quite a few people. Well done my friend. Also, you are being mentioned in my hub on Saturday, so I hope you enjoy it.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you very much Bill for your kindness. I am glad you liked it; I feel elated when great writers like you encourage me by your appreciating comments. I feel honored.

Oh, very kind of you indeed for mentioning me in your hub -honestly, I don't think I deserve the honor- nevertheless I feel all the more motivated to write more and gain more knowledge and friends in the process.

This is the first comment I saw here early this morning and you made my day. Thank you my friend.

Cheers, Rema.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Rema,

Most of the people do not easily forgive people,and I was one of them. Life has taught me a lesson, we can find happiness when we learn to forgive people. Thanks for sharing inspiring quotes. I agree with your point of view.

Cheers


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Vinaya,

I'm so glad you think otherwise now and I am sure it helps a lot in life. Yes, we can certainly find happiness when we forgive people for their follies. Thanks for agreeing with my thoughts. Cheers, Rema.


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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India

If you can not forgive, ignore and forget.............


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ib radmasters 4 years ago from Southern California

The shoe is on the wrong foot.

Those that need your forgiveness, are the ones that need to ask, and change their ways.

God can forgive, I am not God.


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Highland Terrier 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

In my life people have said and done nasty things to me. But then I have too. None of us are angels. Most of the nastiness comes from peoples own pain. I know this because in general when I'm being a bitch to some one it is generally because I'm am completely stressed about something, overaught or just plain physically unwell.

So really if a friend or colleague gets a bit obnoxious I.d like to think I can take it and let it pass.

Still its a good sentiment you are expressing, if a little holier than thou.

voted up.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi HT,

I appreciate your honesty. And as you rightly said, none of us are angels, I do agree. But if you really try this method of being nice to people who are nasty to you, you'll certainly see a change in their behavior.

I have experienced this in life, hence this hub. Not to say I am an angel, but at least I have tried this (not for the sake of trying but genuinely) because it works well for me. And the thought that I don't have enemies (or so I think, ha ha) gives me peace.

The point I am trying to convey is this. Never take it out on others even if you are stressed or upset due to some problems. When we are calm despite our problems, the others will also learn from us hopefully.

Thank you very much for sharing your views on this topic. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Mahavir for your comment. Cheers, Rema.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi ib radmasters,

I am not sure how I can convince you that forgiving is not the work of God alone. We human beings are here on this planet with a purpose and why be egoistic and spoil our life by refusing others forgiveness when we can gain happiness and peace by blessing them?

This is my humble opinion and not a counter argument to your views. I think we'll become better human beings by learning to forgive.

Thanks for the input. Cheers, Rema.


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ib radmasters 4 years ago from Southern California

remaniki

It is up to their God to forgive them.

I think that forgiveness weakens us for further acts by people that will take advantage of those that forgive.

There are too many people out there that do acts against other people and the people don't even know that it is happening or who is doing it.

These are the people that appear to be your friends and use that closeness to take advantage of you. I didn't invent these people, they exist.

They are what they are, and we need to keep them as they are as examples of human nature.

Even the biblical God can't forgive, otherwise there would be no such thing as the original sin.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

forgiveness is what we do to ourselves to be free of hurt and hatred.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi unknownspy,

Thanks for your visit and the input. You are right. We should learn to forgive ourselves too. Cheers, Rema.


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RobinGrosswirth23 4 years ago from New York

remanili this is an interesting hub. I do hope it has worked for you. I think in theory it is a good master plan, but in life, it doesn't always turn out the way we thought it might. Many people, unfortunately, thrive on another's blood pouring from wounds. Many people have the power to unite together and in a group effort destroy another person. So, in a perfect world, these philosophies are great and I had always been an advocate of them, but I have seen too much and they now present a challenge. Thanks for these great quotes. I have savored them for years.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Hi Robin,

I am sure you have had some bad experience, so you sound angry and disappointed while talking about this subject. It has worked for me very well, it still works for me and I'm very confident that it will work for me in future too.

I agree that people have different experiences in life that makes them stick with certain beliefs. I am not saying that we should let ourselves be exploited- I am totally against this- but in general, blessing and forgiving work out very well and help us gain peace or so I believe. Thanks for the time to share your view point about this topic, much appreciated. Cheers, Rema.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi remaniki

I think the biggest challenge is forgiving ourselves especially when we let people who don't have our best interest at heart into our lives.

I had someone who tried to physically harm me. Forgiven, yes. Forget, no! I told a friend that I wish this man no harm but I wouldn't help him up if he was down.

Voted up

Take care :)


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Thank you Sueswan for stopping by and sharing your views. I agree with you when you say that you can't forget, no one can. But forgiving is the more difficult part. You have done that. Hats off to you for that. Cheers, Rema.


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mackyi 3 years ago from Philadelphia

Hey Rema, this article is absolutely beautiful! "Vengeance is mine, so I will repay sayeth the Lord." To paraphrase from the Holy Book "There will come a time when men will rise against you, prosecute you and say all manner of evil against you - forgive them for great is your reward in heaven." I could go on and on! The bottom line is, what goes around comes around, so you don't have to worry about those who try to hurt you - their day will come. No doubt about this!

Voted up awesome+, and deserves to be spread like wild fire!!! :-)


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remaniki 3 years ago from Chennai, India Author

Absolutely Winston. Their day will come, we don't have to do anything about their bad behavior. But I would like to go one step further and pray for their well-being. Once they know that we are not going to retaliate in any way, but bless them instead, they will feel so ashamed about it that it would be the worst punishment they have ever experienced.

Thank you very much for the beautiful views you have shared here. Thanks for the votes and the share too. Cheers, Rema.

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